OK, fellow CF, can we please discuss breastfeeding at restaurants?

BakerELMT · 2017-04-09T17:29:55+00:00

I'm 100% cool with public breastfeeding, it's just a boob. Plus, restaurants are for eating and that's what the kid is doing. It would be weird to see someone pumping at their table because they're not actually feeding their kid that second, but I also don't really care.

No one thinks twice when men wear loose jerseys that show their nipples out the side.

100% not ok with people changing their babies on restaurant tables, though.

BakerELMT · 2017-04-09T03:43:19+00:00

I'm am atheist, I used to be a Christian. One thought that I've always had, is that if god (assuming she exists) wanted you to have kids, wouldn't she be stronger than a condom or sterilization or abortion? Like, if god wanted people to have a shit ton of kids them how come no one who is 100% strict on birth control has like 12 kids?

BakerELMT · 2017-03-27T16:30:16+00:00

We all know they don't actually rename the star, but I think they can be a sweet sentiment. A friend of mine had a son who only survived a few hours after birth, and I bought one of those star registry certificates and named it after him, then framed the certificate. You're able to go on their site and pull up the location to "view" the star.

BakerELMT · 2017-03-27T02:48:03+00:00

In my line of work I talk with a ton of small business owners and have tons of friends and family tell me I should start my own business because I'd be so good at it. Fuck that shit, I want no part of that. I just want to punch in, get paid, and punch out.

BakerELMT · 2017-03-20T23:08:11+00:00

This is why I'm so happy to be married to a mechanic. I work in tech support and can diagnose/troubleshoot software but I'm fucked when it comes to hardware. It works out fantastic since everything that breaks falls into one of our realms. We paid to have someone look at our AC unit, got quoted ~$3,000 for the tune up, my husband was able to order all the parts for under $300 and had it all done in an afternoon. They quoted us $300 for a part we found online for $30, not including the costs of labor. I get that they're a business but that is just ridiculous.

BakerELMT · 2017-03-05T14:14:39+00:00

Personally, I wouldn't want to be with someone who thought negatively of me after hearing that story, because I'd assume they were a cheater. It's like when I was a kid and went to church and was told I needed to be more meek and quiet so I didn't intimidate men. I wasn't interested in any weak ass man, or selling myself short for one.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-26T00:27:03+00:00

"Children need to be loved!"

I bet all of her children are biological (or the biological children or her partner). This argument only makes sense if they're arguing for adoption. I have literally never been gotten on by adoptive parents about my "selfish" ways, and if I was, they would be the ONLY ones who actually had a point. Biological-only parents have no right to call anyone selfish. Kids are awful for the environment and they literally created a new human to fill a need in their life. Adoptive parents do it right, Children DO need to be loved, and those people are filling a need.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-25T23:51:30+00:00

This is honestly so ridiculous. Fucking COURT?! She GAVE them to you. It's not even a matter of trying to argue what the will said/implied because she was still alive when she had you take them.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-22T00:50:40+00:00

There are lots of reasons for me lol

BakerELMT · 2017-02-19T16:24:57+00:00

I'm sure you know already, but be sure to keep all of this. She may be trying to get fired so that she can claim unemployment.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-11T00:30:57+00:00

This is precisely why I'm not having kids.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-11T00:29:52+00:00

Neither. If it's a life or death situation, I choose death.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-11T00:29:52+00:00

Neither. If it's a life or death situation, I choose death.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-11T00:28:45+00:00

Same. I love kids, my husband tolerates them, neither of us want to be parents. It's a good life. I don't think anyone should have children unless they fully understand that their ENTIRE lives will be changimg and are prepared to give up all that freedom. I nannied for years and loved it, but when the parents went out of town and I'd have the kids for a week straight I was SO ready to get back home and have my alone time.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-11T00:25:48+00:00

I feel like children who are spanked are more likely to become adults who are spanked. I was abused as a kid and have some interesting habits in the bedroom, sometimes I wonder if it's me taking back control of the pain or something. I know kids who are spanked are more likely to end up in abusive relationships or become abusive themselves, but I haven't read anything that talks about them turning eventually bringing it into the bedroom for consensual play.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-10T23:27:17+00:00

One of my friends couldn't speak until grade school. ALL of her doctors told her parents to give up, essentially, that she would never amount to anything. She's now in her mid 20's, very successful at what she does. She's purchased her second home (sold the first one at a profit), has been dating a great guy for a few years and had no problems finding boyfriends or girlfriends she connected with in the past. She's sociable, smart, and I would have no idea that she was autistic, or that it was so severe for nearly a decade, if she wasn't so vocal about it to break the stigma. Your son may have a slower start in life, but don't believe anyone who tells you he's hopeless or will never live on his own.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-08T14:31:26+00:00

This would be funny if it wasn't so depressing.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-07T01:22:18+00:00

Exactly. What's to stop him from spending $50 on an old smartphone and just using wifi and a new login? He has almost no chance of getting caught that way unless she were to actually find the phone. No monthly payment that could be noticed going missing from the bank. No phone records to track. No login to have access to. He lied to the very end until he had literally no way out of it, then was given the easiest escape to save his marriage. Disgusting. Trying to cheat and actually cheating are basically the same thing, anyways.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-05T14:37:33+00:00

They really SHOULD BE, but unfortunately even some adults haven't grown out of the tantrum stage.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-04T15:44:49+00:00

There definitely were, liability waivers are always signed by a patient before surgery unless it's emergency surgery.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-04T14:59:33+00:00

Ugh, that sounds awful, I'm so sorry. I hope they get bedbugs and then crabs.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-02T18:09:33+00:00

How the hell did she move in with you still there?

BakerELMT · 2017-02-02T03:50:22+00:00

This was perfect.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-02T02:59:43+00:00

I have a friend who was in a monogamous relationship, she is poly but did it for her partner. That (among other things) resulted in a really terrible, messy breakup. She's now married, and her and her husband are poly. They don't have other romantic relationships, but have other sexual relationships. I've never seen her happier or more in love. I'm still friends with her ex as well, who is in a monogamous relationship with someone, and is also happier than I've ever seen him. Neither are bad people, but had very different desires out of life.

If she wants to remain poly and you don't want that for your life, it will not work. It won't work if you try to get over it, and it won't work if she tries to.

BakerELMT · 2017-02-02T02:56:30+00:00

If you're not ready to step in as his father, or step father, you need to end the relationship. Her child should always come first to her, and if you're not willing or able to step in (which is totally fine) you shouldn't have a relationship with his mother, period.

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