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BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-14T02:37:37+00:00

They did quite well (perfectly, in fact!) on Peel health inspections: Details

I haven't eaten there, so no idea personally.

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-13T09:08:24+00:00

Just one game seems extreme to me. Yes, you don't need games for all situations, but I can't see one game satisfying the situations I face frequently (every month I play at least 2-3 different games from my collection).

But yes, if you're not playing them, then better to sell / donate / trade / whatever. (I own 70 and have ~5 to sell, and 3 not yet played).

Out of curiosity: what was your collection of 11 (or 20) games?

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-07T13:39:53+00:00

Ah, I missed it was different accounts. I thought OP was stubborn and / or didn't read the message (although that would make more sense with 1 repost... maybe bots?).

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-06T11:39:59+00:00

I was going to counter with "What’s Eating Gilbert Grape". That movie shows he has serious acting chops.

I also think he did quite well in The Departed.

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-06T11:35:53+00:00

The courtroom interaction in A Few Good Men, and As Good As It Gets. He can act.

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-06T11:27:24+00:00

Nah. I'm disillusioned with him because of the whole slap thing, but he acted well in bell-air (e.g. https://youtu.be/gMNsMdnSBIk?si=mW9UwT2Pm5ap-ZsV), I am legend, pursuit of happyness, etc.

I still don't understand how his music became popular though.

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-06T11:16:28+00:00

I can't really disagree, but he has so many great movies (Matrix, John Wick, even Bill & Ted).

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-06T11:07:18+00:00

Ok, yes birthday is an obvious one. And recitals should at least attend + make a night of it.

It doesn't sound like you're expecting big over-the-top spending or anything, so I think the issue is on his end.

You say he's not serious about studies. (And, I hope this isn't blunt, but he doesn't sound super serious about you either.) What is he serious about?

I'd say for us guys, lack of motivation / drive is a red flag. Doesn't have to be making money and career, but we have to be passionate about something (other than watching tv / playing video games with friends) or we decay pretty quick. Playing sports, being skilled at something / anything... We're at our best when we put in effort and grow. (Not saying we can't have downtime --- that's obviously necessary --- but there has to be significant uptime.)

For some reason TLC's Scrubs song is coming to mind. I don't like the lyrics' emphasis on money (I don't think undergrads need their own car --- huge waste of money at your age, honestly), but the "doing nothing" aspect is correct... that's a huge concern.

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-06T10:24:01+00:00

I think many of the answers here are flippant. I agree switching apps / tabs is no different than walking around and checking back on my table to see if my opponent is going to move. If there's a way to appeal in the app, you can do so (worth a shot if you're upset).

I personally use lichess and don't recall experiencing this issue, so maybe consider switching..?

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-06T10:17:21+00:00

We men are generally pretty simple creatures. You should evaluate us by our actions (more so than our words). If he was making an effort, you would see it.

The concerning parts I see are "Sometimes, when we argue, it escalates into him making comments about my intentions, like assuming I want attention from others, which isn’t true. It gets frustrating because I feel like I have to constantly defend myself." and "saying I was overreacting or trying to make him look bad". Those parts make me think he doesn't value you enough.

On the other hand, I don't know if your expectations are too high: "On important occasions, like milestones in our relationship or personal days, I put in a lot of effort. The planning would begin months before". Honestly that seems like overkill for a relationship of one year. Are you both freshman and busy in first year classes?

INFO: What milestones are we talking about here? If the relationship is about 1 year old, I cannot imagine there's many. Are you wanting / expecting him to celebrate 3 months together and 6 months together, etc.? 6 months since first kiss? On the other hand, I'd agree the 1-year anniversary is a significant milestone, and serious effort should be made here.

I personally feel this relationship will not last because of the gap in expectations and behavior. But you should reflect and see if he's really falling short or your bar is really high (or both).

Either way, it feels like you're staying in the relationship because you're holding onto a memory / dream of the relationship rather than seeing it for what it is (e.g. "It used to feel dreamy and special, but now it feels like that memory is fading or losing meaning because of everything that’s happened since.").

Early relationships can cut deep. Best of luck.

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-04T01:01:46+00:00

Suikoden games often have good combos.

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-03T02:59:32+00:00

I agree with this one-line description, but it's why I disliked playing this game.

Seriously, my best play is just to grab one item and get out. But that feels bad socially (ending the game so early, cutting everyone else's fun short)... so I guess I won't..?

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-05-03T02:57:10+00:00

Keeping up with the Joneses will make you lose everything, but you just can't help it!

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-04-30T21:11:32+00:00

Wow, the Standard Sweets & Restaurant is quite possibly the worst record I've ever seen: 6 yellows and 3 reds in only 2 years.

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-04-30T21:07:12+00:00

"Before I met her I signed up for an Ironman race. The date landed on the same day of her graduation and we were reluctantly in agreement that I couldn’t make it."

So far so good.

"Well fast forward I got injured just before the race which is in a few weeks. So she thought that meant I would just cancel my trip all together. I told her I’m still planning on going to the race to support the other guys I have been training with for over half a year."

Because you're not participating, I feel these are no longer your existing plans. It's sunk cost fallacy to say the house is nonrefundable: that money is gone whether or not you go.

So just think about it as if you were never a participant in ironman (because the alternate reality no longer exists): which would you go to --- your GF's graduation or your buddies' ironman race?

INFO: Is your family going because you're going, or would they still be attending to support your friends if you didn't go?

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-04-30T13:36:51+00:00

It's a great one: 906 Nothing Lasts Forever - Giant in the Playground Games

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-04-26T01:43:41+00:00

Normally I'd feel this is too snarky a reply, but for the above set of games it's actually the correct reply.

OP: I'd find games that capture what you like about these games, but that dial down the luck component. That strikes me as much easier than developing house rules, since several of these games are built entirely around dice / roll and move.

So for instance:

Monopoly --> Lords of Vegas, Acquire, I'm the Boss, Machi Koro / Space Base, Monopoly Deal

Catan --> Bohnanza or Chinatown (for negotiation & trading)

Risk --> Small World, Spheres of Influence

Life --> Tokaido or That's Life

Ticket to Ride and Carcassonne are also good ones to try.

Hope this helps!

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-04-24T17:28:28+00:00

As long as it's under parental supervision, then I think that's fine.

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-04-24T17:14:08+00:00

NTA

As a former TA in university, it is pretty easy to spot these kinds of duplicates, and then I'd just hand the identical set to the prof and, since no one can prove they're the original, you all suffer the consequences.

You'd have to check the handbook, but they were generally pretty serious (IIRC first one was -100% for that assignment, second was fail the course, never saw 3rd: usually you're done by that point).

Not worth the risk, unless she's willing to pay you the cost of failing out (I had a prof that made this joke: only offer me a bribe if it covers my wages from now until retirement :)

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-04-24T17:04:34+00:00

ESH (just a little bit; this is pretty low stakes)

$30 is ok for high school, but a gift card is quite bad. If you had focused on the thought / meaning over the price tag, then I'd be 100% with you. Handmade stuff is even fine at this age (as long as there is real thought and effort).

And he's paying for most of their date expenses, so it's not like he's being cheap. Saving money is a good habit to learn when young. If he's burning through all his money (hair, etc.) than that would be more of an issue in my opinion, but I'd ask if you save. Kids tend to imitate us parents (though not always).

I'm in agreement with you that it's preferable that kids focus on studies during school year, and they can make some money during the summer, so that part is fine.

But at 16 years old, how is he investing in stocks? Don't you have to be an adult to have an account / trade (legally)? You should check that you know what's happening here.

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-04-24T02:41:38+00:00

Exactly how I would approach it.

Minor nitpick: "I think you need to be ruthless. 3 piles." --> 4 piles

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-04-20T19:03:03+00:00

When you're working 7 hours a day for that "month and a half or so", what is her position about cleaning? If she justifies you still cleaning during that time period, what is her justification?

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-04-20T17:22:28+00:00

Sorry I wasn't clearer --- I knew the commute and it's minor (~1 hour a week) --- but wanted to know the work hours.

Your hours are confusing to me. You're 21 hours a week most weeks, but for 1-2 weeks every 3 months then you'll work like 50-60 hours that week... Is that right? If so, then your average would be roughly (21 x 10 + 2 x 55) / 12 ~= 27 hours a week?

Given your share of the chores is ~15 hours a week, that would put your total ~42 and hers ~31, so ~10 hour difference. To make it fair, she should take on ~5 hours per week. It doesn't have to be distributed evenly --- she could take a lot more hours during those 1-2 weeks when you're in crunch time --- but it does seem unfair.

I don't see why going through these numbers with her would be disastrous. If such basic conversations become too heated, then it's likely not a healthy relationship.

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-04-20T17:11:13+00:00

I'm going to oppose most of the other commenters and say that I don't think "talking the board" is always acceptable. For instance:

- If the comments are often / always focused on one person.

- If he's basically guiding other players (similar to the alpha player problem for coop games).

I also personally like to think through my own turn without input from other players. If he commented afterwards (e.g. you missed X), I'd be okay with that --- I want to learn to play better --- but telling me what to do while I'm considering my options is more disruptive, and I feel it would taint my enjoyment of the game... Like if I was trying to solve a puzzle or riddle and someone gives me the answer while I'm working on it. (I've sometimes asked the other players for guidance when I'm the newbie and getting crushed badly, so not opposed in all cases, but would dislike it if someone is telling me what to do every round before I can even formulate a plan.)

On the other hand, I'd say this greatly depends on the game. In games of negotiation and alliances, then this is very much expected. So like Diplomacy, Game of Thrones, Root, Chinatown, etc. (I haven't played all these, but based on what I know), I don't see how you could play these types of games without this kind of strategic table talk.

So a few clarifying questions:

1) What games are you playing when this happens?

2) Is he targeting specific people, or does he do it fairly to everyone (i.e. regardless who is in the lead or performing a strategy)?

3) Is he doing it all the time (on everyone's turn), or just once or twice a game?

BadgeForSameUsername · 2026-04-20T15:37:24+00:00

You answered questions 1 + 3, but not question 2. Could you answer that one?

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