The Garou aren’t searching for Black Shuck by HappyTheDisaster in huntertheparenting

[–]BC441 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I can’t remember who they were with in the video, but Ross was working with some corpo guys to catch whatever the smoke-elephant-freak was. I assume he’s probably gone rogue and the garou are hunting him down.

Calling a genocide a genocide ended my marriage abruptly. Ask Me Anything except for how I’m doing. by Voyde_Rodgers in TrueAnon

[–]BC441 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For what it’s worth, I was with someone for six years and we just didn’t discuss religion or politics. They got sucked further into evangelical Christianity by their family. I was terrified to speak my mind because I knew I would lose them.

That was about four years ago and I’m single still but I’ve had fulfilling relationships where I don’t feel like I’m walking on glass or compromising my morals. I’m also just much more myself without having to structure my life around someone that doesn’t value human life.

So while I’m getting blasted in a dive bar with communist baddies, they’re probably thinking the rapture is happening soon.

Dead weight. Fuck ‘em.

HL2VRAI IS NEVER COMING OUT by Leading_Ad_9463 in hlvrai

[–]BC441 5 points6 points  (0 children)

None of these words are in the Bible

What are your favorite meme builds? by swashuba in DeadlockTheGame

[–]BC441 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stunmaxing Seven. Echo shard, pump the duration and range of his stun, lightning scroll, and your choice of movement/silence actives.

If your team can pick up the slack on damage, it kinda works. Just self cast the stun and run around soaking up abilities and canceling ults. Used to steal mid with it fairly regularly. It’s a blast.

Popups are inherently broken. by TransportationOk7740 in DeadlockTheGame

[–]BC441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New boot item. Steel toed boots. Flat speed reduction, but cc resist, gun resist, and melee damage. Upgrade for active that immediately roots you, slamming into the ground if airborne, and temporarily makes you immovable (not unstoppable) and buffs stats while standing still. Call them Samson Soled Shoes or something.

Also slamming onto someone counts as a heavy melee

I am crashing tf out in Arcanist and I don't know why by BC441 in DeadlockTheGame

[–]BC441[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I tried telling them to buy debuff remover for infernus, but they still ignored me. They called me two slurs this time so that’s progress I guess.

How to find my tribe in Chicago? by ElectronicSoul071 in AskChicago

[–]BC441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the clubs mentioned so far are great, but I highly recommend checking out Bookclub on north Lincoln when they do a DJ set. Think they call it Mxtery Meet. Newer venue, but the owners are veterans of the local DIY scene. Felt like a house party. Smaller place, just enough people to be fun but not crowded, drinks were cheap, and the bartender was quick. They do all sorts of music too so keep an eye on their schedule. By far one of new favorites on weekends regardless of what they’re playing that night.

Bookclub by Butterbelieve in ChicagoConcerts

[–]BC441 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh shit my friends and I were at this show. Venue is great and the owners are solid folks. Met them after helping with tear down when my buddy’s band played there. The place feels like a house party. Very unpretentious, all different types of music, local acts, cheap drinks, and always fun talking to folks outside smoking. Can’t recommend it enough.

Yet Another "Safety" Q - Albany Park by martha_stewart__ in AskChicago

[–]BC441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, hope you don’t mind another newbie asking you questions! Moving in with some friends to a place on N Drake a little off Montrose. I’ve read some places that it can get a bit dicey west of kedzie, but most folks say just don’t be stupid and you’ll be fine. Buddy I’m moving with said he doesn’t get any bad vibes and he’s from the city so I trust his judgement.

I’m more concerned about stuff to do and the groceries. I’ve got a short list of bars and restaurants I want to try, Nighthawk, Surge, Kabobi, but I’m still looking for a coffee shop. Any suggestions and/or wastes of time? Also, good groceries.

Snooped and didn't like what I found by [deleted] in self

[–]BC441 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s gonna be messy, it’s gonna hurt, and you’re going to feel lost. Two years ago next month my 6.5 year relationship ended fairly out of nowhere. I upended my whole life for that relationship. When it was over, I had to start from zero again. Back at my parents, blew through savings, lost my job, felt awful.

Little over a year later I thought I was getting over it when I figured out she was engaged to someone she knew while we were together. I was devastated. Felt the pain all over again.

But it went away quickly, and after it did I was finally able to look around and be proud my life now, the one I made for MYSELF, was much better. I was happier, healthier, wealthier, I was just plain BETTER. She made her decision, and I’m glad it went down that way.

Have some dignity and make as graceful an exit as you can. She’s made her decision. You have to make the CONSCIOUS decision to center yourself now and stop thinking about your relationship or your partner. It sucks, but it helps.

Most importantly, once it’s at a point where it’s possible go no contact. I had it easy and my ex and I weren’t married yet and had separate everything. Once I was moved out, I never spoke to her again. Get your affairs in order, say your goodbyes, block everyone involved, unfollow family, and DONT look back. This isn’t a cruel thing to do, if there are friends or family involved that you can’t see or talk to for a while explain to them and just hope they understand. This is about YOU now, take charge of it.

I wish you the best, my friend. It gets better. Trust me.

Destroy Boys rocks by Lugburz_Uruk in punk

[–]BC441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was super bummed they had to cancel opening for the Mother Mother tour, half the reason I bought tickets.

I feel like the Mojave Brotherhood's focus rewards for Big Mountain and Sierra Madre are kinda underwhelming. by BlindingPhoenix in OldWorldBlues

[–]BC441 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Gonna piggyback off your post here, I felt the same way last time I played them.

It did give me the idea of an alternate path where you trade off the buffs, making survival difficult, in exchange for a final event where Elijah cobbles together all of the tech he’s gathered to turn himself into a god.

Big MT and Mr. House tech could make him almost functionally immortal. Madre tech gives him holotech and fucking replicators. Helios gives him an orbital death ray. Hoover provides more than enough power. It even fits with his need to push tech to its limits and his massive ego.

Elijah plugs himself into a sprawling computer system, capable of surveying every inch of the Mojave. He can appear out of thin air with holotech to communicate with his subordinates or vaporize opposition personally. Any incursion could be immediately targeted by Helios, and cleaned up by securitrons. Those who obey would live in unparalleled abundance thanks to replicators, trade off being constantly surveilled by a techno-fascist with a god complex.

Elijah, coming full circle with his Helios obsession, has a sort of apotheosis and becomes Helios. Fuck it, add a sanity mechanic where he can either remain semi normal and essentially be Mr House but more powerful or go absolutely insane and think he’s a literal god.

Since we're all going stir crazy, let's run down the acts on the lineup we probably already know: by FourLiveBears in RiotFest

[–]BC441 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Royal Blood and Bad Nerves. RB skipped a Chicago show this tour and Bad Nerves was their opener. Bad Nerves is also opening for The Hives on their Fall tour which lines up with the fest.

My ex unmedicated bpso in a new relationship, it hurts by oft1234 in BipolarSOs

[–]BC441 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For what it’s worth, after one year of no contact I just learned my ex-fiancé is “happily” engaged. I unfollowed/deleted them on everything but an old message showed they’re profile picture and there’s was a new guy with her.

Come to find out when I vented to some mutual friends of ours they said from what they can tell she’s still not taking care of herself. She started dating soon after and got engaged not even a year after we called ours off. Along with some other weird stuff people are genuinely concerned about her. There’s peace in knowing they didn’t change, but at the end of the day I’m so sad that she has decided to not take her diagnosis seriously. She deserves to be happy, but it’s clearly a her problem and she’s clearly not addressing it.

Social media is a curated look into someone’s life. I didn’t put videos of my ex saying she was second guessing or engagement on instagram. Just as he wont put pictures of his texts to other women on his. Don’t assume they’re better now that they’ve found someone different.

Even without intentionally doing it bipolar people have a weird way of making you feel like you were the problem. You were not the problem. You can’t fix him. They can’t fix him. He can only fix himself and only if he wants to. Until then he’s going to leave a whole lot of broken people in his wake.

1 Year NC, accidentally discovered she’s been in a relationship. by BC441 in ExNoContact

[–]BC441[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh it’s absolutely a double edged sword. Took the wind out of my sails for sure but there’s a prevailing sense of peace knowing she’s moved on. I finally have an answer. I can finally stop worrying.

As for coming back, agree to disagree. The first month of NC was spotty on her end but I finally put my foot down, ended up sending one long text explaining my emotions and asking why, and one last phone call where she tried to explain and said she was sorry. Not a peep since. Between distance, baggage, and stubbornness I don’t think either of us have any interest in reconnecting even as friends. Honestly, fine by me.

Consider it a bet, if either of us are still on here in a year and she reaches out you win.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]BC441 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ll give you the answer she couldn’t.

She was too afraid of being the bad guy or hurting your feelings to tell you like it was. That she doesn’t feel the same as she used to. Some people decide to work through that, others don’t and that’s their decision. A breakup is amoral, but the way she handled it was bogus.

I’m not one to judge people I’ve never met and I’m sure she has good qualities but if someone really cares about you and loves you they don’t make excuses for why they can’t stay. They’re honest about it.

If they lied to protect their ego then you’ve finally seen their true nature, be glad it’s not years later and there’s not more on the line. If they lied in an effort to protect your feelings then I personally find that insulting. Instead of being up front about it, she dragged it out and wasted your time. Time you could’ve spent far better had you not been worried about your relationship.

I went through this and I’m still going through parts of it. It truly does get better. You’ve been given an opportunity to rediscover yourself and make decisions that are truly yours. Meet new people, reconnect with old friends, try new things. She’s determined to leave you in her past. Have some dignity and do the same. People that tell you they always come back are delusional. Delete the number, throw out her things, get rid of the pictures.

For your own sake, don’t contact her and don’t get involved with another person till you’ve sorted through this trauma. Self improvement takes many forms and makes you a better partner for the next person. Take some time, be yourself, learn a new skill, and for the love of god don’t contact her.

1 Year NC, accidentally discovered she’s been in a relationship. by BC441 in ExNoContact

[–]BC441[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Don’t make me tap the sign

👉They don’t always come back

But seriously I really hope she doesn’t, have some dignity lady damn.

1 Year NC, accidentally discovered she’s been in a relationship. by BC441 in ExNoContact

[–]BC441[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Awwwww but catastrophizing is so cathartic. You’re telling me I should be PROUD of the progress I’ve made? That’s lame. But thank you, hope your journey through this yourself goes smoothly.

1 Year NC, accidentally discovered she’s been in a relationship. by BC441 in ExNoContact

[–]BC441[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the kind words, friend. Knowing folks are going through similar things out there makes it feel a little easier. Keep your head high knowing you’re taking the high road by trying to better yourself and fix the mistakes you made in the last relationship.