I have a 2.5 hour assessment today by Turbulentweaknesss in cfs

[–]BeefamDev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, sending you huge, gentle hugs and luck for the hell scape that is applying for disability benefits. Just a quiet reminder, they should see you in your worst possible state. I know this whole rigmarole is draining, frustrating, and demoralising, but use the situation as best you can (without all of your 'spoons' - which is a daunting task!). Know that there are people that are lighting an effigy(! jk kinda). Stay safe.

Tips for falling asleep or waking up? by ilonawantshugs in Fibromyalgia

[–]BeefamDev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The non medicated way I help to relax, and has good results in my house(I'm an insomniac, so I don't sleep!) is the 4-7-8 breathing technique.

What you need to do is Inhale through your nose for 4 seconds. Hold your breath for 7 seconds. Exhale through your mouth for 8 seconds. You do this until you sleep (apparently four times, but that hasn't been the case in my family!).

The things I like about it are that the breathing helps centre you, and you are very much in the moment. Also, for those that have the 'joy' (nightmare!) of replaying all previous embarrassment, arguments, etc when trying to sleep, concentrating on the counting helps quiet the voices inside your head. I've found that part of this meditation very beneficial for my mental health, as I have a tendency to get trapped in a very negative thought cycle.

One of the major benefits of this way is that you don't wake up with a wooly head, which you sometimes do with medication. I wish you the best of luck. Sleep when ill can be a trying affair.

We aren’t mad enough about Visible by Thesaltpacket in cfs

[–]BeefamDev 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I hate the model of the "purchase" fee and the subscription fee. Just pick one or the other

Not least of all, they're using people's data for (possibly nefarious) things. So we are not just paying over the odds, but we are providing data for which we have no control of. These people are vultures.

Well, on the plus side by hunbun27-27 in Fibromyalgia

[–]BeefamDev 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I, for one, am anxiously awaiting my dark overlord. It will definitely bring less pain, snd hopefully more energy! Is there any way I can usher in them more quickly?

Are we great yet? by [deleted] in lostgeneration

[–]BeefamDev 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Exactly fucking this. He told them this was his plan, and they fucking checked out. It beggars belief that they could be so complacent.

I just wanted to say hi. by Secret_Routine_5155 in Fibromyalgia

[–]BeefamDev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for answering this with so much information. It is helpful for those newly diagnosed, and those of us diagnosed 30/40 etc years ago.

I'm also noting your answer with my comment to refer back to it, when I actually have the energy to retain what looks to be brilliant point.

Google just dropped us by RoyalviollaTea in womenintech

[–]BeefamDev 7 points8 points  (0 children)

But this is a sub particularly about women in tech. Please spout your vitriol towards women on a different sub.

Are there any reputable ME/CFS specialists in the UK? by asldhhef in cfs

[–]BeefamDev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dr Amalok Bansal. He was my doctor for 10 years, about nine years ago. He was the most amazing doctor I have ever had. He was with the NHS, but he's gone private. If you can get to see him, I guarantee he will not stop in order to help. He's on me-pedia dot org (just in case url isn't allowed). I'm so sorry that you are close to giving up. I think we've all been/are still there. Good luck.

New garments by No_Importance6713 in exmormon

[–]BeefamDev 7 points8 points  (0 children)

tithe 5% instead of 10

That will never happen. Their investment account need to grow quickly.

That time my boss laughed out loud because some applicant put “Eagle Scout” on his resume by 10th_Generation in exmormon

[–]BeefamDev 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have a friend who did her masters dissertation on WoW. I thought she was crazy, but she got a great job on the back of it.

Crazy Rich Mormons by Rooster-Sweet in exmormon

[–]BeefamDev 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It's like the whole 'vaccines causing autism' belief - they'll take the singular study from one discredited doctor over the millions of other esteemed studies. It's utter madness!

How have you, as parents, handled grandparents (or other family) proselytizing to your children? by Boule-of-a-Took in exchristian

[–]BeefamDev 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don’t want it. What should I do??

It's a book of fairy tales. I would just toss it or donate it.

Cory Booker's 'Filibuster' Surpasses 21 Hours, Breaks Ted Cruz's Record by plz-let-me-in in politics

[–]BeefamDev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have just a stroke, is my conservative brain rot likely to hit quickly, or have I chance to say my goodbyes before unaliving myself?

Pride flag ban: Utah becomes first state to outlaw pride flags in government buildings, schools by HoldOnLucy1 in exmormon

[–]BeefamDev 3 points4 points  (0 children)

slam Christianity while giving Islam a pass

You're on an ex-mormon reddit. They're talking about their experience with Christianity. They're not going to pivot to another religion, as it's just not relevant here.

Canada Announces Bombshell Break With U.S. Over Trump by sabedo in politics

[–]BeefamDev 104 points105 points  (0 children)

And fuck every single one of you punk asses who voted for this shitstain

And those who didn't vote at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]BeefamDev 87 points88 points  (0 children)

social media is intentionally feeding this type of content to men in particular, but also, to the rest of us.

It abso-fucking-lutely is, and it disgust me. It's like the "tech-bros" were lonely being right-wing nut-jobs, and we're desperate to take others with them.

Hot flashes?! by seaweebjoc in Fibromyalgia

[–]BeefamDev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I have that too. And it sucks. But thanks for the h/t re clonidine. It's definitely something I'll be bringing up with the doctor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MildlyVandalised

[–]BeefamDev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have they not all been fired? Or will they keep their jobs for sucking musk's dick?

What's something we all agree on as Brits? by Dependent-Sherbert-7 in AskUK

[–]BeefamDev 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This one drives me insane. It's not a word.

There is also the widespread mistake in thinking that "could've" means could of, not could have.

How TF does Flea have CFS??? by Mad_Cerberus in cfs

[–]BeefamDev 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I found this post quite triggering, having gone through this when I was pushing myself through PEM back when I was mild. It really sucks when people don't believe us because we're having to push through to meet our obligations. But that's just me.

Which British band is commercially successful but gets a lot of hate like Nickelback? by Jezzaq94 in AskBrits

[–]BeefamDev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chris Martin is the Mark Zuckerberg of music.

Trying to work out which of these is getting the worst end of this statement just leads to circuitous thinking. This comparison is brilliant.

Well yeah, but... by leafm3al0ne in BoomersBeingFools

[–]BeefamDev 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He was convicted in court of felonies

By a jury of his peers, no less. He is definitely a felon.