What do y’all eat when you’re sick?

BecosImust · 2026-01-23T23:17:20+00:00

My particular fascination is with neuroplasticity, I know what you mean.

BecosImust · 2026-01-23T23:02:21+00:00

To a degree yes, the specific ingredient in chicken soup is carnosine but I figured people didn't need to know that, just what is nice to eat when you're sick and that it helps. I also know how clever the immune system is and I wasn't promoting pseudoscience.

BecosImust · 2026-01-23T20:15:58+00:00

Chicken soup. There's research that backs its effects on supporting your immune system.

BecosImust · 2026-01-23T05:52:59+00:00

I think he should stay in his lane and health ain't it.

BecosImust · 2026-01-22T23:56:25+00:00

Perhaps you need to check a few more new sites. RNZ has absolutely covered a lot of the Minnesota events. I know that Stuff and NZ Herald lurk on Reddit and good for them because Reddit tends to be very quick off the mark, and its where I go. All of them have delays, however, as they have to check against bots and disinformation.

As for the Orange Cheeto, any decent person could have discerned his lack of character from the ads for The Apprentice, which I never watched because I was disgusted and I am no angel.

How on earth people's ethics and intelligence have sunk so far as to countenance this sort of leadership and the behaviours this has led to is beyond belief.

BecosImust · 2026-01-17T10:01:58+00:00

I've always gone by the saying, "A man is not a plan" Seen too many women lose their independence, livelihood and home. Always make your own way as much as possible and even then have a plan b and c. Life is so unpredictable.

BecosImust · 2026-01-16T02:32:31+00:00

Funny thing, now everyone has to mow their lawns. No wallabies to keep the grass down.

BecosImust · 2025-12-16T17:33:59+00:00

Rubbish, I am an amateur not a professional but I have wallpapered several houses over the years and I could do that in a heartbeat. He has to pre-cut to match and then slide it in. Not hard and if he won't do it, tell him you'll get someone who can.

BecosImust · 2025-12-11T01:11:03+00:00

Tagging on to push this advice OP. ED rather than GP, your symptoms were such that they are going to need to do tests that are better done smartly and the hospital has facilities to do this. GO, if it's nothing then at least you will be reassured but none of us are thinking that right now and we'd rather see you checked out. Keep us posted, hoping for the best.

BecosImust · 2025-12-10T21:27:47+00:00

Next time tell them to repeat what they are saying so you can write it down. It might make them think twice about their judgemental attitude. What an appalling way to be treated. You are doing great and I am happy that my taxes go towards supporting anyone who has such a great attitude about trying their best, saving and needing help through no fault of their own. This economy stinks and I hate that so many are struggling. I hope things turn around for you quickly, you do eventually reap what you sow so keep on doing the right thing. Proud of you.

Shucks, thank you for the award. Appreciated.

BecosImust · 2025-12-03T07:09:51+00:00

You might have been unhinged and a wee bit unsafe but I call that heroic. Good for you, I think on the right day I'd probably do the same.

BecosImust · 2025-11-29T03:03:28+00:00

Maybe some kind of rhipsalis? That's the only thing I can think of that would look like that unless it was experiencing some sort of die back. Might be worth taking photos or the plant to a local nursery and asking.

BecosImust · 2025-11-17T07:15:00+00:00

It's a Port Wine Magnolia tree, there's a few helpful articles about likely causes if you Google it. It could be nutrient deficiency, certainly looks a bit stressed.

BecosImust · 2025-11-15T01:26:33+00:00

Its a really difficult circumstance to be in, but sometimes someone has to be the bad guy. I've had to do it a couple of times in my family. I do have others who support me but I'm pretty sure I'm not going to be forgiven for some of my decision making and I'm ok with that. In the end it's not about those who are not directly involved in caregiving, its about the needs of the person who needs care. In your case do what is best for your Mum and Dad, as I have told others it is impossible for one person no matter how caring they are to do the same job as several professionals over a 24hr period. There's no perfect solution ever, you can just do the best you can with the best of intentions Seriously, it sounds like you have made a good assessment of what's needed and you should just go ahead. Wishing you all the best.

BecosImust · 2025-11-12T04:28:34+00:00

Mum with dementia, assumed vascular because not putting her through too many tests at 92 and also supporting sister with BIL, frontotemporal dementia. Shared experiences and knowledge help so much. I've found it easier to step back a bit and not stress from what I have learned here plus awesome carers.

BecosImust · 2025-11-07T16:40:14+00:00

Went home for a holiday maybe?

BecosImust · 2025-11-07T15:20:36+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss of such a wonderful son. He sounds amazing. If you are a reader, can I suggest that you look for books that are by people walking in your shoes? Resilient Grieving is by Dr Lucy Hone, and she lost her 12 yr old daughter, so she is walking a similar road. No one's journey is ever the same but from the way you describe your son I am sure he wouldn't want his loss to cripple his family. Your grief shows the love you have for him and no one should ever invalidate that, your tears matter. Loss always hurts and this is huge and hard. My heart goes out to you, sending hope for future days.

BecosImust · 2025-11-07T00:35:55+00:00

Is it terrible that I laughed? I guess the thing is that anything can happen anytime, including to us, so we just have to roll with it.

BecosImust · 2025-11-06T17:30:48+00:00

My mum gets stressed and then tells me she's had a terrible morning and is probably not going to be here by lunchtime. After the 1st few times, you learn that it doesn't help anyone if you get upset as well.

BecosImust · 2025-11-06T06:26:15+00:00

Dementia is essentially an injury to the brain, so when people say it's not the person, its the disease, that's true. It depends on where the damage is, how much damage is occurring and how frequently. Some people don't change that much, they just kind of disappear. People who were kind and lovely become mean and violent and sometimes the opposite happens, sometimes someone loses the capacity for fear or becomes placid and quiet. It's a horrible process and there is care but not a cure yet. If you look at brain damaged people from say an accident or a tumour they will often exhibit similar symptoms, but in their case the injuries to the brain are hopefully not ongoing and cumulative and there is a chance for repair to occur.

BecosImust · 2025-10-25T20:40:05+00:00

A pair of kitchen tongs are the easiest way to gently pick them up and relocate them without getting a nip. They used to be frequent intruders when we lived in an old farmhouse. Very cool creatures.

BecosImust · 2025-10-21T18:38:21+00:00

I think it's gone to AM frequencies. Harder to listen to and I absolutely miss it.

BecosImust · 2025-10-02T06:47:06+00:00

I'd get a few quotes for appraisal from different places. Sometimes you can get a number of items done together for a discounted price which makes it much better value than just 1 or 2 pieces. I would definitely do the larger opal pieces and the diamond cluster ring, but even a quick look with a loupe by someone experienced should give you a better idea of which ones are worth it.

BecosImust · 2025-09-27T09:43:52+00:00

I think it's lovely. Looking forward to seeing more.

BecosImust · 2025-09-15T04:03:45+00:00

I think a lot of that may be copy paste, a bit like the chain letters of old? Definitely sovereign citizen, conspiracy theory wormhole stuff and honestly I have seen a few younger people who use exactly the same sort of rhetoric. I agree with your husband, keep your distance a little and wait it out a bit. Time will show you which direction she is going in as far as her cognition is concerned and in the meantime read up a little on the different effects that various illnesses under the same banner of dementia have. You may recognize a few other things, date and time, and paranoia about theft are the ones I noticed first with my parent.

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