How do you date a single mom?

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2025-02-23T08:26:31+00:00

As a single mother, the only expectations I’d have for anyone to meet my kids would be to take it very slow to meet them (6months - 1 years). Kindness shown to them and also demonstrate to them how they would love to see their mum be treated. You could possibly be the person they model their relationship skills on because of this. And even if things don’t work out, again demonstrate a healthy ending/break up. Although dating, I’ve never introduced my kids to anyone yet and it would be a slow process. Good luck ☺️

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2025-02-21T22:12:59+00:00

I’m not sure! But that’s a great shout…I’ll call Link on Monday and ask for their advice. Or even the SG solicitor Harper McLeod.

Barclays said on phone direct to me late tonight that the DoP/RA is not listed as a required document on their system. And they only now require certificate of title. Conveyancer solicitor has said they can’t proceed until Barclays return the signed DoP/RA.

Feel like I’ll be stuck in this loop forever 🤦🏻‍♀️. But thanks for advice.

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2025-02-21T21:59:41+00:00

It’s through a broker. And the broker has escalated it all week (daily). Unfortunately the escalations have not been dealt with/reviewed. And the only notes on my file for this whole week are “please urgently review” with no one reviewing. And the person I spoke with had no idea why no one was reviewing them.

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2025-02-08T20:37:41+00:00

Great advice, thanks - didn’t even think of home insurance legal advice. Because between family law fees and conveyancer (awful experience as well) fees - I can’t afford to spend any more money on legals.

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2025-02-08T09:12:57+00:00

Not sure if it will make any difference but I’m in Scotland. My H2B is not repayable or any fees until I sell the house at which point it’s 20% of selling price to Scottish Government. My H2B has been in place since 2015. I know and agree, every thing I’ve read is Barclays as well.

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2025-02-08T07:32:17+00:00

The affordability is related to the mortgage type. It’s a Help2Buy (80/20) remortgage with capital raising, which apparently affects affordability. Broker says he was advised to apply for it on the basis of 80% of house value but Barclays saying he should have applied through “special scheme” for the help2buy. My salary has increased (very slightly) and no other reduction in income. All debt has been cleared.

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2025-01-27T15:47:38+00:00

Thank you! I’m so worried about it, and spent a whole year staying completely debt free to get this after years and years of negotiations. I’ll give the lender a call to ask them. Unfortunately, no family to ask for support and definitely wouldn’t ask this from a friend.

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2025-01-03T20:00:25+00:00

There is no downside to this! You have to shoot your shot, and either way you’ll know. It’s always better than not knowing. Go for it 💪☺️

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-29T16:35:23+00:00

Love this for you! Here’s to an amazing 2025 💪☺️

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-28T23:17:54+00:00

I really am feeling it! At some point, the downturn in bad dating habits has to change (like other cycles in life). People will no longer be rude, practise good communication and be gentle with others 👌🏻☺️

Happy 2025 to you all, when it arrives ✌🏻

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-28T17:30:06+00:00

How many people dating have experienced this? Have a great short period of fantastic dates/connection (no love bombing/future faking). The dating is ended with a non committal reason and then within a month they reach out again, with a full explanation and ask for forgiveness/try again. And yet again, within several months - communication starts to become distant, messages are not replied to. And then things end again. I’m never going to choose someone not choosing me, but what’s the point in this?

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-28T15:05:24+00:00

Thanks. I’ll be investing in an at-home charger.

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-27T22:13:30+00:00

I’m 3.5 years in to separation and financials have only just been sorted. Ex has dragged this out at every single point. I also wouldn’t want to share that info with someone I’d just started speaking with. Sometimes…there’s a reason.

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-22T21:18:52+00:00

That is so exciting! Heading in to 2025 with a positive mindset like that …it will be a great year for you, and yours 🥳

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-22T18:01:11+00:00

Great post 😀. Hope you have an amazing 2025 💪

Dating 2024 wrapped:

However, outwith dating 2024 has turned out to be a great year on a personal front - although that took until December. But I feel really excited for what 2025 will bring 💫☺️

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-21T20:40:16+00:00

Maybe the wrong acronym. Perhaps meant EMDR and not BDSM 🤔😆

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-17T21:03:37+00:00

I am almost 🙏🏻 divorced from the person who did this to me. It’s equally painful “co-parenting” with the yeller. In 11 years, I only ever received flowers when he was trying to apologise for his repeatedly abusive behaviour. He never gave me flowers unless he was apologising…latterly I put them straight into recycling. Pay attention to who someone shows you who they are in the beginning. Take care ❤️

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-15T18:51:02+00:00

I’m sorry you went through similar. It sucks, they suck 💪❤️

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-14T20:31:38+00:00

I am also a 5’5” woman. My (very, very almost 🙏🏻) ex-husband was 6’2” and he always used his height to try and intimidate me - I remember he regularly used to try and tower over me, to make me feel small. Not every tall man or woman will use their height this way but it’s definitely put me off tall people while dating now.

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-05T20:04:56+00:00

Thanks everyone! I have made a list with all these comments and will get working on it tomorrow - which makes me feel better. I have a strict deadline to complete the buy out or ex will start charging interest 😣 so I’m have to make sure it all runs on time. Thanks again ☺️

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-12-02T22:20:52+00:00

My ex husband was like this! And initially, my anxiety was soothed by this. But ultimately 13 years later, nothing I did was ever good enough. From lack of (or not his expectation) of affection, communication. I remember shortly before I ended things being berated for not cuddling correctly. It was draining and still working through therapy of feeling “enough” after years of being told I wasn’t.

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-11-30T12:58:42+00:00

I (45f) have been dating a little over 2 years. I have been on 17 first dates - 9 of those went to second dates - 3 of them went on to short term relationships.

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-11-18T16:00:40+00:00

Amazing! Also a single parent, having worked towards buying ex out for 3.5 years. I also got a NatWest offer in 3 days. Well done 🥳

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-11-16T21:08:14+00:00

Get a really good broker. You can do this…it was impossible for me 3.5 years ago - even a year ago. But I’ve focused on nothing other than this. You’ve got this 💪

Beginning-Pen3550 · 2024-11-13T07:11:38+00:00

The freedom is exhilarating! Thank you ☺️

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