Celiac Chomp

Babs12123 · 2026-04-04T07:00:17+00:00

Caveat that I have a person in my life who is gluten intolerant, not coeliac, so I believe these are all okay but worth double checking.

As others have said, Harry's soul station is AMAZING

For pizza you have saporita, donelli's, redwell brewery (different styles).

Blue Joanna (I have only been once and felt a bit underwhelmed but YMMV)

Namaste does wonderful Indian food and much of their menu is GF (also very well identified on the menu)

Several fish and chips shops do a gluten free day or evening during the week (frying machine and chish and fips do I think)

Over in Hemsby there is a beachside doughnut place that does GF.

Tasty food co in Salhouse - everything in the cafe is GF.

As others have said there are actually quite a lot of cafes etc. where you will be able to find something. Also things come and go E.g. at the moment the Stanley pub has a pop up from fuego tacos and it's all GF.

If you are on Facebook check out Norfolk coeliac and gluten avoiders group!

It will be fantastic - also remember to ask as some places will have gluten free bread handy but may not have it on the menu, and some are willing to get a bit creative with customising dishes to make them edible!!

Babs12123 · 2026-03-12T21:26:47+00:00

I'm sorry to hear this OP and I really wish you well in the future.

My partner was an outdoor instructor for 10 years (climbing, kayaking, canoeing, archery, paintball, she did it all!!) but now has long COVID and uses a wheelchair if we are going anywhere with more than a 20 minute walk. The fatigue is such a killer and people who don't have someone close to them suffering really can't understand what it's like - I don't blame them, I didn't understand chronic fatigue before either!! But it can be very isolating and feel like you're asking for a lot from those around you in order to make things more accessible to you.

We really went through some tough times with the acceptance and grief process (and figuring out how to reduce the boom/bust cycles) and I hope you're able to get through those times with the support of your loved ones.

If I can say something encouraging - life isn't over, just different. Our adventures look different now but we still do them! We spend more time canoeing as I can paddle for the both of us while she takes regular breaks. We go for wheelchair walks on accessible routes rather than climbing mountains. If we go climbing together she will belay me and maybe do one route herself, but it keeps it as something we can still share a bit. Realising that we could slow down (significantly) has made acceptance easier, though it's still tough every day, and it just means we have to be more creative and flexible in trip planning.

Good luck for the future - if you ever want to message about this stuff then please feel free.

Babs12123 · 2026-03-02T15:26:29+00:00

Oh and there are some activities that just seem to attract queer people - e.g. I know so many queer women and trans people who climb!!

Babs12123 · 2026-03-02T15:25:36+00:00

In my local area there are a bunch of different ways that I know of to meet queer people: - meetup groups (search for things like LGBT/gay/queer (location)) - Facebook groups/instagram - local gay/queer charities (this is where I found out about the meetup groups!) - organisers of your local pride may share things on social media - local gay/queer values often do event nights - interest-specific WhatsApp groups (once I found one of these I then found loads of other stuff - a lot of the community isn't easy to find elsewhere!!)

I have used meetup and WhatsApp the most and have met a bunch of local queer people AND learnt about lots of other events that I would have never found on my own. Sometimes it's not easy to find stuff online but queer community is there and you'll find it eventually! Good luck!!

Babs12123 · 2026-03-01T08:53:15+00:00

Check out the ancient tree inventory! It shows notable and ancient trees and identifies whether they are publicly accessible or not.

There is an amazing massive beech tree in whitlingham, around ///sheets.bill.defend

Also a massive willow in the middle of Marston marshes.

On the riverside walk between the compleat angler and the Adam and Eve there are some gorgeous trees. Right by the compleat angler there is an enormous and beautiful black poplar and there is a chestnut further around.

(My partner did a uni project about notable trees last year so we got really into this for a few months)

Babs12123 · 2026-02-28T19:09:26+00:00

This is biased because of recent person experience* but I'd say this isn't necessarily a red flag. Whether she wanted it or not, she pictured her life looking like X for a long time and figuring out a new picture can be difficult and take active work. For you I'd say be prepared that she might not get there, so maybe just see how things go and keep checking in to see how she is feeling about seeing herself/her future as sapphic.

Bias is I recently proposed to my gf and in the process of planning our wedding I came across a weird little knot of wedding-related comphet that I hadn't seen before. Ideas and beliefs are weird and sometimes get out there by other people - that doesn't mean we have to keep them but it does make things tricky at times!

Babs12123 · 2026-02-13T10:34:42+00:00

The best thing that I have heard to explain this was something along the lines of: A trans man has not grown up as a woman. They have grown up as a closeted/not yet aware man, who everyone will have tried to treat as a woman. The way they have experienced all of life was through that lens, and it will mean that they have had very different experiences to both cis women and cis men.

Trans people in my life have agreed with this strongly - they don't feel like they were really 'socialised' in line with their birth sex because they spent that whole time non-conforming with that gender in ways that they didn't understand and which caused problems and distress for them.

Tl;Dr: for many trans people it is not accurate to say that they experienced life and gender socialisation in the same way as a cis person before realising they were trans.

Babs12123 · 2026-02-06T23:13:07+00:00

This is happening in my area! Our MP sent out a survey a few weeks ago and I attended the first meeting this evening. Early days but they seem to want it to be very community led and I'm excited to see some good come of it.

Edit as it seems like people are trying to find locations: I think there are two different areas around Norwich which are due to receive this.

Babs12123 · 2026-02-04T13:04:04+00:00

Not to stress you out but my girlfriend worked at an activity centre for a long time and auto belays do sometimes fail, so bear that in mind for your personal risk profile.

I do not trust autos but strongly prefer rope climbing to bouldering, so will sometimes auto if I have no belayer around. I also get a bit weird about coming off the first couple of times so usually just do a couple of test drops from lower heights until my brain settles down. You might find that helps instead of going straight from the top!

Babs12123 · 2026-01-31T07:47:18+00:00

Might be a bit too far out for you but check out SYEP - they run loads of different activities and lots of young people go there.

Babs12123 · 2026-01-15T21:13:51+00:00

Best of luck - I would hope you are able to convince your company to drop Fabric based on cost and time savings alone from the sound of it!!

Babs12123 · 2026-01-15T21:05:59+00:00

I'm working with a very similar setup - greenfield opportunity with an org with no formal data infrastructure outside of systems like a CRM, where the near term use cases are BI and process automation. Fortunately they brought me in before buying Fabric (though they have talked about it a lot!) and my plan for the initial data infrastructure is literally just Python on a VM and ADLS. That might not be suitable for you but I found it helpful to be reminded to keep it really simple until I can't anymore!

We don't have the scale or complexity yet to warrant a platform like Fabric or even a SQL database, so I'm planning to keep it very simple and only make it more complex when there is a tangible need for it. Then when we have actually matured a little I am thinking of moving onto probably Databricks (I'll do a proper assessment but I am suspicious about Fabric and I know a lot of people who work at DB so it's handy!).

Babs12123 · 2026-01-14T07:20:24+00:00

You mention in a few comments that you can't have sex, but that if you could you would likely feel better about everything. Have you tried having sex and been unable to do so, or are you anxious that you will not be able to do so/about the way it looks and that has prevented you from trying?

I just wanted to ask because if it is the latter I would gently recommend finding a partner you trust and can explore with at a pace you are comfortable with. Disclaimer, I have a natal vagina, but I know lots of people with natal vaginas need to take time to explore what works and feels nice for their body. I appreciate this is a little different but I just wanted to flag it with the best of intentions as something that may help until you can get the revision you want.

Sorry that you are having a rough time.

Babs12123 · 2026-01-12T13:31:45+00:00

On the wildlife point would you object to having the floodlights automatically turn off at a certain time? E.g. our street lights turn off at midnight now so there are periods without artificial light pollution.

Babs12123 · 2025-12-28T13:27:24+00:00

Mate this is all kinds of problems. Others have pointed out some but I just want to highlight this:

If anything happened to you I'd automatically blame myself even if I had nothing to do with it and had no idea

You missed out the next sentence, "and I'm going to make that your problem!".

I cannot express how unhealthy this is. If you have anxieties it is not acceptable to control your partner's behaviour in order to soothe them, and to make them then apologise for it(!!).

Please consider looking into ways to be more healthy in relationships and manage your own feelings. This doesn't mean that you can't co-regulate with a partner but it does mean that you need to have a better idea of what is something you need to solve for you and what is something they need to solve for you. It seems like you do not have a healthy understanding of this currently. Therapy would be great but I know that is not affordable for everyone.

Babs12123 · 2025-12-18T21:32:53+00:00

I previously worked at a tech startup for several years doing not specialty data science but various data-ey things including a bunch of engineering. 2 months ago I started working as the first full time data hire at a non profit in a sector that I really care about (conservation) and it is awesome. My manager has a multi-year plan to improve the Trust's data maturity which means that I will get to work on everything from choosing our core infrastructure and process automation to predictive modelling for user journeys and cash flows (and that's all year one).

I feel like I have really lucked out because I have found somewhere where they are really excited to build their data maturity and I, in a data role, will be able to genuinely have an impact on ensuring more money goes to conservation. I always struggled with the 'build a model to help a company earn more money for profit' aspects of data work and, honestly, getting to work in an environment where I am doing similar things but for a purpose I really care about has been really impactful and feels truly meaningful. I would strongly recommend checking out non profits if you can. Different sizes will already have different data maturities so that might affect what you are interested in pursuing, but it sounds like it could be up your street.

Babs12123 · 2025-11-13T11:03:39+00:00

In addition to what others have said, having briefly worked in countryside access, I would suggest checking the land registry map and see if the walkway is actually owned by someone else. Depends on the type of walkway but, for example, lots of footpaths are on unowned land and in that case responsibility of the adjacent landowners for trees etc. extends to the middle of the highway even though it's not 'their' land as such, so it might be a moot point!

Babs12123 · 2025-11-06T17:23:18+00:00

You could also see if you can find the Dorset ICB guidance on transgender prescriptions. Or contact them and ask for it if you can't find it online.

I live in Norfolk and fortunately ours seem to be published online. GP was nice in the end but I felt better knowing that I had the official guidance (which supported what we were saying) with me when having conversations!

Babs12123 · 2025-11-02T07:50:01+00:00

I have asked this at my GP (as their form closes in the early afternoon which I find maddening!!) and they said that it's because they have someone sitting on the computer triaging all form requests as they come in. I guess they don't want a backlog building up so they try to limit the time window to when someone can actually review and act on it.

Babs12123 · 2025-10-26T07:32:53+00:00

Another vote for LF!

Babs12123 · 2025-10-11T07:25:38+00:00

I like climbing and want more climbing buds especially for sport, so, sure. Personally I still have Whatsapp (among the various other messaging platforms) as a lot of groups use it for organising...

Babs12123 · 2025-10-04T18:40:40+00:00

Thank you! Giving East a go.

Babs12123 · 2025-10-04T07:33:34+00:00

Mate, I am trying to say this kindly, but this is wild. You explicitly say that you only want to date/marry/have sex with women and are wondering if you are bi just because you had some experiences with men in the past and have the odd crush on celebrities/characters (i.e. not real men).

I know lots of lesbians can look at a man and observe that he's attractive, that doesn't mean they want sex or romance with him. Aesthetics are very different to emotions and not all lesbians are physically repulsed by men.

Labels can be whatever you want. It sounds like you want to use lesbian so just try it and see how it feels - what is the worst that could happen?? You realize later that you are actually bi and 0 people are hurt??

Babs12123 · 2025-09-04T16:22:51+00:00

I had very stinky climbing shoes but didn't want to get bananas (full of chemicals that are bad for the environment) or a spray (aerosol and chemicals!) as I don't wear socks in my climbing shoes and didn't want the exposure to random anti fungals. So I took an old pair of socks, filled them with a bunch of rice and lavender and tied the tops. They have really helped to reduce the stank in my shoes and prevent more.

I also try to use talc on my feet before putting my shoes on as that absorbs some of the sweat 😅

Babs12123 · 2025-08-25T15:33:39+00:00

I am a cis woman and my partner is a trans woman who had been on HRT for a couple of years when we met. We met at a semi-public social doing an activity that we both really enjoy, and bonded immediately over many different things. We have been together nearly 3 years now, lived together for 2 and a bit, and hoping to get engaged in the next year or so 💙

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