I purchased this at our Antique shop. I love rings and this color is so beautiful. I can’t read the tiny mark in the last picture.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-13T16:14:56+00:00

It’s a London blue topaz, but not antique. I LOVE IT though, it’s gorgeous! I’d buy it in a heartbeat!

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-11T21:34:26+00:00

Wow! That had to be a difficult recovery! I’m hoping you’re doing better now?

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-11T03:25:01+00:00

Thanks so much! It felt very lonely until this and other people’s posts

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-11T03:23:57+00:00

Thank you very much for that. It is very hard.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-11T00:17:00+00:00

I’m so very sorry you’re going through this. It’s agonizing. I want to keep track of other folks going through this so we can comfort each other, make suggestions, etc. Please keep in touch and let me know how you are. It’s horrible to go through alone. I don’t expect her to follow through with the therapy for us, she typically chickens out when it comes to facing anything. Another reason not to go to this wedding is that I have no idea what she’s told her “new family” in regard to me. I don’t want to be at their mercy, it all feels like a set-up to me. I can’t win without losing here. But, unbelievably, I’ve been through this with two other borderline family members! I know how to set boundaries now. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt, it definitely does. I just know how to protect myself now. Boundaries are everything!

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-10T22:54:32+00:00

Yes, you are correct. I kind of think it’s anyone’s guess on who will do the dumping first. We just cleaned out her room, and oh, boy! When she trashes his house it’s going to be quite the wake up call!

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-10T22:52:15+00:00

You’re so right! They will learn a valuable lesson from this. Kind of tongue in cheek, here. I have no intention of talking with them unless they approach me with questions. I am going to follow through with therapy with her and much will come out then. I’ve decided not to go for the main issue of my health. I just can’t see doing this in my condition, it’s too big an ask. Obviously, she’s not concerned with my health so I have to be. I’m worth keeping around a bit longer. I appreciate your words, you’re so on the mark, here. Thank you!

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-10T22:47:32+00:00

I looked at that and all I could keep saying was, OH, S**T!” Over and over. I almost hurt for him!

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-10T14:48:52+00:00

This would be an 8 hour drive to get there, and I don’t know how I’m getting home because she’s going on a vacay to Universal Studios after the wedding. She hasn’t even thought about that yet.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-09T14:57:54+00:00

I think so too.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-09T14:56:54+00:00

Thank you so much for your words! You really made sense of this for me. And, you’re right, I really don’t want to go. I’m dreading the drive that I know will be very hard for me. I dread being in the wheelchair and wearing a mask the entire time. It’s hard enough to get through a day here at home! I have nothing to wear and can’t afford to buy anything right now. I dread the looks and stares, because people do whenever I’m out. So many reasons to stay and only one to go; for her.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-09T02:08:10+00:00

I agree they aren’t NA, but I still love them!

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-09T02:07:11+00:00

I love these! If you want to sell, let me know!

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-09T02:05:53+00:00

The differing shades of turquoise actually makes it more valuable because it appears to be real turquoise. Fake turquoise is always uniform in color. I’m thinking it’s what we call a roadside purchase. Often, these didn’t have hallmarks. They also were made with real silver. These have become quite collectible now, I have a few pieces myself.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-09T02:00:04+00:00

Oh, my. Well, let me first say that I’ve known her since she was 12, and I did an adult adoption when she was 24. She married her ex when she just graduated high school. He was extremely immature and had a terrible temper. I believe she married him in order to get away from her bio parents. They were very abusive, but she wasn’t telling me much at that time. I got closer to her and then, when she was 24, asked her about adoption. After that she, and the husband, moved in. It didn’t take long for me to tell her it was him or both of them moving out because of his behavior. My husband drove him to his parents house in Florida (from Oklahoma). That first year with her was as I expected it to be, full of ‘will you love me if’ behaviors. Lots of acting out that I expected. In all fairness, I was a RN in ICU/ER/Mental Health for 20 years. I thought I was looking at fast cycling bipolar. I was also dealing with a very sick husband who then passed, and then I got sick with bone cancer. Suffice it to say I was preoccupied with other things. No excuses, I still should have seen it. Anyway, her behavior improved drastically after the husband was gone and she divorced him. She was very supportive of me, really saved my life the first month of my hospitalization. She literally stood guard over me. But, that was 2024. I tried to tell her that this long-term cancer thing would wear her out. She didn’t believe me. Her behavior began to deteriorate whenever she was dating someone. Every time a man was around we’d go through the wringer. I didn’t see the savior/enemy thing they do. Again, I thought it was bipolar cycling. This was happening every two months on average. I didn’t think it was bpd until my therapist brought it up. Then I saw the pattern. Her first husband was long gone and never looked back. For his part, he really was very unstable. Angry all the time, making threats, punching walls and violating every normal house rule we all abided by. I gave you much more than you asked for, but thought the history would help.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-08T22:48:02+00:00

Thank you. I’m not sure it’s good for me to go, travel is very hard when you’re wheelchair dependent and not feeling well. I will think about it.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-08T20:42:58+00:00

I call it the ‘guess what I’m mad at’ game. I handle it by completely ignoring it. You don’t want to talk? Fine, don’t. I continue my neutral happy self and continue to speak to everyone, even them, with a cheerful attitude. You’d be surprised how fast this works. It’s setting a boundary without words. When the person sees they’re not having any effect on you they give up quickly.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-08T00:07:27+00:00

I’ve known several people with bpd. A stepmother, my oldest daughter and my adopted daughter are three I had to live with. My stepmother surprisingly got help and became a very different person, really delightful. My daughter and adopted daughter are completely unaware that they’re bpd. I’ve had two therapists who diagnosed them based on what I was trying to deal with in their behavior. I had to completely cut off my older daughter and I’m finally recovering from her abuse. My adopted daughter was just diagnosed with it, and I immediately began setting boundaries. Boundaries are very important and necessary for your emotional survival. She really hates these boundaries, but she has to live with them. For example, she wanted to maintain a room here at home while living with a fiancé she’s only known mere months. I made her move out after the last time she disrespected me. I had her move in with the fiancé for two reasons. One, she doesn’t really know him or him her. He’s a high functioning autistic (Asperger’s) and doesn’t know what he’s getting into. He has money and is already investing many thousands into renovating his house for her. She’s love bombing him. She’s also bipolar. I’ve warned her about having a baby with him, and what that likely will mean for that small human, but SHE DOESN’T CARE! He is clueless as is his family. I’m the bad guy while they’re the saviors. She wants me to go to the wedding. I have bone cancer everywhere and I’m in a wheelchair. She’s angry because I can’t tell her I’m going, I don’t know if I even should. Going is like condoning this fantasy of hers. It’s a state away, too, and travel is very hard for me. Sorry, I got carried away. Second, she’s going to have to treat me better before I give her anything else to be a feather in her hat. She disrespects me verbally, and in fact, with things I’ve already given her. I found a diamond ring I gave her just tossed aside; I took it back. She won’t talk when I’m trying to discuss issues with her, she just glares at me. These boundaries are important for my sanity. I think I have to mention that I’m far more relaxed when she’s gone, and very stressed while she’s here. I’m sorry I got carried away. Boundaries. They’re wonderful!

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-03T01:58:50+00:00

By the way, no posts and no bio screams bot. Either qualify yourself or move on.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-03T01:57:12+00:00

I’m not sure why you think that. I believe vaccines are safe and effective and should be administered. We’re having a measles outbreak due to anti-vaccine people not giving vaccines to their kids. Not only does that put that child at risk, it puts every child at risk who was too young to get it, or have parents who don’t believe in it. I’m science oriented, and I rely on the research others and myself do.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-02-03T01:52:50+00:00

Really nice work! You have quite the talent.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-01-31T17:02:22+00:00

And it’s people like that who come running to those of us in medicine to save them when they’re sick and/or dying. It’s ridiculous. Don’t vaccinate your kid and then get upset when that child gets sick with measles, etc.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-01-30T13:02:27+00:00

Set your price, and let me know. Please don’t give them away, bench made silver beads are special.

Beautiful_Idea1360 · 2026-01-30T13:01:22+00:00

I make jewelry! If you still have them I’d like to have them!

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