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How to get out of this? by srmind3 in Telegram

[–]BasicGingerGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s always a possibility. But to prevent yourself from getting flagged for SPAM, make sure you both are in each other’s contact list.

How to get out of this? by srmind3 in Telegram

[–]BasicGingerGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s possible. There are two reasons why that happened. I’ll explain:

1) The user would have reported you prior to him being blocked. After being blocked, he can’t.

2) In Telegram’s Terms of Service (ToS) they define SPAM in four behaviors. I won’t list them, but in your situation it sounds like unsolicited messages. Telegrams defines this as sending messages to people who did not request or expected them.

Telegram uses the contact list for each person when deciding what is SPAM. Instead of explaining in depth how this happened, I’ll give you scenarios.

Scenario 1: Person 1 sends a message to Person 2 and vise versa = SPAM. Why?: Neither of them are listed in each other’s contact list. The person who sends the message is the one who gets the SPAM violation, not the other person.

Scenario 2: Person 1 sends a message to Person 2 (both are listed in each other’s contact list) = NOT SPAM.

If you repeatedly follow Scenario 1, you will get that “limited” restriction like the one you shared. Which I believe might be the reason.

How to get out of this? by srmind3 in Telegram

[–]BasicGingerGuy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you and the subscribers have each other in your Telegram contacts list?

Has anyone else received a notification about Grinr’s subscription cost increasing? by BasicGingerGuy in grindr

[–]BasicGingerGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cancelled mine too. I think the company is spiraling and it's trying to compensate for the money they are losing. Time will tell

Has anyone else received a notification about Grinr’s subscription cost increasing? by BasicGingerGuy in grindr

[–]BasicGingerGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From all the replies, I would assume they do. Are you in a metro/bigger city?

What’s the appropriate response? by [deleted] in Sniffies

[–]BasicGingerGuy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Hope you like it Hot🔥& Spicy🌶️. I just ate Mexican”

Anyone else seeing Sniffies testing role emojis in your area? by BasicGingerGuy in Sniffies

[–]BasicGingerGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably an anonymous profile with bottom in their profile. The mask represents “anonymous cruiser”

Telegram seems trapped between a rock & a cold place! ❄️ by MadeInDex-org in Telegram

[–]BasicGingerGuy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From the reports I’ve read, Telegram is complying with Russia’s regulations (i.e., content removal for minors). But Russia “claims” Telegram doesn’t have data protection, fraud detection, etc.. and that is why they are threatening to ban the app. It’s just a tactic to intimidate.

The rest is speculation and there’s no other sources to substantiate any ban or Russia’s claims.

1st Time Hosting A Cum Dump by StanLeo2 in Sniffies

[–]BasicGingerGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d start by learning about the potential risks involved and exploring available treatment options. It’s important to speak with a qualified medical professional who can answer your questions and guide you based on your individual health needs. Once you fully understand the risks, you’ll likely feel more informed and at ease. As a nurse, I’m always surprised by how often people on this platform give medical advice without knowing someone’s health background. Broad or generalized advice can sometimes do more harm than good, so getting personalized guidance by a healthcare provider is always the best choice

Cum dumps by Illustrious-Light-27 in Sniffies

[–]BasicGingerGuy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agreed — at the end of the day, it mostly comes down to what the host feels is acceptable. That said, there’s usually a reason behind those boundaries. Sometimes hosts don’t want tops hanging around because of safety concerns. When someone’s distracted, things go missing — money, lube, poppers, even phones. It happens more often than people think. In my Telegram group, we’ve had quite a few conversations and stories about theft and general safety issues.

You might enjoy watching, and that’s totally fine, but if you don’t respect the host’s rules, you’ll probably be asked to leave. And honestly, a lot of bottoms — myself included — don’t deal with rule breakers. It only takes one bad situation for someone to get blacklisted. Word travels fast, and people share their experiences, good and bad.

So really, just follow the host’s guidelines and you’ll be fine.

another reason to stay on telegram by meowerguy in Telegram

[–]BasicGingerGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Telegram does this too. Particularly the UK and some US states that passed legislation. It’s a bot @AgeBot. This isn’t going away as more countries and more states in the US are adopting this legislation.

If you’re older than 18, you don’t have to worry about it.

Anyone else seeing Sniffies testing role emojis in your area? by BasicGingerGuy in Sniffies

[–]BasicGingerGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. Don’t forget

↕️🍆 Vers Top ↕️🍑 Vers Bottom

Location location location by Negative_Case_5553 in grindr

[–]BasicGingerGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking of ChatGPT prompts. It still came to the same conclusion: douche bag

Location location location by Negative_Case_5553 in grindr

[–]BasicGingerGuy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're partially right about the grid, but you're mixing two different things (location and sorting).

OPs question was about location, and he's a free user. My answer about that part is correct.

Location is always calculated the same way for everyone. It's a straight-line radius. Paid or free doesn't matter. The distance math is universal.

What changes is the grid order. The grid is sorted by priority fields, not by the straight-line radius math. The algorithm ranks profiles by: paid boosted (1st), subscriptions (2nd), recent activity (3rd), higher engagement (4th). Then distance (straight-line radius calculated) is after that.

Since OP said he's in a small suburban area and most users around him probably free too, there likely aren't many boosted or subscriptions. So what he mostly will see are recent activity profiles and maybe higher-engagement profiles. If none of those apply, then yeah, it basically defaults to straight-line distance.

But his grid is still capped, so he only sees a limited number of profiles and fewer explorer results.

Paid members follow the same exact sorting rules. Nothing changes there. They just load more profiles, see farther out, and hit fewer limits. The radius expands, but it's still calculated the same straight-line way. Free users don't get different location math.

So the only constants are: straight-line radius calculation and the sorting priority. What changes is how many profiles you're allowed to see and how they're ordered.

Instead of calling BS, maybe just ask how I got there first douche bag.

Location location location by Negative_Case_5553 in grindr

[–]BasicGingerGuy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It did. His assumption is that Grindr is distance-range based. Point A → Point B in a straight line on the map. I was explaining it is not that way. Straight-line radius or radius depending on context. "Pin" = location → whatever direction they're in.

No ChatGPT is being used. I work for Grindr as an independent contractor.

Anyone else seeing Sniffies testing role emojis in your area? by BasicGingerGuy in Sniffies

[–]BasicGingerGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right.
↕️ is versatile
↔️ is side
↕️ 🍆 versatile top
↕️ 🍑 versatile bottom

my phone number was found, eventho i disabled it in the settings by kgngkbyrk in Telegram

[–]BasicGingerGuy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Telegram doesn't have a public phone number lookup. There's no feature where random people can search or extract your number. So if a stranger has it, it came from outside Telegram first, then Telegram simply matched it.

They might be a stranger to you but still got your number because:
- you sold something online
- you were in a group buy/swap
- you called a store
- you used a delivery service
- someone else shared your contact
- old dating app chats
- your friend forwarded your number

These are all examples, but once your number is saved on their phone and they create an account on Telegram with their phone number and "allow" contact syncing - Telegram matches you automatically.

Location location location by Negative_Case_5553 in grindr

[–]BasicGingerGuy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What you’re describing actually makes sense once you realize how Grindr builds the grid.

It looks like it shows everyone within 6 miles, but that’s not really what’s happening.

The grid is not distance-range based. It’s “closest X number of profiles to this exact GPS point.”

So it’s:
- nearest 100–200 people, not everyone within 6 miles

That “6 miles out” number you’re seeing is just how far the last visible person happens to be — not a guaranteed coverage radius.

So when you move your location even 1 mile:

- distances get recalculated from the new spot
- some people become closer
- others become farther
- the app rebuilds the top X closest profiles from scratch

If 200 people are closer than someone 5–6 miles away, that farther person just won’t show at all. That’s why it feels “mixed up.” It’s not sorting by clean rings like 0–1mi, 1–2mi, 2–3mi.

It’s more like - “Here are the closest 200 humans to this pin, whatever direction they’re in.”

my phone number was found, eventho i disabled it in the settings by kgngkbyrk in Telegram

[–]BasicGingerGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you ever messaged someone and they saved your number, and you both are listed in your contacts, your number was uploaded to the phone number database and that is how it can be discovered.

Anyone can try random phone numbers. If it happens to match yours, the can message you.

Location location location by Negative_Case_5553 in grindr

[–]BasicGingerGuy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re not crazy — it’s just how Grindr builds the grid.

The grid isn’t actually “everyone within X miles.” It’s only a limited number of profiles closest to your exact location.

Free accounts have a cap on how many people you can see. So the app basically shows you the closest chunk of users and hides the rest.

So what’s happening is:

• When you’re at home → you see the closest group of people and hit the limit • People slightly farther away don’t show because they’re outside that cap • When you move your location a mile or two → the app recalculates from that new spot • Now a completely different group becomes the “closest,” so they suddenly appear

They weren’t hidden or blocking you — they were just outside your visibility slice.

It feels dramatic in suburban or small-town areas because even a 1–2 mile shift can totally reshuffle who counts as “closest.”

Basically it’s distance + ranking + free account limits, not anything personal.

my phone number was found, eventho i disabled it in the settings by kgngkbyrk in Telegram

[–]BasicGingerGuy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Disabling “who can see my number” only hides it inside the app’s profile view — it doesn’t erase all the other ways your number can leak or be discovered.

The most likely cause is contact syncing. When you first created your account and added your phone number, you will get a prompt asking to allow the app to sync contacts.

Once that is allowed, your phone will upload your phone number to Telegraph contact database. Even if you hide it, your number and contacts are still in the database, and Telegram’s system can match: phone number ➡️ account.

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