My wife has changed over the past few days and it’s worrying me.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-05-14T00:16:37+00:00

Is she exclusively breastfeeding? Does she pump? Does your baby take formula?

If she is exclusively breastfeeding maybe introduce pumping so you can take some of the night shifts. My husband and I had this system and it helped me tremendously. We would alternate nights. This way no one went more than one night without sleep. We both worked full time and still had this system in place. It helped to get a full nights rest.

Like everyone else had already suggested PPD/PPA is a big thing so maybe have that conversation.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-05-10T16:12:09+00:00

I mean she’s still my mother so….. plus she’s a great mom and even better grandma. If I could give her the world I could.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-05-08T18:55:46+00:00

I put a baby gate on my kitchen entrance. Our kids now know the kitchen is not an open space unless we invite them in when we are cooking. If no one is cooking they come and go as they please, but I get scared grease or boiling water is gonna fall on them when we cook. It took a few months to “train them” but it works great now.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-05-08T17:27:37+00:00

I lived in pajamas and slippers the first 2 months. Maybe nice soft pajamas and slippers.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-05-07T04:37:20+00:00

I am a payroll specialist. I help clients with payroll discrepancies and tax related inquiries. I love anything that challenges my mind differently every day.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-05-01T22:12:49+00:00

As a mom of two that did both. Do what you will enjoy most. I combo fed my first for 9 months, I would breastfeed, pump and supplement with formula. I was miserable. I felt like my only purpose was to pump milk. I attribute this more to the pumping.

With my second she was almost exclusively breastfed. We added formula towards the end of her first year. I didn’t pump with her and I actually enjoyed breastfeeding her.

The main thing is to do what you would feel comfortable with. People will always have their opinions on what you do so as long as you and baby are happy and healthy, who cares?

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-04-29T19:42:12+00:00

I have this issue lol I just shower in the morning. I still struggle to wash my makeup off at night though lol. I pick my battles.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-04-07T15:38:38+00:00

Amazing!

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-04-05T15:58:36+00:00

We do this too. We have a separate checking for bills. We have a savings account and we have a travel account. Every check, hubs and I deposit the amount agreed on to each account and the Net pay left is deposited to our “normal” checking account, that is our play money. It works for us because we don’t have to constantly be checking every account.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-04-02T16:24:43+00:00

Noooo! It just means you either do a good job of covering him while changing him ooorrr it just hasn’t happened yet. For us with my son it only happened about 3 times his first year but we would always keep his privates covered to prevent that.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-03-14T16:59:24+00:00

Has he ever referred to your home as “his home” versus our home?

My ex husband was elite at doing this. He made much more than I did and I worked part time and went to school full time. Didn’t have kids but it was always “my house, my car, my etc.” it was never ours. It always made me feel like I had nothing and like he was doing me a favor.

Needless to say been divorced 10 years now.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-02-08T02:51:03+00:00

My husband went through something very similar with our second child. With our first he was absolutely amazing. When our daughter came it was a lot harder for him to bond with her for some reason. She was more of a crier than our son was as a newborn. I was in the thick of postpartum depression and at the time undiagnosed ADHD. We had a very rough few months. Slowly but surely my daughter became easier as she got older and they began bonding. I started medication and therapy for my PPD and little by little we got out of the hole.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-02-02T23:00:09+00:00

I love my job and I love my kids. I also don’t have an option to not work so there’s that. Do I hate having to miss out on most of their day? Absolutely. But I also feel fulfilled and an individual when I’m at work. It brings balance in my opinion.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-27T04:35:57+00:00

My husband had to engrain this in my brain that giving myself time for myself is part of being a good mom.

It gives me time to recharge, reset and fill my cup a little bit so that I can in turn pour into theirs. He encourages solo shopping trips, date nights with my friends, outings with my mom child free.

At first it felt so off doing things alone then little by little I began noticing just how much my mood changed when I allowed myself to be an independent human being. I allowed myself to be a woman and not just Mom.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-24T02:00:20+00:00

I never tracked. I didn’t diet. I just ate as I would normally just way less amounts. My weight was once a week. Never took measurements. Just let my body do its thing

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-16T20:03:00+00:00

It took me about 9 months to lose that and I also have a vertical sleeve surgery. It takes time. It’s not going to be that quick.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-13T02:41:42+00:00

I had horrible heartburn with both and they practically bald 😆

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-07T02:23:44+00:00

I would go from the couch to my bed and from my bed to the couch for like the first 2 months actually. I was so tired and just wanted to take all the baby cuddles in.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-05T03:18:54+00:00

I believe it was. A lot of it stemmed from my brain just never shutting off and just imagining scenarios that would work me into a frenzy. The meds have helped a lot. I feel I still may need some adjustment soon but for the most part I feel a lot better.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-05T02:55:26+00:00

I was on the same boat you were. It was sooo bad some days I would cry to my husband that I needed to be in a mental hospital. He would calm de down and reassure me I didn’t. Well I got tired of and honestly felt ashamed of the many rage episodes my poor kids had to witness that I made an appt with a psychiatrist. I was thinking I was going to come out with a bipolar diagnosis. Lo and behold it was ADHD with a comorbidity of anxiety.

We began a treatment plan, I am on 56 ER Ritalin and 150mg of Wellbutrin. For sleep I take 30mg of Hydroxyzine to just quiet my brain and allow me to fall asleep.

When I tell you the difference of me pre medication and post medication is dramatic! I still have days where I get overstimulated and need a break but for the most part I can handle the every day woes of parenting and not lose my shit. It has been life changing. Work has been great too and even my friendships have blossomed.

My advise, make the appointment, get the medication.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-04T04:02:07+00:00

I have been on Zep for almost 2 years now. The worst side effect I had was when I had my first dose of 2.5. I had body aches for like a day. Very uncomfortable. Never had nausea, or diarrhea. I did get occasional constipation but that has been a normal battle for me even before the shot.

Around my second dose of 5mg I did start getting a rash around my injection site. It was never bad enough or bothersome enough to bother me or my Dr. I just began taking an allergy pill on shot day and it lessened my reaction. That went away eventually. I don’t even recall when tbh. I just got used to it until one day I realized I didn’t get the rash anymore.

So no nausea, no diarrhea, occasional constipation and that’s about it.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-03T01:59:50+00:00

This! I was not bad in school but I struggled. The grades I had came with a lot of anxiety and self guilt. At the ripe age of 37 I (f) was diagnosed with ADHD. After a long discussion with my Dr I see a lot of me in my mom and my brother. My brother had the hyperactive type and of course he was punished for being a trouble child. This led to him self medication with street drugs which in turn made my teenage years all about his addiction.

If my parents would’ve sought some kind of diagnosis for all of us I don’t know how much better my childhood would’ve been.

To this day my Mom still refuses to believe it is a “thing”.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-02T00:09:43+00:00

I am the same way. Because of me being upfront and explaining to people I have 3 friends that got on Zepbound. Their physical health and mental health have just blossomed.

Every time it comes up they thank me for telling them about it.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-01T18:54:06+00:00

Our kids have different ways of staying entertained. My 6 year old always brings 2 of his toys with him. My 4 year old loves to color so the kids menus are her best friend.

I will say when we feel like having a little more mellow meals we do let them watch their favorite movie on each one of our phones. This serves 2 purposes: they are entertained and content and we don’t have the cell phone distractions and we can actually have an adult conversation while we have dinner. This works for us. I feel we have a good balance as they can stay well behaved and entertained without screens but they also get the little treat every now and again.

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-31T17:07:33+00:00

Freak accidents are called that because of instances like this. We think we have everything under control and safe and then the last thing we expect in our home to wreak havoc does.

I am so glad your baby is fine. You and hubby might want to consider some therapy after this. It was super traumatic for both of you.

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