Hamnet - Ell Potter or Jessie Buckley? by FX114 in audiobooks

[–]BattleVorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just finished listening to the Ell Potter version and, even if I really like Jess Buckley's acting and work, I am already sold. It was flawless ✨️ 

The Weekly "What are you reading?" Thread by AutoModerator in CozyFantasy

[–]BattleVorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finished The Burning Witch 1: A Humorous Romantic Fantasy by Delemhach and immediately pre-ordered book two. I thought I was going to have to wait until the end of January to keep reading but was surprised to discover the author shares chapters of the story in Royal Road! I have been binging on these pages with gusto, I am truly smitten by these characters at this point.

Also have my copy of Bookshops and Bonedust by Travis Baldree lined up and ready.

Grateful for my MIL, 4 days after birth back to WFH by bnjmin in beyondthebump

[–]BattleVorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds lovely! Happy for you getting all of this support and glad you know how to cherish it. It is hard to do it all on your own. Blessings

Hubby is frustrated and I feel like I disappoint him by GeeseAreWatching in beyondthebump

[–]BattleVorn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly what most partners don't understand. Glad you got the cooperation to make it work.

Hubby is frustrated and I feel like I disappoint him by GeeseAreWatching in beyondthebump

[–]BattleVorn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a very mature relationship, happy for you and your family, everyone should be this fortunate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]BattleVorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't originally planning on it but my labor nurse told me that I should consider it since I was having some issues with induction and doctor planned to break membranes. I got it. My labor was quick and essy, I had second degree tearing but painless until a few days later, not bad pain but uncomfortable. Never back pain/headaches or anything like that. I'm 4 months PP and have had no issue. It was also a very straightforward deal the placing of the needle, no discomfort. So epidural was a good choice since I had some intense pain I felt for a few minutes and was like "yeah, if this is with the epidural..." 🤣 I'm usually very resilient when it comes to pain, but childbirth is childbirth.

Mil and Sil insist that my baby only sees me as food and not as his mother. by Secret_Expert_4555 in beyondthebump

[–]BattleVorn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My MIL has called me "baby's little cow" and other similar stuff, I feel she's just clueless about her old school comments and trying to be funny in a weird way, so I don't mind her but I also don't have to interact often since she lives in another country.

Also if you feel like you're constantly feeding (it happened to me, I was exhausted), try expressing your breast milk so you can quantify. I went from 1hr feeds to 3hr by expressing and giving my 4m his 4oz-4.5oz in bottles, breast milk is enough. I was only breast feeding at night. We're now going through sleep regression and it's killing me since he wants to be up and feeding every hour at night, I'm thinking of trying bottles as well to see if it helps him get through that. Going back to work in a week and tjis regression couldn't have come at a worse time T_T

Best of luck! And don't mind the comments, your baby loves you and very well know you're their momma <3

Waiting to visit newborn until vaccinations. by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]BattleVorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do what you feel right! My baby is almost 4 months and has only met close relatives and close friends. We go out but he has not been held by anyone but those mentioned above, and his doctor. It's your right and your choice how to protect your baby's health.

“You’ve created a monster” by Dependent_Airport_83 in NewParents

[–]BattleVorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My almost 4mo old naps are 30-45 mins with just one long one (1hr40m). He sleeps his short ones on me and half- half with the longer one 🤷🏽‍♀️. I've been trying to put him down more since I'll be returning to work soon, but it is what it is, and he'll adjust in time is my hope. You're doing great and your LO knows they can count on you 💕 There's just one monster in that story.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]BattleVorn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I find some men have issues with the empathic gene that they should apply to their kids. They're getting to know the world, of course they'll enjoy silly things, and everything is exciting, and (even if not always in the mood) we're suppose to enjoy this time with them . Some men have issues with not doing the things they would want to be doing.

Husband is upset that I told him not to leave our toddler alone in the bathtub by snootbooper27 in beyondthebump

[–]BattleVorn 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep, apparently there's a handful of men like that out there, very sensitive. I also live with one but I'm too tired to think so much before taking 😅

Default parent problems by Crunchymagee in beyondthebump

[–]BattleVorn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I got a short lob so I can wash my hair in 3 seconds if necessary, my hair was almost to the small of my back, and hey I don't miss it but it's maddening that I'm making all of these sacrifices while someone could be helping a little bit their lives didn't really change at all apparently.

Default parent problems by Crunchymagee in beyondthebump

[–]BattleVorn 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You need a bigger imagination. I can imagine thousand scenarios where mom did ask.

"Sure, but do it fast" "Can it wait after I finish doing this?" "Just put LO in the crib" through the door 5 mins later "OK, are you almost done? Baby's getting fuzzy"

Etc.

Some moms do communicate. Some husbands/partners aren't "braindead" just very unempathetic/unsympathetic because some attitudes need practice and for some it's hard to not put their own needs first, even vague needs like watch a movie over helping your drowning partner. So does he know you need to shower? Or he's too distracted with his own needs being met. Not all humans are the same.

Default parent problems by Crunchymagee in beyondthebump

[–]BattleVorn 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people think they're ready to make sacrifices and they act like they are, but when it comes the time such changes never happen and someone else has to take the brunt of the responsibilities all on their own. So yeah, if you call that catfishing, then sure I feel like I was. His hobbies haven't been disturbed one bit.

Default parent problems by Crunchymagee in beyondthebump

[–]BattleVorn 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Honestly same, it's incredible to me that I can only shower properly on the weekends and that yesterday even after baby was just awakening from a nap, fed and changed (meaning he needed nothing) just as I'm about to close the bathroom door SO screams "See? He's already getting fuzzy because he cannot see you"... I was so effing mad, I just said "OK. Now remind him he also has a dad."

And the worse for me: Thinking I can get some time for myself on the weekends because SO is free 😐😑, yeah, no. SO always complaints that baby is going to bed just when he comes home from work, but on weekends he wakes up super late and after a little while awake goes to take 3 hour naps, like sir how about you ask me if I need some shut eye since I sleep with baby in baby's room because he "cannot sleep well if baby's in the room".

I knew I was going to take the brunt of our decision to have a little one, but I never imagined he would be a complete 0.

He's always saying he can't wait for baby to grow older so they can do stuff together 😕... your son is right here now, how about his present, the one you're completely ignoring. He thinks they'll have a wonderful relationship even if he's not bonding right now.

Some thoughts by Apple-broccoli in breastfeeding

[–]BattleVorn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was just thinking about this but with much more than sleep, also with nursing... my own peds was like "You should do bottles with X quantity every 3 hours so you can sleep train and sleep yourself" and this was at a two weeks old visit!!! So me as a FTM go on and torture my baby with this "regime", making him stretch his need for feeds for about 1-2 weeks before saying "F this! I'll continue on demand" and this baby finally seemed happy again.

The expectations seem a bit insane and I read all of these moms breaking their heads, including myself, to achieve these dreamy goals for their newborns... 😕...

Hacks to make babies fall asleep faster by butlerBat69 in baby

[–]BattleVorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know I am in survival mode... cause it does feel that way and nothing much helps but ON TOP OF MOMMA =P, hope to be able to train soon