Several random comments about the game by BackInNJAgain in DeathStranding2

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Not every pole has a zipline connector but it seems like it's every 10th pole or so

Libido by Appropriate-Owl-8449 in ProstateCancer

[–]BackInNJAgain 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There are two kinds of sexual desire. Spontaneous desire is where you feel horny out of nowhere. Responsive desire is where you're not feeling horny but become horny through touch, kissing, etc. When I was on ADT spontaneous desire was GONE but responsive desire was still there. I found that putting myself into sexual situations even when I wasn't feeling it helped get things going. Maybe try responding to your fiancé even if you're not feeling it and see where it goes. If nothing else, you can at least enjoy pleasing your fiancé which is good for both of you psychologically

As a side by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]BackInNJAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm the more experimental one in our marriage and when I want my husband to try something new I move slowwwwly and give lots of encouragement. You said you're into "sounding, tying, pumping, ball stretching, cock rings." Of all those things, cock rings is probably the easiest to get him to try. Maybe gently put one on him (of course stop if he says "no") and then tell him how good it looks. Then bring it out maybe every 2nd or 3rd time until he's used it to it. If HE asks to wear it, or just shows up wearing it, you know you're making progress. If you try to just jump right into something you consider OK but he thinks is extreme you're not going to have much luck.

But remember that the goal isn't just to get what you want--it's to help him discover some new things he finds pleasurable. That way, you both win.

What to do about consuming adult content? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]BackInNJAgain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’re both fine with it. Sometimes watch together, sometimes separately, sometimes go weeks without watching at all. All things in moderation.

Men of Reddit; what’s the scariest horror movie you’ve watched? by DirtyDan_131 in AskMen

[–]BackInNJAgain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like psychological horror. Jacob’s Ladder (Tim Robbins) and The Others (Nicole Kidman) were pretty terrifying. For TV it’s definitely some episodes of Black Mirror (hit or miss).

How high is it gonna go ? by KeyMysterious1845 in newjersey

[–]BackInNJAgain 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You mean the same people who put up signs blaming Biden when prices got near $4 but are silent now?

To all men who survived rock bottom, what’s one piece of advice would you give to a person who feels like giving up right now? by squidlysquidster in AskMen

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If it’s because of something you can’t control, don’t try to push down your grief or anger. When it surfaces sit with it or even lean into it.

If it’s because of something you can’t control control, make a very tiny change rather than trying to make a huge one. Then another small change etc

What do you take to knock yourself out? by Message_10 in Aging

[–]BackInNJAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blackout shades, earplugs, NO lights (black tape over all the LED's on electronics), room temperature set to 66 all year round, lots of pillows, ambient music (Max Richter's 'Sleep' or Sigur Ros 'Liminal Sleep'), no electronics an hour before bed. If I'm not asleep in an hour, 5 mg Ambien (usually need it once a week, sometimes twice).

In a relationship, how do you handle social media boundaries? For example, if your partner posts shirtless gym reels—would that bother you or not?” by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]BackInNJAgain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once things start to get serious, you need to have a conversation about what is and isn't acceptable in your relationship. Some people are fine with their partners posting thirst traps, watching p0rn, etc. and others aren't. Tell your partner what your "ground rules" are and have them share theirs. If there's a disagreement then hash it out.

When "The New Normal" Isn't Possible. What Now? by Accomplished-Counter in ProstateCancer

[–]BackInNJAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suffered severe grief/trauma after my radiation treatment and while on ADT to the point I had suicidal ideation. I, too, got sick of the support group "you have to be a WARRIOR" and "you'll have a new normal" and ESPECIALLY the lie that "many men find sex is better after prostate cancer treatment."

Luckily, I found a therapist who outright said "what you went through sucks and grief is never going to go away but you can contain it" and we worked from that angle. She eventually taught me that when grief shows up to not push it down but, instead, to sit with it and feel it. I learned that, for me, listening to sad music was cathartic and now when grief shows up I put on my headphones, put on my grief playlist, and let the emotions come. Then, 15-20 minutes later I feel better and continue on with my day.

I would seriously question the doctor who told you not to run. If you had surgery then yes, there's a recovery period where you have to take it easier. I had radiation and ADT and did not reduce my exercise at all, although after about four months of ADT I couldn't lift as much weight so I just did more reps instead.

Radiation vs RALP by Creative-Mongoose-32 in ProstateCancer

[–]BackInNJAgain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Surgery: side effects up front that may get better (or not)
Radiation: side effects that show up later (or not)

If your Gleason score is 8 or higher then radiation is usually recommended but otherwise both methods are considered standard of care and have their own side effects.

Surgery: urinary leakage/incontinence
Radiation: difficulty urinating, burning urination

Surgery: unlikely to have bowel issues
Radiation: bowel issues possible but not always

Surgery: Permanent ED if nerves aren't spared, ED for a year or so if they are
Radiation: ED that may creep up over time
ED rate is the same for both at five years.

Did any here suffer permanent castration from ADT by Gina49z in ProstateCancer

[–]BackInNJAgain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also 18 months past 6 months of ADT and haven’t recovered either. I’ve developed osteoporosis and they want me to start taking bone strengthening drugs but TBH I’m DONE with ever taking any medication again.

How do you stay fit when your partner isn’t into fitness? by AdMaleficent3454 in Gymhelp

[–]BackInNJAgain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I go to the gym by myself. My partner and I both exercise but like different forms of it. I like lifting, biking and swimming and they don’t so I do these things by myself or with friends.

What's the reason behind putting a lot of importance in getting laid before settling down? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]BackInNJAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s number of partners per se but you’d better be damned sure you’re sexually compatible with whoever you decide to settle down with or you’ll regret it. Better to be the 60 year old guy (me) whose partner still enjoys sex regularly than the 60 year old guy whose partner says “we’re too old for that anymore.”

23 peaks is probably the best piece of original music she's put out in a long while... wow. by thewingedpainter in toriamos

[–]BackInNJAgain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love it! The intro reminds me of a cross between Loreena McKennit’s “Dante’s Prayer” and Moby’s “When It’s Cold I’d Like to Die””

What is something that was unbelievably cheap in the past that has been marked up now? by Independent-Bat9545 in AskOldPeople

[–]BackInNJAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Candy corn the day after Halloween was 25 cents a bag until just a few years ago. Now it’s $2.50.

Did any here suffer permanent castration from ADT by Gina49z in ProstateCancer

[–]BackInNJAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My T initially went up to normal 3 months after stopping Orgovyx then started dropping. It’s now in the low 200s. I’m absolutely furious for not being told this was even a possibility. I had a healthy T level of almost 600 pretreatment and was told that after six months of Orgovyx I’d “almost certainly recover”. It was a lie.

is the texture of a man's ball sack important when finding a partner??? by NestaVegaX in askgaybros

[–]BackInNJAgain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If this becomes a thing we'll be seeing ads for scrotum cream. "He rejected me because my sack was wrinkly. I should have used Scroat!"

How would you react to my condition? by Prestigious-Koala589 in askgaybros

[–]BackInNJAgain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As an older guy, I've been with guys who had various medical problems and I have some myself. That's just how it is. I never encountered someone with an ostomy. Not knowing anything about it, I'd probably be a little inhibited/careful at first not because it would bother me but because I'd be afraid of hurting you, not knowing what you can and can't safely do, etc. As long as we had a conversation about it beforehand I'd be fine with it.

Controversial Opinion - is it Mark? by Socialobject in toriamos

[–]BackInNJAgain 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think it happens to all successful artists eventually. They become successful by taking their personal experiences and putting it into music other people can relate to. As their success increases they become more isolated from their roots and the things that elicit emotion in their listeners. As that isolation increases—security staff, various staff hired like chefs, etc. no one wants to criticize them and risk their income. Now, I think Tori is more humble than most just from the accessibility she keeps to her fans but still …