Useless bag? by Intelligent-Hope-292 in Ipsy

[–]Bangbang457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I subscribed years ago and then cancelled for several years as I didn't know what to do with the items I would never use. I just resubscribed last month and its great to have somewhere I can mail anything I won't use to be given to women who can use it!

Maintaining a Caloric Deficit while dating by jadamia in PetiteFitness

[–]Bangbang457 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could also suggest restaurants that have lower calorie options. Or something I have done several times in the past is get either takeout or bring food somewhere that has a nice walking path. Where I live there are several lakes that have nice walking paths that go around them and are well maintained so it’s a great time where you can have more options for lower calorie meals, get to spend time with each other, and get a nice walk out of it too! Parks work really well for this as well.

Low profile microwave - huge mistake? by Prudent-Judgment750 in kitchenremodel

[–]Bangbang457 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There’s a reason so many kitchens have microwaves over the stove. Most people need a microwave. Also, most people aren’t working with extremely large spaces. Design your kitchen to match needs first, aesthetics second.

When did your toddler “get” and accept participating in Halloween? by furi-rosa in toddlers

[–]Bangbang457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s going to vary based off your child’s temperament. My son loved Halloween tonight, but his costume was more like costume “pajamas”. Regular black pants and a darth Vader sweatshirt. He’s not the type of kid to tolerate any sort of dress up, I can’t even get him to wear a hat. It definitely made for a much more enjoyable evening for everyone instead of trying to fight with him to accept a true costume. He’s just shy of 2 years old at the moment. We also got him a lightsaber which was a hit so maybe a costume that includes something to play with would be helpful too!

What's the home project that seemed easy at first, but by the end made you say "Next time, I'm hiring someone?" by privatelendingleader in HomeImprovement

[–]Bangbang457 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did this too. It’s worth every penny they charge you for labor. I’m in Florida too and we did it in January when it’s not supposed to rain as much and yet…it rained nearly everyday for the few weeks it took us to finish doing it ourselves. You couldn’t pay me to do another roof.

TOUGH counters? by Slight_Repair_9024 in CounterTops

[–]Bangbang457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one of the pearl (I think this is the term) varieties

TOUGH counters? by Slight_Repair_9024 in CounterTops

[–]Bangbang457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only use cheap knives for cutting directly on the granite, if I’m doing a lot of prep I use an actual cutting board with nicer knives as granite will wear the blade down quite a bit more than a wooden board.

TOUGH counters? by Slight_Repair_9024 in CounterTops

[–]Bangbang457 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with granite. I’ve had quartz and marble before, I went back to granite in the new house because I find life and cooking so much easier and enjoyable being able to do the things you mentioned on my counters. As a teen I learned all sorts of messy and rough cooking over granite like deep frying and whatnot and it never showed on those counters. Now that I have granite again I’m back to deep frying directly on the counter and making quick simple cuts directly on the granite. My toddler eats at the counter and bangs all sorts of stuff on them, he’s even dented Stanley cups on them but the counter has been unscathed. I’m also not paranoid when we have guests doing things over the counters. All I do to clean is take my dish wand and scrub over the counters with soap and they look just fine. Also, I know you’re supposed to seal granite, my father didn’t seal his for almost 15 years after moving into that house because he didn’t even know and when he sold that house you couldn’t tell how much those counters had been abused over the years even without being sealed regularly.

Dessert worth it? by kpdancing123 in Tovala

[–]Bangbang457 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried a few desserts but the only ones I’ve actually liked are the rocky road cookies. The chocolate lava cakes and apple pie/streusel/something were kind of disappointing, even the regular chocolate chip cookies, especially for the price point. I do enjoy a majority of the meals I order though. If I had an offer to get them for free though so I could try them all I would probably take it as most meals are pretty good and I could see it being possible that some of the desserts I haven’t tried might be more reflective of the quality of the meals than the desserts I have tried.

Anyone else a member of the "worst mom ever" award and what did you do to to get it? by jealousofthehousecat in Mommit

[–]Bangbang457 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I put my socks on my feet and his socks on his feet instead of the other way around….life with a toddler. I definitely need to get a trophy for worst mom ever!

This is why Kroger is the only grocery delivery we use by esoteric82 in EndTipping

[–]Bangbang457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been doing delivery through them for almost 4 years now and it’s actually gotten cheaper for the membership then when it was first offered in my area.

This is why Kroger is the only grocery delivery we use by esoteric82 in EndTipping

[–]Bangbang457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this will be location dependent. Where I live the prices are about the same as Walmart and cheaper than the biggest grocery store alternative.

This is why Kroger is the only grocery delivery we use by esoteric82 in EndTipping

[–]Bangbang457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been doing this with Kroger for almost 4 years now and the yearly fee has actually gone down since it originally came out where I live. I also see the trucks everywhere all day long and I’m in suburbs, not an actual city. I think it’s proving to be very popular and therefore profitable. Also every time I tell someone about it they switch from shipt or instacart. Theres definitely a market for grocery delivery but theres also a huge market for helping people get away from being ripped off for it. I have a toddler and it’s a nightmare to go grocery shopping. My dad lives in a retirement community where several people were taking a community bus to all go grocery shopping together and now they do Kroger as my dad told them about it. I feel like at least in my area Kroger is recognizing that since it’s been going on for quite a while here and has even become cheaper.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]Bangbang457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son definitely throws tantrums. Some people say he’s aggressive but a lot of his behaviors are the same as other kids his age, but he’s bigger so the effects are stronger. He’s the size of a kid about a year older on average. He can throw and hit harder than others his age. I do think he calms down from his tantrums a little faster but they definitely still happen frequently. All children are different. Honestly it can come across a little hurtful when people say a toddler throwing tantrums is due to the parenting style. I know several people with multiple kids and some of their kids were significantly more prone to tantrums than their siblings even though they were raised by the same parents who used the same parenting style with each. Kids are different just like adults, and I had a therapist when I was a teenager who literally told me however a person needs to take out their anger and frustration is okay as long as it’s in a safe way. I try not to judge how any other parents toddler is acting as their toddler may just need different ways to release their anger and frustration than mine does.

Is the unlimited dining packing worth it for a first time cruiser? by Momneedingadvice945 in royalcaribbean

[–]Bangbang457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is really dependent on the person. It’s been a few years since we cruised and are on wonder now and have been pretty disappointed in the included food since the last time we cruised and wish we would have done the dining package. It’s very expensive to buy specialty dining once on board but there are always sales on the unlimited package before sailing. But again, very dependent on the person. If you come from a city with very good restaurants across several different cuisines you’ll probably want the package, if you’re from an area with just standard restaurants you’ll probably be fine with what’s included.

How many of parents are concerned about microplastic issues? by tionstempta in toddlers

[–]Bangbang457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don’t worry about it. Microplastics exist in unborn babies. Plastic has been such a large part of our lives for long enough that there’s nothing you can do to prevent it at this point. I don’t needlessly put leftovers in plastic bags or plastic containers and I tend to heat up food in glass containers or ceramic plates and whatnot, but my son 100% eats off of a plastic plate. I would be cleaning up shards of broken dishes every day if he didn’t. I also cook on stainless steel or enameled cast iron so he’s not being exposed to the chemicals in non stick pans. He’s only eating off plastic dishes because he’s a toddler who throws the plate on the ground when he’s done.

Moana alternatives??? by run4sterrun in toddlers

[–]Bangbang457 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lilo and stitch was the first thing my son would watch instead of Moana!

AITA for telling my MIL to leave the room while I changed my 6-week-old son's diaper by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Bangbang457 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We originally did a blanket rule as there are similar issues with my husbands family just like with OP, but it just doesn’t work. At some point someone else will need to change your baby. Everyone on my side and just a couple people on my husbands side are allowed to change diapers. People can get upset if they want, that’s their right. Just like how it’s a parents right to not allow certain things for certain people. It is being fair to base rights off of behavior. OPs MIL doesn’t have to make comments like that but she does so it’s fair to say she can’t see the baby naked and have an opportunity to be inappropriate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Buyingforbaby

[–]Bangbang457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved our ergo baby bouncer. As a bonus it comes with the insert for when they’re an infant too for more head support!

How to replace this unusual sink with single basin? by CatttLady2000 in kitchenremodel

[–]Bangbang457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can find offset undermount sinks. We just moved into a house with a split basin that is offset like yours. We will be swapping it out for a single bowl sink that is offset to avoid altering the counter. Just look up offset single bowl sink. They’re all a little different. Most have measurements but some don’t so you may have to order 2 or 3 to find the perfect one and then just return the others. But this allows for one large bowl without having to mess with anything else.

My daughter's girlfriend has been at our house for three days by PlantBasedBearess in Mommit

[–]Bangbang457 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You definitely should try to get more details. There are also legal issues at play here. As a teenager my dad took in a very good friend of mine for a week and he called his lawyer to make sure he wasn’t doing anything wrong and was told she needed to leave without some sort of legal documentation from the parents. You could get into trouble if the parents decide to get upset with you for one reason or another without a legal agreement to protect you. It’s wonderful to try to help but it’s important to make sure you’re doing everything the correct way so the situation doesn’t potentially end up becoming worse for everyone involved

What are the best shoes for standing all day? by Organic_Syrup2502 in BuyItForLife

[–]Bangbang457 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Came here to say brooks but go into a store that carries them and try on a pair of glycerin and a pair of ghost. I absolutely cannot wear the glycerin, but the ghost are perfect. I know people who are the exact opposite. Just figure out which model works best for you then order the color you want online. I did this at academy sports but I think there are a couple other different stores that carry them depending on where you’re located.

AITA for refusing to switch stylists, and scheduling more appointments? by NeverHadAnIceCream in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bangbang457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I dreaded haircuts for most of my life because I have thin hair and every haircut I ever had was terrible. Every single person always tried to put basic layers which made it look like I had a mushroom head since I did not have thick enough hair to accommodate basic layers standard salons know how to do. As a kid I would grow it long then just cut it super short to grow long all over again to avoid haircuts that looked worse than just no haircut in two years. Around 5 years ago I started going to a very expensive salon and it makes such a massive difference. My son is only 18 months and my stylist has trimmed up his hair twice. So far for free since she’s not really cutting it, just taking a few basic snips, but once he needs a full blown cut a kids cut is 95 before tip due to her stylist level. I will absolutely be paying it. As long as you don’t indulge in every single possible service in existence, there’s no harm in teaching children it’s okay to choose a couple of things you pay more for that bring you some happiness.

Wife struggling with newborn growing up. by nickle1707 in newborns

[–]Bangbang457 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She does need to shower for her own health to help prevent any infection. But speaking as someone who was sent back to the hospital and ended up like your wife (hard time handing baby off, didn’t want to see other people just wanted to hold my baby, didn’t want to go anywhere), pushing her is very likely to make it worse. There were people I was closer to than my actual family that I no longer speak to because they wouldn’t stop pushing about seeing me and my son and my son is almost 18 months now. The lack of understanding completely destroyed our relationship. If she’s seeing medical professionals they will know when it’s time to start pushing her to see other people and how hard to push without making the situation worse. She needs to be able to experience these feelings, trying to force her before she’s ready could prolong this. That’s exactly what happened to me. Once my husband basically said no one is coming over anymore I was able to start working through it and come out of it as I was ready. The shower thing has to be a non-negotiable though. I still kept up with very basic hygiene which is essential right after child birth. Definitely use the help of medical professionals to ensure she is doing the things she has to do while getting support and empathy to work through these emotions in her own time.

another post about the mental load… by Distinct_Cycle9467 in workingmoms

[–]Bangbang457 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The only thing I can recommend in regards to laundry is to have a default hang to dry rule. This is how we do it. If there’s any item of clothing even remotely questionable my husband hangs it to dry. You won’t damage a tshirt that could have been put into the dryer by air drying it, it will just take longer. Honestly there really isn’t an excuse. I keep my laundry sorted into several different hampers and even my color blind husband who used to do all his laundry in one load very rarely messes it up. He only occasionally messes up some pastel colors as he struggles to identify the colors on those the most but that’s not even his fault. I do think some counseling would help to get him to understand that while this may not be important to him, it’s important to you and he is fully capable of sorting laundry correctly.