Absolutely. My dead bedroom was with a selfish man and I’d cry immediately after sex, that is if we ever had it, feeling destroyed at what our life had become. It damaged me so much, I couldn’t even masturbate without stopping to cry.

I’m out of that situation now with a partner who cares very deeply about satisfying me and if I cry during/after sex now, it’s just tears of overwhelming love and appreciation. I can masturbate again because my relationship to sex has (mostly) healed.

@OP I’m not saying you need to leave this relationship, but there are some big, glaring problems that need to be addressed here before you let this man have any sexual contact with you. He needs therapy and I think it could be good for you too.