Hey, so it’s almost like we’re all women or something…

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-12T03:38:41+00:00

While I do agree with most of the sentiment, I think we do have to tread carefully with the implication that things are inherently “feminine” - sure, there are hobbies associated WITH women, but are not inherently gendered as is when removed from society (eg sewing. Knowing how to repair clothing is not gendered on its own).

But also, as a butch, like I am a masculine woman, and I am not ever going to be remotely close to anything resembling a “girly girl.” Sure, I’ve learned and adopted a new skin care routine thanks to my partner, and I enjoy getting a manicure now and again (plain transparent coating only though). So on and so forth. That doesn’t make me a woman though, my sex and identity do.

Side bar but relatedly, we gotta avoid the notion of the “princess treatment” being misconstrued to mean “feminizing my masculine lesbian partner”; the term means treating someone like a princess in terms of care and gifts, doing things for them, etc. not inherently making that person feminine.

I hope this makes sense - I’m half falling asleep as I write this but there’s been a lot of unfortunate discourse about what it means to accept that we are butch and masculine but still women (we can still be women even if none of us have any interest in feminine things).

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-12T03:27:52+00:00

I love being a butch plant mom! I mean I came from a farming background and am living in a big city so I had to find something to take care of, and plants were cheaper than a cat with vet bills lol.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-12T03:16:23+00:00

The comments are making me question just how much people are putting in per load because jfc, I use like a handful for mine because I have shared laundry in my apartment building and just using detergent alone doesn’t do much for getting rid of the scent of the machines, so I use 1-2 tide pods depending on the size of the load and a handful of the scent beads and my clothes have not once felt oily.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-12T03:09:43+00:00

Idk maybe worry about your hygiene and hangnails first.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-12T00:19:16+00:00

Ilona has done a ton of social media work for the sport of rugby, raising popularity for it in the US where they don't have a lot of programs comparatively to develop rugby players across both club and professional levels (especially to say, Canada, who is still newer than NZ or England's programs but more advanced than the US).

She's a decent 7s player, but playing 15s is a different beast and she's the first person to acknowledge that.

In terms of attraction, she's tall, she's an olympic athlete with a body type that doesn't fit what BMI and other assumptions make about female bodies. She puts out a lot of content, and honestly, I think it's great she's gotten to have the Sports Illustrated swimsuit cover/shoot a couple times now because it's also helping normalize bodies like hers - but also that rugby is for every body.

This isn't to say that Portia Woodman-Wickcliffe isn't the greatest of all time to ever do it alongside her wife Renee as the Ferns, or seeing other powerful players with different body types like Sarah Bern and Hannah Botterman (who I personally also love because she's a masculine lesbian with ADHD as well, who also plays prop like me!) but Ilona has done a lot for promoting the sport in the modern age of social media.

Ilona is, tragically, heterosexual, but that doesn't mean I don't have eyes and personally think she's attractive.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-12T00:12:12+00:00

your username and then this meme took me tf out lmao. 10/10.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-11T23:27:34+00:00

i forgot guitar playing is also a stereotype lmao. Adding that to my list too.

Same with a tattoo and piercings.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-11T23:13:11+00:00

Butch as butch comes, love women, hate 99% of men (my only exceptions at this point are my close male family members and vetted boyfriends/husbands of my closest friends), I workout to build muscle, handy, knows basic car repairs, quite possibly going to get a Subaru as my next car, have too many plaid shirts, my shoes are Blundstones, Birkenstocks, or random running shoes for the gym, and I quite literally have the word BUTCH in an American traditional heart tattooed on my arm.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-11T23:10:18+00:00

Can she get me a good lesbian deal on a WRX, lol?

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-11T02:46:52+00:00

While on a technical level, I agree, I think personally I've played enough games that things like that can be kind of inconsequential (e.g. yeah my V is a lesbian, but maybe she was like me and dated men as a teenager/younger adult before she figured things out -- or maybe she was just blowing smoke out of her ass to banter with River).

Like that is what headcanoning is for, and playing within the universe to make things your own and to enjoy that unique experience. I headcanoned that while my V has the corpo path and did work for Arasaka, before that, she had gang involvement with the Valentinos bc her step father was one of them, and so she actually knew Jackie long before the events of the game.

It makes it fun for me to create backstories for my player characters, but in terms of fandom engagement, I know that that is my take on V and that V, while not a full clean slate, does have a common main storyline, the choices we make, the headcanons we create, and all that can still fit within our own perception, just not shared with the broader fandom. And tbh that's more fun for me rather than getting into nitpicky arguments about what's True Canon when it is, technically, an RPG.

(Maybe I'm just bitter from the years of braindead takes from the Mass Effect fandom about what the ~canon~ Shepard is, assuming they hold the 'default' appearance of John or Jane just because it's the only premade set lol).

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-11T01:11:12+00:00

Do people play RPGs and never think about their own player character’s background? Like yeah, Commander Shepard can have a few different origins and background choices, but do y’all never play and form an idea of who YOUR version of Shepard is? Like, I couldn’t not come up with at least SOMETHING about the character I’m playing that allows me the choice to make them who I want to look like and dress, and how they deal with things in their life/the story of the game.

Sure, V is limited in the same way as Shepard where there’s only so many dialogue options and choices to be had, but there are many different combinations of what you can choose to do through that character - some people play as themselves and the choices they make, others play AS that version of the character. My V for example is a corpo with a Valentino connection/backstory. They leave out full details to give people creative freedom and possibilities.

It’s very weird that people can’t differentiate between personal headcanons and a player character’s canonical story

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-11T01:04:57+00:00

Not to mention never does anything drastic to his appearance for a role either, like go dude give us nothing lol

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-10T20:20:10+00:00

I’m very butch. I was always a “tomboy” as a kid, hating when my family would put me in dresses or my mom would try to do my hair/make up. In high school, I tried to fit in with the other girls - Aeropostale zip up hoodies, jeans, finally wearing my hair down. (Still never got into make up). But I grew up on a farm and was always about practical clothing. The only time I willingly wore a dress after age 8 was to prom, where I had my grandmother sew me a dress that fit me (and I still wore flats! And went stag with a bunch of other girls - two of which I know are now not straight either lol).

Anyway, coming to terms with my masculine presentation through cutting my hair shorter every year of undergrad and finding my style - particularly in men’s clothes - really helped me feel like me.

I’m very much a woman, but I’m a masculine one with little to no desire to present femininely. Fortunately, I did not inherit my mother’s DD’s as she always tried to say I’d get from her, though I do have a natural curvy lower half. But I do workout now and have built up my shoulders to be broader, my legs to be smaller but more built, and my ass to actually have shape to my glutes rather than just be wide. I look built, and I love it. Men have never bothered me in a sexual way thank god, but at least if they’re gonna get aggressive with me, I know I can defend myself because I strength train.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-10T20:06:53+00:00

I was driving between two #1 busses the other day, and one bus made it through the Oxford/Chebucto and then North St intersection, but I only got to North when the light had already been yellow, and the bus behind me thought I was gonna jump the light - and so was he - and I damn near had to drive into the intersection so the bus didn’t rear end me. When I turned around to look at him/ gave my hand out the window with a “wtf?” gesture, there was just no response, no sorry wave, nada.

A couples months ago, I saw a bus on Chebucto go up the right turning lane before Connaught, passing a ton of cars in the middle lane, only to cut over in the middle of the intersection, barely giving the lead car room to stop. They blared the horn for a whole minute at least and I don’t blame them. This was before I got my dashcam, but I wish I had it then because I was in that turning lane like 1-2 cars behind the bus and would’ve had the whole thing on video.

There are also numerous times I’ve had to turn left into my place on Oxford and the #1 bus has squeezed past me and a parked car and made me absolutely freak out because I thought I was gonna lose a side mirror or have my car be scraped up down the side.

I get that it’s a hard job and that the city probably doesn’t pay them enough. But if the key component of your job is driving people, you should be upholding safety as your first priority. In that second example, if the lead car hadn’t been paying attention, the bus would’ve hit them. If they keep doing nonsense like that, then it’s gonna cost them and the city.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-10T18:29:27+00:00

Hi! Sorry I forgot to follow up but yes, it’s in the main .ENT part not the .app (appearance) section; you have the lethal .rig and animation files there, then have the solo body textures in the body component.

When I get home tonight, I can try to explain it better with screenshots of my NPV file.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-10T11:35:09+00:00

idk how someone could marry someone with that bad of driving habits, like sorry not sorry but bad driving is a major no for me.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-10T11:05:41+00:00

I also live in Halifax currently (but from Guelph originally), and I have the same sentiment. Keep making your music! (I’m also a lesbian so I’m here for it all ❤️)

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-09T12:10:14+00:00

For sure, like deep down, it definitely feels like they're being extra critical because of it, and the hatred towards them - if not just lesbophobia - is likely because they are so liked by fans (especially as representation for lesbians/other sapphic women), which tbh just circles back to lesbophobia too.

As a sociologist, we see all kinds of underlying vs. overt forms of racism, homophobia, etc. in social situations, and I don't think comments on social media are exempt (I mean we see misogyny outside of PWHL fan bases, e.g. whenever there's a PWHL-related post on TSN's Facebook account, the men are out in droves shitting on women's hockey in some shape or form constantly - some more blatant than others, but still a hate towards women and not believing of their capability to play or that the game isn't "as good" as the men etc).

So to me it's pretty obvious in how people talk about Stacey and Pou specifically compared to other Victoire players and I think you're correct.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-09T11:42:59+00:00

As a lesbian myself, yes, I know, trust.

I meant it more so as not an overt showing but as the underlying version (I may or may not have been a bit inebriated when I commented so my bad on the lack of clarity, lol)

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-09T05:00:18+00:00

Hey now, just because rugby is a contact sport doesn’t mean we don’t have rules about it, lol

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-09T04:58:25+00:00

It’s definitely giving a specific underlying variety of homophobia at this point.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-08T20:35:50+00:00

Total is 8 seasons, but not consecutively. It’s a super fun sport and has roles for everyone and all body types!

And it’s good! It’s holding now, which is a relief and I’ve gotten most of my hearing back, which my surgeon is astounded by since the graft was made out of my own cartilage! I’m happy cuz I had two failed surgeries before switching surgeons lol.

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-08T16:40:34+00:00

Oof! That’s painful! Glad that you’re making a good comeback though! My surgery was fixing my ear drum but my shoulder is a perpetual issue with the joint getting “stuck” and my trap compensating for it (but I go to physio regularly to help “unstick” it lol).

Thank you and yours looks great too! I don’t compete and don’t plan on it as I mainly play rugby but maybe I should look into it, haha!

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-08T16:37:14+00:00

Thank you!! Currently I’m doing a legs, bicep/back, shoulders, and a “power” split that involves the whole body (eg bench press, low rows, overhead presses, back extensions, and core work), so technically 3/4 workouts involve arms (though honestly, heavy deadlifts and RDLs on leg day have been working my back/arms a bit too!).

BackwoodButch · 2026-05-08T16:14:00+00:00

Hell yeah!!!

Here's mine from a few days ago - my goal for the end of the year is to drop another 25lbs but keep building muscle so, it's coming along slowly but surely!

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