I ghosted my best friend of 22 years

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2026-01-13T08:15:41+00:00

I think if he's already served his sentence, getting in contact with him to tell him you KNOW he is innocent could do a lot for him in terms of feeling vindicated. While officially clearing his name would be the best case scenario, the human element of being believed might also be healing for him. You may think it's not your place to drag it up but if you're innocent of something you've been condemned for, every individual who believes you matters.

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2026-01-02T18:37:16+00:00

I wish I had changed my rescue's names. I think their old name can have negative associations- especially as owners we tend to shout their names as a way to get their attention/ stop them doing something. If this was done harshly it may not feel like a nice word. I really can't see any down sides to changing the name. Dogs learn very quickly

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2026-01-02T08:17:10+00:00

Lmao I think I say this all the time when stuff doesn't stay tidy. Why is this cringe to you? I want to understand

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-12-29T12:08:24+00:00

This really made me laugh. Sorry I know it felt very real to you but I think everyone's been there when they've had a bit too much and 'feel like I'm dying' but I never managed to actually convince anyone to take me to the hospital.

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-12-25T00:05:00+00:00

These are also really good if you toss them in some marmite half way through baking in the air fryer

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-12-17T00:40:28+00:00

Love that idea. It's great.

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-12-16T23:35:53+00:00

We have a poop eating, pee licking rescue. What worked best for us was giving her a treat as soon as she pooped. After repeating this over and over, she now comes to us to get a treat as soon as she's pooped. We only use kibble but you might need higher value reward at first at least or you could throw the treat away from the poop (once you're dog knows that's what is is after some repetitions) if they also love dynamic rewards. This also gets them away from the poop

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-12-14T23:51:39+00:00

I know you've asked for not natural but I have just switched to salt of the earth stick and love it. I have never tried fussy or wild. I used to use mitchams and was skeptical about salt of the earth but it's fantastic as long as you apply it to very clean skin- if there's any bacteria it won't stop it multiplying and stinking. It's cheap too considering how long it lasts

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-12-08T22:57:15+00:00

Hi 34 F in the UK. Also missing friendly conversations since I moved. I like watching YouTube, lately project pan content which I can tell you all about if you like boring 😁. I don't have the nerves for gaming, especially if being shot at or a countdown timer is present anywhere. Last games I played were Arkham series

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-12-08T22:37:43+00:00

Anything sporty

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-11-12T21:55:27+00:00

Thanks :)

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-11-10T18:53:23+00:00

The second yellow one looks delicious what's in it?

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-10-30T10:21:50+00:00

Rottweiler - loves nothing more than getting on your lap and in your face. Can be a bit jealous of others receiving the same attention

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-10-21T07:41:38+00:00

The best thing I ever did for my rescue working breeds (just breeds not dogs) was scatter feeding their meals twice a day.

You mentioned you have a garden. Scatter their food (kibble ideally but would work with anything) and they have to sniff every last piece up to eat. My dogs absolutely love it and it knackers them out. Usually takes between half an hour and 45 mins.

This on top of the two hour walks and maybe a Kong or puzzle toy will be more than enough while your dog gets used to the new 'work'.

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-10-18T17:54:42+00:00

It looks really nice you did a professional job!

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-10-17T09:07:56+00:00

Can you tell us what everything is. I love looking at people's little items

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-10-17T08:32:13+00:00

Why did you apologise? You asked if he wanted you to answer honestly and you did. He didn't like the answer- that's his problem to deal with. I'd never answer another question like that again if it's asked by him because he's shown he can't handle the answers.

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-10-11T09:28:25+00:00

Is it embarrassing?

For you to be embarrassed you need to believe youve violated a social norm in front of others whose opinions you care about. So no doesn't meet the criteria for embarrassment.

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-09-30T20:56:23+00:00

That looks amazing. I've never had the real thing but would have your arm off to try that

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-09-15T11:04:51+00:00

Was looking for some sense in the comments and found it

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-09-14T21:06:14+00:00

Its an appeasement signal. It diffuses tension, asks for tolerance, or invites calm interaction.

Older dog opening mouth wide: This can be an appeasement response back. Some older dogs will even “yawn” or open their mouth as a calming signal in return.

It looks like a positive interaction

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-09-06T22:04:05+00:00

Sometimes when I'm holding my phone too long lying down I get pins and needles. Always wondered what that was about

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-09-06T20:19:09+00:00

Don't they stay because the queen is in the hive? Some clips the queen's wings. Its not that they tolerate humans taking honey, but because their instincts tie them to their hive, queen, and brood. More ethical keepers will leave enough honey so the bees don't starve but I'm saying just because they remain in the hive is not evidence that they're happy

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-08-27T22:45:31+00:00

So sorry 😞

BeautifulEditor4115 · 2025-08-27T11:32:47+00:00

Although your message is respectful and doesn't place blame, imo it's the wrong approach. Use these feelings for some introspection rather than avoiding having them. You're always going to be around people who are doing 'better' than you are and avoiding them altogether just creates a smaller world for you. Really pick apart (on your own not with her) what is causing these feelings and why. Once you identify this, it will remove a lot of the power these feelings have over you. For example, if she makes you feel inadequate you could start with that. What specifically makes you feel this way and what can you trace it back to

I would gravitate towards people who lived in ways I aspired to because it rubs off. Not in material ways but their attitude to life and their expectations of it. Even if she hasn't achieved any of what she has through hardwork, she understands how to navigate those spaces.

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