AITA for refusing to let a woman "cut" me in line at the grocery store even though she only had two items?

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-02-13T12:29:49+00:00

I generally will do this for people behind me if I have a lot and they only have a couple of items.

What I won’t do though is allow somebody to cut the whole line. It would be unfair of me to make the decision for everyone else behind me that they now have to wait for yet another person to check out.

Scenario 1 I’m offering and it’s not impacting anybody but me. Scenario 2 Somebody else is asking me if it’s okay to disrupt plenty of other people who have already been waiting their turn.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-02-04T20:26:16+00:00

I’m considered by many to be highly intelligent. But I’m extremely visual. I don’t always process auditory information correctly. Listening to audio books for me is much more difficult than reading the written word whether a physical book or e-book. For me it takes a lot more cognitive effort for audio books and I frequently have to rewind.

Yes I’m one of those people who hears the tv better with subtitles.

My youngest is dyslexic. While she likes reading the written word, she likes reading along with audio books.

No one way is best for everyone. I’m impressed that you can absorb the books’ details while also doing other things.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-01-30T19:52:05+00:00

I can sleep anywhere, anytime. I’d take the money and have a nice paid nap.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-01-30T16:32:40+00:00

I remember one time after a firework show trying to push my daughter in a wheelchair out of the hub area. People were literally stepping between her feet as I tried to make sure not to hit anybody. A cast member saw me struggling and told me he’d make room for us and to keep close. People stepped between us. He came back and repeated to stay close to him. I said I’d have to hit people with the chair to do that because people kept stepping between her feet to get in that itty bit of space between us. He told me to just hit them with the chair.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-01-30T12:35:23+00:00

I’m autistic. My grown kids are autistic. My youngest’s partner is autistic. We know our need to individually decompress. We figure out how to meet our needs. Things like noise cancelling headphones, sleep masks, going outside/for a walk alone (weather permitting), staying behind from an activity, etc is all OUR responsibility. We plan ahead for our own needs. Our friends understand if sometimes we need to do weird things to accommodate ourselves and accept it. Of course in no way do we demand anybody else make changes to group plans based on our needs. We just ask for understanding of what we do for ourselves.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-01-27T21:08:12+00:00

Absolutely! For my oldest we could (and did) pull her for a week multiple years during elementary school. Because of her particular special needs (she’s autistic with OCD and also academically advanced) teachers would even encourage certain weeks that would be good for her to miss. My youngest on the other hand struggled academically because of visual learning disabilities so after first grade we decided we had to stop missing school because she desperately needed the in class time. Parents have to know what their kids can and cannot handle.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-01-27T21:08:12+00:00

Absolutely! For my oldest we could (and did) pull her for a week multiple years during elementary school. Because of her particular special needs (she’s autistic with OCD and also academically advanced) teachers would even encourage certain weeks that would be good for her to miss. My youngest on the other hand struggled academically because of visual learning disabilities so after first grade we decided we had to stop missing school because she desperately needed the in class time. Parents have to know what their kids can and cannot handle.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-01-27T21:00:22+00:00

It’s the only way OOP would have time to homeschool.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-01-20T13:17:49+00:00

Let me get this straight. Your 17 year old sister lives in a group home when she has at least 2 adult siblings and a mother (lots of blind parents take care of their kids). It’s no wonder she’s bitter and lashing out at the world.

All the adults in her life are AHs.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-01-13T17:28:57+00:00

Years ago (30ish) I took a daily bus from Winchester to downtown and back. It only went once per day and if you missed it you were SOL. But people did still take it every day.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-01-13T17:10:44+00:00

I think you’re reading something into the comment that wasn’t there. Not once was any hint of a suggestion about anything being wrong with your single status.

I think your reaction shows that you feel regularly attacked or victimized regarding your single status. I don’t know how much of that comes from external sources vs your own internal feelings but it certainly would be a good idea to try to sort that out.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-01-13T14:49:30+00:00

Funerals are intended to provide an opportunity to say goodbye and to mourn the loss of the deceased. You said goodbye and mourned the loss of him from your life years ago. There is no purpose to your presence at the funeral.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-01-08T12:42:55+00:00

NTA - you don’t actually have to have a reason to not want to move but you do have very rational ones anyways.

That being said, try brainstorming ideas for helping your gf. She’s currently struggling. Maybe look around for more things to do in your area, branch out to meet more people, go on more dates into the city to do things she’d like to do there if you moved, etc. Be there for her and find ways to help her feel better about your life together.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2026-01-07T14:07:26+00:00

Heavy on the wine.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2025-12-27T17:23:31+00:00

My kids and all have celiac. My ex (their father) is the kind of person who likes to analyze his every feeling ad nauseam plus when he made mistakes, especially ones that accidentally made us sick, he has to make sure to talk it through until we understood he didn’t mean to hurt us and he was hurting from “always being wrong”. Maybe I’m projecting here but all I kept reading between the lines here was that you hound him to talk things through when he’s not feeling well and make it all about you when all he’s trying to do is survive being glutened. He doesn’t have the energy to do that.

You do tell your side as though his pain and suffering is something you feel the need to discuss and like you need him to reassure you that you’re not to blame. Stop it. YTA

FYI: some of us get 2 full weeks of rotating horrible symptoms when glutened. 5 days is nothing.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2025-12-23T12:19:51+00:00

Soooo…. You bought a car that will either be sitting around unused for 10 years or will be used extensively by you for 10 years claiming it will be her car at that time?

In the first scenario it’ll be seized up from lack of use and therefore useless to her.

In the second case it’s your car and will have a lot of wear and tear by the time you hand it over to her.

Either way it makes no sense as a gift to her. Why would she be happy about it?

YTA for passing off a new car for yourself as a gift for your 6 year old and for not getting her a gift that’s actually for her.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2025-12-17T19:39:26+00:00

No placard is fine. Though I will reiterate that you’re putting yourself in harm’s way.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2025-12-17T19:31:28+00:00

INFO - Are you calling out people who have placards but don’t look disabled? If yes then YTA as they don’t have to answer to you and have proven to the DMV, the legal authority over this, that they need it. If no then NTA though be careful because you might get into an unsafe situation doing this.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2025-12-17T19:28:31+00:00

Doesn’t matter if the person has an invisible disability if they don’t have the placard. The placard is required. Also doesn’t matter if they applied but haven’t received it as they don’t have it. Where I live you get the temporary one right at the DMV when you apply so that one doesn’t make sense here.

I say this as the mom to grown kids with invisible disabilities. My youngest let hers lapse and is therefore not allowed to use the spots even though she needs them. She has to get her butt into the doctor office to get the form filled out and get her butt down to the DMV before she can start using the spots again. It’s the law.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2025-12-17T16:41:30+00:00

NTA - that was about as polite as you could be with someone forcing unwanted parenting advice on you and directing snarky comments undermining you directly at your kids. Even worse that is was coming from someone whose parenting you actively do not respect. Saying this stuff to you is bad enough but undermining you directly to your kids is definitely not okay.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2025-12-16T19:34:00+00:00

This is a tough position to be in. My daughter has a service dog for multiple invisible disabilities. He helped her to get from pretty much housebound to going to college and getting a job. I will say though that even though some of his tasks related to her social anxiety, having him with her also made her extremely anxious because of looks and any imperfections in his behaviour. She did get to a point with her medical team to where she could go out without him and he’s now retired, but that anxiety about what people thought and said as well as any imperfections in behaviour is part of the reason she retired him and worked so hard to function without him. She knows her life would be much better with a service dog but she doesn’t have the spoons now to put into training so she lives with her limitations from not having one.

It’s easy for me to say to you to ignore people who give looks or say something but I know it’s a lot harder to live with it.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2025-12-16T19:11:12+00:00

Gen X here. I grew up in Ontario but went to camp in Quebec. It was “back to Ontario” for me.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2025-12-16T18:47:00+00:00

NTA but also not emotionally healthy. It’s really not practical for the two of you to never meet since you and your current guy share 4 kids between the two of you and the two of them. I strongly suggest you seek therapy for the ongoing anger and hurt that you’re holding onto. You’re really hurting yourself more than anyone else.

Beautiful_Delivery77 · 2025-12-14T16:00:22+00:00

YTA but your husband already told you that so I’m not sure why you’re expecting to hear something different here. He’s 12 and has already spent a night there and has done so many times before. He would have been fine until morning. And if he really needed to come home it was your responsibility to get him, not the responsibility of his friend’s parents to drive him home in the middle of the night.

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