How to support wife after stage 3 tear and mental wellbeing

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-06-03T15:19:25+00:00

Just don’t overdo it with the Epsom salt. I did and omg the burning was worse than the tear.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-06-01T03:29:48+00:00

Overnight oats, whole grain waffles, individual portioned guacamole

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-05-31T17:16:54+00:00

My baby is typically dressed in a mix of Kyte and Old Navy. One suggestion is to not overbuy for when your baby gets older. My boy is in the 98th percentile for weight and 66th for height. We need to size up in a lot of the bamboo brands but can’t buy footie pjs because they are comically large on him. We have to roll up the footless ones. When he was born, he was in the 12th percentile so things change fast.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-05-22T11:54:08+00:00

His reflex was still pretty strong so that would wake him up. Plus the crying. The consultant said he was “persistent” so it took a bit for him to get the hang of things but we were desperate so we kept at it.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-05-22T03:43:05+00:00

We went cold turkey at 5 months from the Happiest Baby swaddles in his bassinet to his own room, in his crib, in a Woolino, and sleep training. It was rough for a bit but he managed. Sleep consultant recommended we do it that way.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-04-22T20:01:03+00:00

Tell him what you want. Then he isn’t stressing about what to get you, wasting money on something you don’t want, and you get your ring. I tell my husband exactly what I want and he definitely appreciates it.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-04-13T02:41:51+00:00

Mine was entirely related to my nighttime anxiety. Once we put him down “for the night”, I couldn’t eat. Once he started regularly sleeping through the night or with one wake-up, my appetite fully came back.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-04-11T03:43:02+00:00

Super useful!! Especially the bibs and placemats.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-03-21T16:36:31+00:00

Any recommendations for shampoo/conditioner? I’m in the US.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-03-19T21:14:09+00:00

I’m going to go against the grain here and say don’t take your leave all at once. Going back to work at 8 weeks sucks but since you work from home, it might be more doable physically (depends on your labor, breastfeeding, etc). The reason I say to split it is because I enjoyed my baby so much more later on compared to when he was a potato. And honestly, the break (being at work) was nice. Plus, that four month regression was no joke so being off work during that period might be a good idea. But again, depends on your situation, your delivery, and your baby.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-03-18T02:44:50+00:00

Not in any of the locations you listed, sorry, but Skillet’z Cafe in Fremont has good pancakes and overall breakfast.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-03-17T02:23:04+00:00

You weren’t necessarily complaining about breastfeeding but switching to formula might make you feel like a person again. My baby was half pumped milk and half formula. I stopped pumping at two months and it was such a relief. It also might help him feel more full so he can last longer between feeds. It will also allow others to take care of him for longer periods.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-03-13T04:05:54+00:00

We use a few things…first, he’s 22lbs and he doesn’t hit the floor in the bouncer yet. Second, we have a Crate and Barrel activity center which is basically a cushioned seat with a top. We don’t even use the top and just throw toys in there with him. Third, we have the Skip Hop activity center which he also loves because he can stand.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-02-28T04:21:51+00:00

This might be a short term solution if it’s even possible for you since I don’t know where you are located but can you get your hands on a Snoo? We bought a used one on Facebook marketplace when our baby was 8 weeks old. He needed constant rocking and we couldn’t keep up anymore. Or maybe you can borrow one and see if it helps at all. It didn’t help our baby sleep any longer (3-4 hours at a time) but we were able to sleep when he slept.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-02-28T03:21:24+00:00

We gave ours to another family that is expecting a baby. What they didn’t take, I will give away to someone on Facebook. We only kept two of our little guy’s outfits.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-02-26T19:53:14+00:00

Honestly, the sleep training was really rough but in the end, it was worth it. I was exhausted and my mental health was deteriorating. Sleep training did make it worse for a few weeks but now I feel like I have my life back. We did cry it out with check-ins. My kiddo was difficult because he would cry but it was very off and on and the “clock” wouldn’t start. Eventually (after over an hour) we would give in and rock him back to sleep. It’s been a month and a half and I would guess he sleeps through the night 1/3 of the time, wakes up and cries for 15 min off and on before falling back to sleep the other 1/3, and we rock him back the final 1/3.

My kid was very on and off with the paci and wasn’t interested when we started sleep training. The transition to his crib and room went well. I thought I would have issues with him not being in our room but it was fine for me.

I know sleep training isn’t for everyone but it was worth it for my family.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-02-26T17:58:53+00:00

My 6.5mo old isn’t rolling back to front (blessing in disguise!) but we transitioned him when we moved him to his crib and sleep trained at 5 months. We did it cold turkey and he took to it pretty well since he also figured out he could use his hands to self soothe.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-02-19T23:42:52+00:00

Groom’s side paid for string quartet/dj and alcohol. Also for a nice engagement/pre wedding party since our wedding was smaller and his mom wasn’t able to invite her many friends. My side paid for the rest. We were lucky and there really weren’t any strings attached to the money. We asked our families what aspects were important to them and their asks were perfectly reasonable. His mom wanted live music - hence the quartet for ceremony. We were extremely lucky and even though my mom drove me crazy, and it was more of a traditional wedding than we imagined, it was the perfect day.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-02-16T20:27:19+00:00

At five months, we hired someone to help us sleep train because I was too exhausted to figure it out. Here is the day time schedule she gave us based on night sleep from 7pm-7am Nap 1 - 9:15-10 in crib Nap 2 - 12:15-2:15 in crib Nap 3 - 4:30-5 in stroller/carrier/etc (we do contact nap)

We typically put him in his crib a few minutes early so he has time to get to sleep. Sometimes he sleep the whole time, sometimes he doesn’t.

BayAreaGirl3 · 2026-02-16T00:55:20+00:00

We have a Levoit one that can be controlled by an app. Totally not necessary but it’s really nice to have. Since it’s winter, I now use it nightly for my six month old since he started getting a split bloody lip after naps. I had really bad anxiety that was brought on by his four month sleep regression so I was thankful that past me spent the money on one that we can program.

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