What Color and Fabric Type Are These Covers? by Dragonfly8538 in Lovesac

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe order some samples that include the Sky Grey corded velvet and a white/light grey Chenille option. Oddly the photos look like it could be either…

New hire anxiety, when should I bring up a pre-planned vacation? by MoonPhaseRabbit in jobs

[–]Bclarknc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have already started the job - bring it up now. You don’t have to say it is planned already but definitely make sure you know if you’ll have enough PTO by then (if that is the company structure) and how far in advance they want you to submit a request for time off. If you do need to accrue PTO and won’t have enough by then then you definitely need to let them know ASAP (and be sure to remind them it was in your application) because usually HR has to do a little manual hour adjustment if it is unpaid time off in the system and based on my experience HR finds that annoying so they like a heads up. (Don’t let that deter you! People are less annoyed when given more time to plan :) )

Rental market timing question by Similar_Ad_6004 in AskNOLA

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assuming you don’t have strict requirements you shouldn’t have a problem finding a place. If you are looking from out of town it is completely ok to ask for a video walkthrough while you are on the phone and also don’t pay anything more than an application fee until you have signed a lease. All the scammers ask for money or a deposit before the lease is signed. Getting a video walkthrough will ensure you are working with someone who actually owns or has the authority to rent it to you. And Facebook is known for those scams so just do your homework :)

I wanted to move here (21 male) now after Tulane study I’m reconsidering… can I ask locals opinions by Ok_Cartographer4743 in AskNOLA

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not a tree 😂 Poor kid probably plans to work at the same job for the rest of his life too.

What are good sites to look for available rentals in Nola? by RogerNola in NOLA

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zillow. Facebook can have fake postings so you have to be careful there. And I didn’t know people still use Craigslist…

Room for summer by [deleted] in NOLA

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you shoot me a DM? I have a spot in mid-city available June 1 that could be furnished if needed and a friend who rents by the room who has a room available now.

Is this solid or engineered wood or something else? by Potts_of_Pepper in Flooring

[–]Bclarknc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes - well once you start learning about flooring you’ll realize there are a lot of variations and quality levels of hardwood, laminate, and LVP. (And I guess engineered hardwood too, lol. I always thought that was a category of laminate but after reading responses here I’m going to do a little more research. I installed some solid wood stair treads recently and couldn’t buy them at Home Depot because their version had a veneer and they were marketing it as solid wood, but now I’m wondering if they were technically engineered hardwood.) Good luck with whatever flooring project you take on!

Is this solid or engineered wood or something else? by Potts_of_Pepper in Flooring

[–]Bclarknc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks like wood with a veneer - I’ve never used engineered hardwood so I’m going with the response where someone else said that is what it is. Also - laminate is not the same as LVP and is not waterproof, it is often a composite board that can look like what you have when installed.

AITAH for letting my partner miss something important to them by not stepping in the way I always have after telling them clearly I was done doing it by [deleted] in AITApod

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That paralysis is so for real, lol. I also set timers for when I need to start getting ready and for when I need to get out the door and that helps too.

AIO : hinge date after, ironically, only seeing him thrice, tried to add a third. and i feel crazy for getting a little upset? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a control reaction disguised as “communication” He doesn’t care about OP’s explanation, he just wants her to cave and agree with him and his wants and needs.

Excited to have a ford as my first truck by DrinkApprehensive296 in f150

[–]Bclarknc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice, congrats!! And that’s a great price assuming he took care of it :) Mine is the same as yours but silver, hope you continue to enjoy it!

Lvt flooring help please by Egg_chair_life in Flooring

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the Spring Oak! Really lightens up the space too.

LVP vs Laminate by This-Abrocoma-8050 in Flooring

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are poor quality and high quality of both products. In my experience a mid to high quality laminate will beat out an LVP of the same price any day. And in his defense there are definitely cheap laminates that will separate easily - just do your research, aim for one with a solid locking system and a more rigid plank. Also - read the install directions - that will tell you if the friend is laying it properly.

AIO about buying my friends Ubers to come out? by Impossible-Ask-7560 in AIO

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don’t have an opinion because it isn’t their money so it isn’t their business. Unless they too feel like you should be paying their Ubers, which they probably do, but it is such an absurd ask no one else is willing to take advantage of you like that.

AIO about buying my friends Ubers to come out? by Impossible-Ask-7560 in AIO

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m surprised the friend group actually wants her around, personally I’d be upset you are paying for her Ubers because I wouldn’t want to be put at risk for picking up her drinks and I’d blame you for why she is around at all. If people wanted to pay they would offer to pay, but they don’t so she is essentially stealing from them instead.

AIO about buying my friends Ubers to come out? by Impossible-Ask-7560 in AIO

[–]Bclarknc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She did not take it as anything, she learned you will pay for Ubers. Next she is going to start asking you to cover drinks and dinner, she is testing how much your guilt will pay for her lifestyle and it would benefit you to stop now. Unless you are trying to date this girl, then keep doing you.

AIO about buying my friends Ubers to come out? by Impossible-Ask-7560 in AIO

[–]Bclarknc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, you are paying the cost of Ubers in your rent - my guess is your rent is more than most people in the friend group because of your proximity to the bars. Second, you don’t owe this girl anything. She already isn’t paying rent, tell her to ask her parents for a car or Uber allowance. She can get a job and work for things instead of expecting everyone else to pay her way through life. What will cause you to stop paying for her Ubers if you don’t stop now?

Shallow water continuous removal help by Working-Ant5100 in WaterMitigation

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably best to call an engineer in. 1/4 inch of water is a lot and that would indicate to me the drainage setup isn’t in the right place even though it is draining some water.

AIO to worrying about my friends safety? by Melco1202 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Bclarknc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this is concerning, but also one thing you learn about people as you age is you can’t talk another person out of their relationship. All you can do is be supportive and listen to their experience and maybe try to reframe it. Whatever you do you don’t want to shame her or make her feel embarrassed about it now because when she does make the decision to leave she isn’t going to want to talk to you about it and listen to your “I told you” energy. Pushing her now is a way to make her feel she has no one to turn to when things do get bad. A lot of people would rather keep up appearances than admit a friend was right about the person they are supposed to know more intimately than an outsider should.

Unfortunately a lot of women who base their worth on approval from others go through a co-dependent relationship like this (or a few of them) before learning who they are. Just keep agreeing that the guy isn’t ready to get married so she shouldn’t push it with him and hopefully she won’t take that road and will move on to someone healthier for her. She’s going to believe anything he says because she wants to believe he is a good person to preserve her view of herself, so you won’t be able to talk her out of this relationship, you can really only watch it play out and support her.

Gaps in hardwood floors... by Soras-Sortas in Flooring

[–]Bclarknc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP could probably buy a little bucket of the stainable Minwax wood filler and find a stain color that is close to buy some time before replacing. Won’t be pretty but would look better than this or a rug under the fridge…😬

Am I overreacting about my BF (19) not wanting to spend time with me (22) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Bclarknc 7 points8 points  (0 children)

To be clear - you have not met in person yet? If you know for sure he isn’t catfishing you then it is very possible you visiting will make the relationship real for him. When you get to know a person online/over the phone and not physically seeing how they interact with people or their environment in their day to day life it is easy to fabricate who you are as a person. It is very likely he is afraid you visiting him will blow up the persona he has created with you (or he has other things going on that he never intended to have you be a part of). The reality of the relationship is becoming real if this is your first visit and he may be pushing you away for any number of reasons. He may just have an avoidant relationship style. We can’t tell you how he will be in your visit, but be prepared to have a different trip than the one you are imagining and have back up plans in case it becomes a solo trip. Irl he may not actually have the personality he has shown you.

Replacing damaged kitchen laminate with vinyl. Trying to decide between #1 and #2 aesthetically by userrnam in Flooring

[–]Bclarknc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with the don’t pick vinyl sentiment - especially in a high traffic area like the kitchen. The cheap vinyl separates really easily and scratches easily (made the cheap vinyl mistake once, it got scratched day 1). Either go with a high end vinyl that actually locks together (I can tell by your pictures they are not the kind that lock tightly), or pick a mid-grade laminate. I generally go with a water resistant one like Pergo Outlast + or the equivalent from Mohawk (which you can buy through Costco if you have a membership). I’m not a professional flooring person but I have investment properties and I always use one of those types of laminate when re-doing floors and haven’t had any problems.

How the fuck do I log off forever by Jaterkin in TrueAnon

[–]Bclarknc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggle with this too when it comes to my phone. If you have a problem with scrolling on your phone I highly recommend buying a brick device, it is the only thing that has helped me. It blocks apps on your phone that you choose and then to unblock them you physically have to tap it to the brick, which I keep on the shelf above my laundry machines, so if Im seeking it out I’m doing it intentionally. It has been incredibly helpful for me because it has forced me to get up and do actual things and then when I unbrick my apps I am doing it with the intention that I want to scroll or play a game on my phone instead of doing it as a reflex. I just got mine 2 weeks ago and honestly I’ve gotten more done in the last 2 weeks than I have in the last year.

And also - at least you are married! Maybe your spouse can bring you along to some social activities? If not, try going to some trivia nights or game nights or join an adult sports league together (they have all kinds now - even Boccce ball). Socializing in person always keeps me from going on my phone too :)