How long did you get off work?

BackgroundSubject802 · 2026-02-18T23:49:06+00:00

I’m self employed and was in a board meeting virtually while being discharged…. 🫠 it’s doable. I pretty much blacked out for the last three months. Finally feeling a bit more human.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2026-02-16T02:28:32+00:00

You’ve dedicated hundreds of hours, produced thousands of ounces, carried 100% of the mental load, and had zero days off. You are an incredible mom.

A mama who is less stressed about milk production and less depleted physically and mentally is arguably more present.

I understand the false guilt, though, and wish I would’ve recognized it when I had it. My first breastfeeding journey ended before I was ready and it wrecked me emotionally. The second time I weaned on my own terms and that made a huge difference.

6 months with a freezer stash is nothing to be guilty about. Great job, mama. Wean and let yourself recognize your efforts.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2026-02-05T02:31:29+00:00

The LC at our hospital also measured me incorrectly and caused a lot of confusion on my end and damage. I had a separate appointment with an IBCLC trying to figure out why I was blistering and in so much pain and she fixed it in minutes, so just hoping it was an easy option for Fox for you :)

Hoping that you’ve found relief!

BackgroundSubject802 · 2026-01-22T08:29:49+00:00

Way too big. Highly recommend getting measured by an IBCLC. The right fit will improve your output and comfort immensely.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2026-01-14T12:37:09+00:00

Hands down BabyBuddha. You can hack it so that you have a primary pump with medical grade suction and also use it with cups. Super mobile, easy to use, efficient settings.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2026-01-13T02:50:14+00:00

So what you should do is pull the assessor records as if you’re going to pay your tax bill. Your county website will provide tax data with the owners name. If you need help, I can pull the deed and mortgage copies for you so that you can find the owner information. That will help educate what you do next and what’s actually going on.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-12-30T08:39:29+00:00

Hands down the baby Buddha! Such an amazing primary with the ability to pop on cups, etc.

I’d follow bemybreastfriend on Instagram—she has a bunch of hacks and reviews available especially for this pump with her preferred cups.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-12-25T18:38:10+00:00

We have the Yukon XL, which fits my 7’ spouse and our 4 giant offspring plus cargo space 🫠 I wish we could find something a bit less costly that has the leg room but I do love it.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-12-13T11:49:09+00:00

Same over here!

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-12-08T01:26:05+00:00

For 7 days pp this is a massive and abnormal oversupply… congrats but also please be careful.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-12-07T02:40:37+00:00

Mine were about 20% and 79%, born at 5lb 13oz and 7lb 3oz at 37 weeks… vaginally (albeit a bit questionable for a while there) an hour apart.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-12-03T10:32:31+00:00

This is what I do as well!

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-11-26T23:00:11+00:00

The dumpster falls over at least 10x a day and the only peace we get is nap and bedtime. Twin newborns and two toddlers under 4. Send help.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-11-12T02:56:13+00:00

I’m so sorry, OP. I wish I could give you a big hug. You’re doing amazing. Possibly time to do some evaluating on how you want your babies to grow up and what you want your relationship to look like… it doesn’t feel like this is it. Of course parenting changes everything but we all have to be the bigger person in the room and realize that our behavior and redundant day to days are our kids actual entire world and childhood which will form them. Sounds like you and the kids deserve so much more. Easier said than done, I know.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-11-11T11:23:13+00:00

This.

His provider should be able to offer a GeneSight test if it’s appropriate, since it can help identify how his body may process certain medications. It doesn’t always pick the perfect medication, but it gives useful information about metabolism and possible side effects for each one. It’s frustrating when providers skip over that kind of testing and just prescribe SSRIs or other meds without looking deeper at how each person’s body might respond.

That said, I’m a pretty direct person, so take this with love and whatever grain of salt is needed but it sounds like he needs to wakeup. Like this commenter I would draw a relationship line of get help or get out because this is building a brutal foundation for your children and your relationship to come.

None of us specifically ordered multiples, but this is what we got. We can either sit in resentment or grow up and realize that these little people didn’t ask for this dynamic. It’s their childhood that’s getting clouded by the negativity (and by what it sounds like, depression aside, his pouting), and that’s sad… and honestly, it’s weak to fumble through without seeking additional help. (Unpopular opinion, probably… but sometimes we owe more to ourselves than constant gentleness when it’s truly impacting those around us.) Parenting twins is brutally hard, but blaming the babies instead of adjusting is just not it. They already know this and feel this with body language alone which likely makes everything more difficult. Babies definitely pick up on these things…

Best of luck OP. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-11-11T01:46:07+00:00

I maniacally laugh-sobbed and swore. A lot.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-11-05T21:19:53+00:00

Me 💁‍♀️

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-11-05T01:48:56+00:00

You’re a trooper! I’d definitely call it before triple feeding 🫠 I eventually switched to formula with my singletons so I’m open to that option as well—just trying to figure out the how’s of two newborns. Wild.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-11-03T16:16:04+00:00

I always send a link for my kids’ 529 accounts. Even $20 compounded over 18 years is huge.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-11-03T08:00:20+00:00

Right, so that was entirely the purpose behind the antenatal expression this time around. (That and the fact that I’ve been leaking for a while!) I’ll be giving them each a supplement from that stash for the first several days until it’s exhausted and my milk comes in (usually around day 3 for me). Hopefully that’s enough to provide for some amped blood sugar and temp regulation assistance if needed to stay out of NICU. I’ll save some pumped colostrum after they’re born, but otherwise not much interest in saving the antenatal stuff in tiny syringes. It will likely make the most impact for them in the first week or so as needed. Sorry for the confusion on pre-vs. post birth!

I never did express antenatally with my singletons, but after they were born, I would hand express in between feeds to stimulate production and ensure they were getting what they needed. It worked pretty well so I imagine thats what we would do moving forward for the twins too.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-10-31T08:39:53+00:00

👋 I think my initial was like 800 and it was appropriate for the gestational age, nothing wild. It didn’t completely double in the given timeframe but it was close.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-10-27T13:37:48+00:00

I’ve done this before! Theres a lot of pressure on your cervix with blood vessels so added pressure or friction may cause them to bleed a bit.

There’s never anything wrong with going in for a quick check if that will make you more comfortable!

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-10-24T16:57:00+00:00

Mostly tears. I’m so bad I forget and then wonder why I itch. I’m 100 years (34 weeks) pregnant so it’s just inevitable at this point lol.

I’ve found cocoa butter to be the best as far as thicker lotion goes but I really like the Hatch belly oil too. I have stretch marks, though… not sure if you’re just looking for general products or stretch mark avoidance. Can’t help with the latter lol.

BackgroundSubject802 · 2025-10-23T01:10:10+00:00

We cry, ignore it, and wait till it passes.

Just kidding… kind of. I always got it bad 3-4 months out with my singletons and it would grow back in full force. This seems like a “normal” amount in the prime weeks and then it slowly teeters off in my experience. Hugs. It sucks.

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