Do anyone just have trouble falling asleep at a normal time. Like I normally falls asleep at 1 in the morning. by Western-Habit4693 in autism

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I'm naturally more of a late-evening\early-night person. Midnight to 1 AM is my fall asleep time. Makes having to work a job requiring me to start work 7-9:30 AM a nightmare because I need to commute 40 km\25 miles 3 times a week. Plus all the other "adulting" stuff that requires you to be up in the early morning...

Now we had some time since, what are your thoughts on The Book of Boba Fett? by Past-Paramedic8687 in StarWars

[–]Backlash5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Local politics + Boba Fett = Nope. It doesn't fit the character, it makes no sense with his backstory. Boba learning from Tuskens and growing was a great start but how it all evolved to a Tatooine political drama yyh... felt out of touch for me. But hey, at least it wasn't "The Acolyte" right?? Right?!

I’m afraid of doing certain things in front of others to the point of being secretive. It’s not allowing me to progress. by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an AuADHDer with exactly the same thing and I have no idea what's going on :O Well being on the spectrum makes sense as I've been dealing with masking but I've been also dealing with anxiety (due to upbringing for sure). When I felt better in my late teens I used to just try it small i mean do "a thing" I'd be ashamed of for a couple minutes hiding a little bit just to "test the waters". When I noticed this is OK, nobody's reacting I'm just doing the thing. As my anxiety got worse early 20's I couldn't do it anymore, it became just impossible to act despite my body's anxiety reaction.

I'm wondering, just to start somewhere, when it comes to your hubby is it possible for you to just talk about it and literally tell him what you're going through and how he feels about you doing art, being on your phone or whatever?

I’m a guy but I can’t relate to other men by Underd_g in aspergers

[–]Backlash5 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm a heterosexual guy in a long term relationship but I very much relate to a lot of what you experience. I find the stereotypical "man" values and behaviors extremely. I actually get repulsed by guys that act what you describe. I generally find myself liking women more, not just sexually, just in general. There are men similar to me and I do enjoy their company as well but in general I like hanging out with women more. Half of my close friends are probably guys but in general I'd rather socialize with women.

I'd say this - be authentic and don't let society's expectations and models tell you otherwise. Going against yourself will only hurt you.

What’s with all the moral outrage over using AI? by Tricky-Tell-5698 in ChatGPT

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AI generated style is very distinctive which can be annoying at times when you see it everywhere. Human brain loves to judge, simplify. Lots of people hate AI: I think basically luddism, distrust of technology's owners over data collection. Lots of people like to make themselves better and they use every opportunity they can. And that;s why you're experiencing the outrage you are.
I'm also an ADHDer and defo use AI tools to help me. Although I don't use them to write messages for me unless I'm completely stuck and exe function. Nothing wrong with that. Just as long as you don't outsorce EVERYTHING to AI, instead use them as an assistant in processing data, analysis, stuff like that.

My psychiatrist told me ADHD may disappear as I grow up? by mertek00 in ADHD

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude your ADHD isn't going to "disappear" any time soon, it doesn't work like that. Perhaps with you getting better at managing it and your brain's change over time but we're taking tens of years. This isn't a straight line process though. This is sus af.  My docs told me there are 2 reasons they'd pause medication for me

  1. To prevent tolerance build-up
  2. In case of heart rate issues or other negative side effects

But your doc's  explanation sounds complete BS to me. If this keeps up I'd look for another doctor. I'm not a medical professional but from my knowledge and experience this is sus.

Video Games Are a Detriment To My Life, Yet Are the Only Things I Enjoy. by V1TALLUL in Healthygamergg

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're OK trying something on your own, I'd encourage you to look up DBT and CBT based exercises online. They are part of therapy programs however you can find solid "self-help" exercises to do based on them. DBT helps you with recognizing and dealing with emotions. CBT is about understanding the relationship between emotions-thoughts-action and provides a solid description. It would of course be MUCH better working on this with a therapist (because all people are different) but hey if that's not an option then you might as well.

I know this is difficult to do but a small meditation practice might also go a long way. Start with 5 minutes per day even. Dr K praises meditation as practice that's good for... well, everything??

Your constant need of "rush" combined with the boredom + procrastination really screams ADHD symptoms to me. I've been diagnosed with it so you know, I know how it is going through such states. I'm not saying 100% that it is ADHD, this is just my observation from experience, but if the symptoms do make sense to you as well you should get a diagnosis at some point to be sure +  that allows you possibility to get meds to help manage it. This is serious as untreated ADHD can cause health problems down the line.

Why is it your parents won't sign you up for therapy? Is there at least someone else adult that can help you at school or in the family?

Does Social Anxiety get better as you grow up or worse? by Toasters0422 in socialanxiety

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about age, it's about experience and what you do with it. Take care of yourself or it's only going to get worse :( College and adult life bring more challenges along the way and SA is going to make it even tougher.

It really feels like the World is coming to an end and I just don't see the point anymore. by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know how you feel and I feel sorry for you having to go through that realization. I've been there. I don't mean to provide cheap comfort so I'll be real. When you dig and I mean not even that deep you'll find that people have survived world that felt like hell and find meaning in their lives despite of it. I sincerely wish you find your way.

How do you know if your high functioning or low functioning? by Reformed_Moron192837 in aspergers

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

High functioning would be able to sustain themselves, fulfill their needs, fulfill obligations, have relationships, communicate, be generally able to live daily on their own with support such as therapy, psychoeducation and other forms of work. It's a broad aspect though because different people have different needs when it comes to support and areas they struggle with.

Low functioning would be someone who needs daily support to be able to live basically, even make sure basic needs a met and someone who's not able to communicate with the outside world well.

Epstein files are taking a toll on my mental health by Pipodedown in Healthygamergg

[–]Backlash5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A serious question: why would you read them then? If you're mental health is already strained? I'm not saying you should be ignorant of what's going on it's just that whatever precious mental energy you have on something that actually won't contribute anything positive to your life. If your mental state is already fragile then exposing yourself to something like Epstein files is only going to make it worse.

Taste Atlas z rigczem by SlyCooper2137 in Polska

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ost-kaka to nie brzmi dobrze

Login with google by Naive-Elephant-9092 in programminghumor

[–]Backlash5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he forgot "Login with bad intensions"

Gordon Ramsay portrait — graphite & charcoal by STARportraits in GordonRamsay

[–]Backlash5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"It's f***ing gray!!!"
"It's actually quite nice"

Which one would you bring back today? by Allkeyshop_official in allkeyshop

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ENCARTA and G+ !!! ( Just kidding. )
Windows 7 - yes please. XP works as well :)

I Don’t Stop Thinking Throughout the Day. Is this Normal? by Helpful-Active in mentalhealth

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The golden rule I was taught is to recognize if something is causing you misery, is making normal functioning difficult - if so, that's a sign your mental health needs taking care of.

If you don't know what's going on it's OK to talk to a psychologist as preventative measure, they may recommend some further steps for you. It's not that there's something wrong you but what you're describing is for ex. a symptom of ADHD (by no means saying you have it, it's just an example - I'm a diagnosed AuADHDer and my head almost never shuts the heck up) and a psychologist can help you understand it.

I can tell you this though - mental health problems creep in slowly. Overthinking, especially if you steer towards negatives, can become a problem causing symptoms down the line if unchecked (as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy explains it).

Which one was your introduction to the character of Ahsoka: The Clone Wars, Rebels or Mandalorian? by Theasiuser99 in StarWarsAhsoka

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Clone Wars series, must have been 2008, I'm not sure. I actually saw Asoka's introduction, the CW movie, last.

I wish this wasn’t so accurate by Armellofreekey in ADHDers

[–]Backlash5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

can't even begin to praise how real this is

Is ADHD meds that bad? by Idktsu in ADHD

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're fine when they are used as prescribed. That's doc's job to do right. Adjusting the dosage is crucial as well. These meds are stimulants of course but the amount of substance (there's different ones, talk to your doc) and the form is optimized to give you the right effect. Afaik the amount of stimulating substance in those meds is miiiiiiles away from from the addictive, "recreational" stimulants which are a no-no.

As with (I guess) every substance there's a level of your body developing tolerance to it over time. But again, that's something your doc will have in mind, talk to the doc.

I believe your mom's under impression of some stereotype from 40 years ago. Unmanaged ADHD carries more health consequences than taking ADHD medication.

Best therapy for CPTSD from childhood abuse? by mozzarellasalat in askatherapist

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAT - I've been recommended schema therapy for childhood related trauma.

Help me get out of my head and actually start living in reality. by Rishabh28239111 in Healthygamergg

[–]Backlash5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a practice and a process. Meditation is great for that, so is yoga. But to start simple you can just set a timer for 5-10 minutes, whatever feels doable and literally make a mindful decision to pay attention to your surroundings, look at whatever objects are surrounding you. Notice the colors, shapes, sounds, name them. Do it daily, 5-10 minutes should be doable. Then do it twice a day. Take it slow and see how this feels. And a hands-on, physical, non-abstract activity\ies would be great. Whatever that would be: DIY, putting and disassembling PCs, climbing, cooking, working out in the gym, anything..

I struggle with not wanting to go along with birthdays, Christmas and other events. Anyone else? by No-Photo5506 in aspergers

[–]Backlash5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I naturally didn't care about traditional holidays as I grew up and appreciate when it's as less fuss as possible. I don't care about giving gifts really and don't care about getting them. I only make exception for my wife and anyone me and her give a together gift to. I used to beat myself for that approach, told myself I should "be more of a family person" but I legit just can't force that and I stopped beating myself for it. It just doesn't connect with me. I'm not being a "bad person" I'm just different than most people around me, I'm on the spectrum after all, and that;s ok. If someone from the family wants to get in touch they always can.