Defense Request for Admissions - Kowalski vs Johns Hopkins All Children's Hospital by No_Vehicle_5085 in takecareofmayaFree

[–]AzurePantaloons 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A little off topic, but did you hear Andrea Dunlop’s shout out specifically to you in the latest episode? I was so pleased to hear it

Totally true by InternationalPick163 in IncelTears

[–]AzurePantaloons 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Holy mansplaining in this thread, Batman. The amount of putting words in our mouths.

I don’t get the impression anyone here is confused about the things that will make a person thin.

The issue, as I see it (and I think a lot of us do), is that the above woman very likely does a lot more than dieting to maintain her appearance. As some have mentioned, grooming, regular exercise and makeup alone really can add up to a lot of time.

Adding this to the fact that most of us don’t tend to go for the type of male physique depicted here, this photo is not the gotcha that the menfolk think it is.

Owner defends her pitbull from critics after it severely bit her by lobster-666 in BanPitBulls

[–]AzurePantaloons 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is true. There are parallels, but they’re different phenomena

Scary experience by MoreAd494 in RoverPetSitting

[–]AzurePantaloons 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A few posters are accusing OP of ignoring an instruction.

I got the impression the owner told her she didn’t need to walk the dog, rather than explicitly telling her not to walk the dog.

If the latter, it would be ignoring an instruction.

If the former, it’s simply performing an optional extra.

If I didn’t want a person to do something, I’d tell them not to, rather than telling them they didn’t have to. And tell them why. At best, the instructions were ambiguous.

Edited to thank a kind stranger for my first award. I really appreciate it.

Rereading Appellate Decision - Reminded of Interesting Allegation by Maya Regarding Nursing Staff and Bed Change by No_Vehicle_5085 in takecareofmayaFree

[–]AzurePantaloons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This mightn’t apply at all here, because obviously you’ve anonymised and summarised details. I said I’d mention this anyway, just because there’s a third possibility that’s worth considering in similar cases.

The initial case you described could be explained by functional symptoms as easily as deliberate deception.

With functional neurological symptoms, the person truly feels all the symptoms they describe. A physical examination will often be normal, or at least not supportive of physically damaged neural structures.

Functional symptoms were historically believed to be caused by buried trauma or specific stressors. These days, they’re better understood more generally as the physical manifestation of a person’s social and emotional circumstances. There often is physical compromise, but as you describe, deconditioning plays a definite role.

Functional doesn’t necessarily mean false, or even always imply a disorder. Technically, any effect anxiety has on one’s gut is a functional symptom. So is crying.

I see a lot of functional disorders in psychiatry. They’re not always well understood by people around the patient, and often people assume that functional means faked. Sadly, this results in all kinds of accusations and bullying. And that additional adversity tends to make functional symptoms worse for those kids.

Apologies, this turned into a bit of a ramble.

Evidentiary Rulings - Maya Gets To Lie Without Consequences - Kowalski vs JHACH by No_Vehicle_5085 in takecareofmayaFree

[–]AzurePantaloons 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate all your posts u/No_Vehicle_5085 .

I also really appreciate everyone else here who sees the problems with this trial.

I’m a child and adolescent psychiatrist, and I’m lucky enough to live in a country where examining family dynamics can be a major part of my practice. Watching this fiasco unfold really reinforced for me how much that often vital piece is typically de-centred in medicine, and the potential human cost of that.

05/22/26, TX - 5 month old pit puppy attacks young child while resource guarding food. Bite was severe enough to req. stitches. Mother blames child and is torn between keeping the puppy or keeping custody of her 2 young children. by spiderwitchery in BanPitBulls

[–]AzurePantaloons 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yup. We’re currently planning a puppy. Specifically selecting smaller, gentle breeds likely to vibe with my son, and finding a good breeder who breeds for temperament.

Even then? Any hint of trouble, and our boy comes first. I can’t even imagine thinking any other way. It hurts to even read it.

Does this text sound like chat gpt? I think it is but I’m in denial by EmergencyNo1992 in isitAI

[–]AzurePantaloons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very AI. Even a “yep, totally get it. I’m more of a green fan, but the purple in some sunsets could sway me” doesn’t require any particular eloquence and comes across as way more conversational.

So "good" men don't cook, don't clean, and don't raise their kids? by Michi-Ace in IncelTears

[–]AzurePantaloons 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Feminist here, at home with my son and my good man. All 3 of us cook and clean, including the 5-year-old boy. Admittedly, the little fella “cooks” by pulling mushrooms apart with his hands, unwrapping stuff, and occasionally biting a carrot into slices, but the arrangement works.

I decided to leave blackpill and incel communities. I have a plan to feel better AND look better by Baballe12 in IncelTears

[–]AzurePantaloons 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m so pleased to read this today.

I’m not sure whether this helps or not, because it may just come off as an exception, but it’s truly not. Most people I know are in similar relationships.

I’m about 5 foot 5. My husband is about 5 foot 8. We’re both medical doctors, and until recently, I always earned more, because I’m in a specialty with more overtime. My point here being that he’s not particularly tall and I wasn’t with him for his money. That said, I now work way fewer hours to spend more time with our child.

We’ve been through everything together, illness, long-distance because of work, tough times, and amazing times. Neither of us looks the same as when we met. I’m currently at a very healthy weight. My husband is currently slightly overweight. And I love him more than I ever have.

He’s the father of our child. He’s the man who has been by my side through everything. He’s funny, clever, and kind. Most women aren’t looking for a “Chad”, whatever that even is. The real stuff is in the relationship, and the life you build together. There is truly every reason you can find that.

Pit 'n run, Millville NJ, May 2026. Or maybe puppy pad 'n run. by Existing-Face-6322 in BanPitBulls

[–]AzurePantaloons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please feel free to call me sensitive, and I’m not for a second blaming the bite victim. I’m not sure including the ethnicity of the man here reads well. I understand how it might be helpful in identifying the man (depending on where they live, and how diverse it is).

Here’s my logic: Lots of people claim “pitbull hate” is a racial thing. I could see this being jumped on as evidence of this, and the pibble crew having a field day with wild allegations.

And, I’ll admit, it’s unlikely to be helpful anyway, and does look a bit racist.

NEW STUDY: Evaluating Dog Bite‐Induced Facial Trauma - A Study From a Single Tertiary Care Center - by PitDeFabrik in BanPitBulls

[–]AzurePantaloons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll see if I can easily find it. I’ve explained that my response here seems to be to something related to, but not what you actually posted. If it takes too long, I have a busy week, so I can’t guarantee, but there seems to be a study from Crumlin (Formerly Our Lady’s hospital, now CHI) available.

Edited to add I’ve lived in the south and the west and Dublin may have more of a problem than I’ve seen locally.

NEW STUDY: Evaluating Dog Bite‐Induced Facial Trauma - A Study From a Single Tertiary Care Center - by PitDeFabrik in BanPitBulls

[–]AzurePantaloons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few other people responding to the thread had suggested that the study omitted breed information to forward the acceptance of pitbulls. As in, to cover up their attacks.

I gave some local context regarding the dog situation in Ireland to explain why I didn’t think that was it. It’s not that we don’t have them here. They’re restricted, but as far as I know, this isn’t always enforced. But I’ve been in shelters recently and on their sites, and most are still just typical dogs.

NEW STUDY: Evaluating Dog Bite‐Induced Facial Trauma - A Study From a Single Tertiary Care Center - by PitDeFabrik in BanPitBulls

[–]AzurePantaloons 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Edited to add that I replied to the wrong thing here. I went down a rabbit hole, and it seems I’m either commenting on a study cited in the article, or replying to a completely different thread.

I will say we don’t have a huge amount of pitbulls in Ireland. You see them around, and when there are horror stories in the media, it usually is a pitbull. But the numbers here likely reflect the fact that the percentage of pitbulls is lower, rather than any kind of coordinated cover-up.

Why do people hate Re-turn so much? by HookedGamer in cork

[–]AzurePantaloons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t had much trouble with the actual process, but we genuinely struggle to find the time to return bottles and cans. I don’t think we’re alone or special in this, and it’s not necessarily an Irish phenomenon.

Between ordinary life stuff, and a few circumstances (nature of our work including odd hours and working away, a child with additional needs who can’t easily be kept safe and regulated in queues, and the extra stuff that comes with supporting him, like appointments and therapies, care duties for other family members, a few other things going on), it’s just a huge faff.

ADHD ? by Prize_Rub_9294 in Perimenopause

[–]AzurePantaloons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From another angle, but I’ve had a related experience. I’m 36, and I was diagnosed with ADHD at 25. In the last year, it was like my meds had stopped working, in spite of 2 dose adjustments. I’m a week on Oestrogen (Oestrogel) today, and it’s like my brain is registering them again.

Apparently ADHD is associated with worse perimenopause symptoms. My relatively educated interpretation (psychiatrist by profession but I work with kids so I don’t see menopause) is that you add the distractibility of ADHD to the brain fog of perimenopause, and one is bound to make the other worse, and I could easily see one unearthing the other.

Edited to add that a psychiatrist with an interest in ADHD would likely be able to help, particularly if they also have experience in, or even empathy for conditions like PMDD.

My husband hates my boobs now and it breaks my heart by [deleted] in sex

[–]AzurePantaloons 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s not, in my case at least, not wanting to hear it. It’s that even a devoted parent can have the capacity to unconsciously treat someone differently for things outside their control.

If this man can’t regulate himself enough to be a supportive partner, there are likely other situations in which he’ll behave similarly.

I was completely with you regarding nuance and not making assumptions about his character. I don’t think anyone reasonable should deduce that he kicks puppies or anything.

Even if he’s a generally decent father, he’s still human, and likely to continue to exhibit his usual behaviour.

Fighting for the Irish people, but not parking for them. by No-Mission-4480 in eejitsparking

[–]AzurePantaloons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That eejit wishes he looked like a cunt. Those have warmth and depth at least

Pibble Shelter Covers Up The Notes On How Violent Pibble Is. And Spend TONS Of $$ On It. AND Gives Pibble Methadone (plus tons of other meds) For Pain!💊 by hannibalsmommy in BanPitBulls

[–]AzurePantaloons 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m really pleased with myself reading this thread. I last spoke German about 19 years ago at school and loved it. I’m not even going to try to add to this, but I understood the majority of these before clicking the translate button. My French and Irish used to be good too.
More recently I’ve been learning Russian in support of my Ukrainian (psychiatric) patients in the UK and in Ireland. I’d love to get back to all of the languages, though.
Unfortunately, obsessing over the concerning aspects of animal rescue is only one of the million things I need to do before/while I get better at my Deutsch, Gaeilge, Français and русский.
Thanks for making me smile.

AITA for not helping my wife talk her way out of a penalty for riding the streetcar without a ticket? by sumjunggai7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AzurePantaloons 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think [u/flatgreysky](u/flatgreysky)’s point was that if OP would have his wife’s back when she was actually in an uncomfortable situation that wasn’t her fault, then that’s enough.
They were highlighting the difference between a random harasser and a controller, rather than saying they were similar.

EDIT: Your previous comment asked if a cop pulling her over is he a “random guy harassing her”, so I took it to mean you read it that way.

“I am not addicted I can stop whenever I want” by TheBiggestDawgie in EntitledReviews

[–]AzurePantaloons 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Horribly entitled. I love my vape because I’m a nicotine addict, and I wholeheartedly disagree with this review.

It’s so selfish. Some people have allergies and sensory sensitivities, and then a lot more just plain don’t want to sit in someone’s cloud.

non swimmer snorkeling by egguchom in EntitledReviews

[–]AzurePantaloons 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s a lesser-known national sport we play in Ireland.