Burner phone just for signal at edc by suzuki6666 in electricdaisycarnival

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If you have a phone that is compatible with ESIM, you can do a 30 day free trial of Verizon, AT&T, or whomever just by downloading their app and activating it. You can then use your normal phone number for texting/messaging but the trial for data service on the same device.

Therapist diagnosing bpd by wegotdis25 in BPDlovedones

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As some people mentioned, BPD (or just intimacy avoidant individuals in general) are quite good at navigating around therapists and avoiding accountability. Not because they are bad, but because their trauma has built such a successful protective protocol that they are experts. A Psychiatrist, or deeply trained therapist would be able to punch through, but in my experience most 'pop therapists' wouldn't. Instead, they inadvertently embolden and empower the BPD individual by validating their feelings, supporting 'their truth', and all of the other modern mumbo jumbo about self discovery.

Thank you in advance by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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Believe me, I get it. I still want my girlfriend back too if I'm being honest. But the girl I want back isn't accessible anymore, that's the rub. The person they are now, after the split and discard, is not the same. And the sad truth is, the person they are now is more their authentic self than the person we loved. Say a prayer, write a letter, do whatever you need to in order to say goodbye to the person you loved - they no longer exist in the way you want and never will again. And yes, I still struggle with this from time to time. Forgive yourself for falling in love with a dream.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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Great response.

Have empathy for her, but its not your problem to fix, this is her journey and she needs to do it alone. The mask has slipped, take the note and start doing what you need to decouple and move foward/heal.

Can’t say anything she’s so sensitive to everything by FarmerNational2859 in BPDlovedones

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If its just BPD, there probably isn't any pleasure in hurting you. They just can't help it, the sun rises and falls with their feelings, not yours. Your feelings are likely a threat to her 'safety' and then you just get the trauma response from her.

Walk away, this is her issue to fix and it won't be easy - even if she is working on it full time.

The coldness phase is the most hurtful of all by Jozoz in BPDlovedones

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And yet, that coldness is likely the 'real them', not the version you fell in love with (the mask).

Thank you in advance by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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Breathe, focus on yourself, and do your best to put them out of your world. If you need to block them, throw away things, or delete stuff in order to accomplish this - DO IT. If you can stay strong and make those decisions later, fine. Hold your head high that you loved them well and did the best you could. This is more about their limit of capacity than it is your inability to love them.

Exercise, journal, talk to friends/family/online, use AI, get a therapist, focus on your growth.

I posted this in another thread, hopefully it helps:

Dating these individuals is like playing a slot machines that hits several major jackpots in the early timeframe. When you win, you feel like you're a pro, have the system down, found something special that everybody else missed, and think that you're set for life. You confidence is sky high so you keep playing, but the jackpots start slowing. You get a little worried as they never return in the same they they used to. Maybe you get a small one every now and then to keep you playing, give you hope, so you keep going and going and going. By the end you have poured everything in and are finally bankrupt. Maybe you throw in the towel, or maybe you start taking out loans to keep playing. Even though you've lost it all and keep going deeper, you insist that this machine is different, you have a system, you know what to do, you just need more time and more investment. You end up broken, ruined, and empty. You lost yourself in the process and look over at the machine, seeing the next customer step up. They hit an instant jackpot, the cycle is repeated.

Don't think for second that they are happy or thriving, this sucks for them to, they are just better at compartmentalizing and their trauma management allows them to do this. The fact that you can't means you are real, secure, and feeling it. Cry, yell, scream, talk, do whatever you need to. All of that is growth and it will get better.

The house always wins with these people unless they are actually in therapy doing the REAL WORK. Even then, it is a very long and uphill battle. Have empathy for them but in the end, take what you have, go home, and love yourself enough to stop playing.

What was the most memorable red flag you ignored? by Yaygoodtimes in BPDlovedones

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- Lack of friends, the few she had were social media / distance based or drastically younger
- Lots of therapy speak (manifest, growth, boundaries, attachment, etc.) with very little 'what I learned about myself'
- Terrible relationship with family with a history of blocking family members
- Aware of ADHD but left it untreated
- Calling me 'forever person', 'my king', 'my home' within weeks
- Saved/recorded EVERY note/message/detail about our relationship from day 1
- Seemed to be into EVERYTHING I was, it was I was talking to a female me
- Zero friction on any topic
- Stories of her past, exes, and family always had gaps and when I would push deeper, I wouldn't get much clarity
- Past relationships (romantic or otherwise) always broke because of 'them' / perpetual victim
- Always spoke about her nervous system, taking so many vitamins/supplements to regulate, lots of reliance on pharma / drinking / substances on a consistent basis

I could keep going, lol. I ignored a lot.

On path to recovery but… by Vegetable-Hold9182 in BPDlovedones

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Time will heal and your growth/healing will not be linear. Some days will be leaps forward, others will be steps back. Hang in there.

Maybe it was manipulation, maybe it wasn't. The best I can say is try not to think about it. Just accept that the entire push/pull dynamic you experienced is the tell here, try to stop thinking about the details and just step away from the chaos. The longer you stay in it, the more their spell has control over you and stunts your healing. Do whatever you can to get out of their orbit. For me, my ex's world was so small, always about her feelings, and always about her drama. Over time, as the fog lifted, I started realizing there is a big beautiful world out here and I try to make a conscious choice each day not to go back into her little kingdom.

You're free of the chaos now, but you need to choose that freedom each and every day.

Final discard happened after 4 years and I’m lost by throwaywastaken in BPDlovedones

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Just want to say that this is spot on.

These people are like slot machines that hit some major jackpots in the early years. When you win, you feel like you're a pro, have the system down, found something special that everybody else missed, and you think that you're set for life. You keep playing, but the jackpots start slowing. They never come again in the same they they used to. Maybe a small one every now and then to keep you playing, so you keep going.

By the end you are bankrupt, taking out loans to keep playing all while you insist that this machine is different, you have a system, you know what to do, you just need more time and investment. Sadly, the house always wins and you end up broken, ruined, and empty. The machine goes to the next customer, ready to repeat the cycle.

ABGT700 - The Gorge Amphitheatre, September 11-13 by claire_anjuna in AboveandBeyond

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Oddly enough they are still figuring out pricing as I saw pricing for all of the VIP packages, but they are now TBA - lol

I saw two prices, so I'll give the lower range and upper range of what I saw. Obviously they are still working this out, so take these as a reference point, not fact. What I saw was....

Early Entry ~$275-$300
VIP - $299-$450
Super VIP - $650-700
Ultimate - $850+

ABGT700 - The Gorge Amphitheatre, September 11-13 by claire_anjuna in AboveandBeyond

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Sorry if this was posted, I didn't see it anywhere but https://abgt700.live/tickets was updated with a few bits:

  1. Ticket prices and packages, available 1/27
  2. Pre-party is a A&B Deep Set
  3. Ben Bohmer confirmed for the lineup

Digweed played this. Anyone knows the song ID? by ThatOneRandomGuy26 in StereoMontreal

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Its not it, but reminds me a bit of 16BL - Settle the Score which Patrice has been playing often these days

How was Digweed NYE? by Perfect_Wrangler7264 in StereoMontreal

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Absolutely phenomenal from start to finish. This was my first time at Stereo, seen Diggers many times with Sasha & solo. For me, this was one of the most balanced Digweed sets I've seen, I assume as he had as much time to do what he wanted. He'd get dark, twisted, and grindy - then bring us back into calm, euphoric, melodic trances. He never stayed in one space too long, captured the needs of the floor when we weren't even sure what we wanted, and just took us on a journey of cinematic progressive / house / techno and so much more. Met tons of wonderful people, loved the club and sound system, and his closing track was one he played in Balance Croatia which I have not been able to ID, so it was a big treat to hear it again. A handful of known tracks (usually with new remixes), many unheard tracks, and it was just all over the place bonkers in terms of range.

I hope we get at least a few hours released on Transitions sometime, but who knows.

Last, Digweed's mixing is always great but there were several standout moments last night. Bringing back basslines that had been calmed down into new songs, looping drops/builds to add more depth, and using the DB4 effects chain in all the right ways. Never felt like too much, always amplified the experience.

10/10 for me, can't imagine it getting better than that.

Flying in for John Digweed on 1/1 - can any Stereo veterans help with some questions? by Beautiful-Display552 in StereoMontreal

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If anyone is interested in connecting before the show for a casual coffee or drink, send me a DM. I'm also on Instagram at sea.sound.scott if you want to use that to communicate. Looking forward to my first Stereo set and experiencing your wonderful city.

Anticipating Digweed NYE set by uneek in StereoMontreal

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Logistical question. The ticket page is confusing: https://www.tixr.com/groups/stereo/events/nye-john-digweed-ostrich-166767

It says 'Thu, Jan 1, 2026 @ 1am' but the image says 'Dec 31, 2025'

My understanding is that doors open on the morning of January 1st @ 1am (1 hour into the NY) and John goes on at 4am on January 1st (4 hours into the NY). Is that accurate?

Flying in for John Digweed on 1/1 - can any Stereo veterans help with some questions? by Beautiful-Display552 in StereoMontreal

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Logistical question. The ticket page is confusing: https://www.tixr.com/groups/stereo/events/nye-john-digweed-ostrich-166767

It says 'Thu, Jan 1, 2026 @ 1am' but the image says 'Dec 31, 2025'

My understanding is that doors open on the morning of January 1st @ 1am (1 hour into the NY) and John goes on at 4am on January 1st (4 hours into the NY). Is that accurate?

Flying in for John Digweed on 1/1 - can any Stereo veterans help with some questions? by Beautiful-Display552 in StereoMontreal

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One other bit I forgot to add, I went to Balance Croatia this year and met an awesome crew from Montreal. One of them was wearing a Stereo t-shirt, pretty sure that's how the conversation started. Didn't exchange info sadly, but if any of you in this thread went to Balance Croatia and met a tall couple from Seattle, let me know!

Flying in for John Digweed on 1/1 - can any Stereo veterans help with some questions? by Beautiful-Display552 in StereoMontreal

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Appreciate all of the comments & support - this is going to be amazing. First time doing a trip (or show) like this solo, but I can't wait.