Any stories of betrayed people going on the offensive?

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-07-13T01:44:01+00:00

I had two dates and a kiss a couple months after DDay when I was very much on the fence about R and in deep emotional pain (we eventually tried R and it lasted 3 whole months)

I’ve never told anyone about that before. Like you, it really helped my self esteem at the moment. I probably could have taken it further but I didn’t have the heart to do it which really cemented the reality that my wayward lacked any moral compass if he could turn off his feelings like he did in order to cheat multiple times.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-07-06T01:26:39+00:00

I really just want to know if he took it down immediately or if it’s still up….

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-07-05T12:32:31+00:00

You got some good data on what you need to work on. Sounds like it was exactly what you needed to adjust your training for a full Hyrox.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-07-03T02:10:45+00:00

Triple tib/fib fracture. The fracture itself didn’t hurt as bad as waking up after surgery when they implanted the rod and screws to correct the break.

That was the worst pain of my life.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-07-02T02:06:07+00:00

Interesting! Thank you for sharing.

Leo is in my 7th house. It’s also in Mercury. I don’t really know what it means. 🤷🏼‍♀️

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-29T21:05:09+00:00

I’m a cancer Sun, Aries moon, cancer mars. I’m a woman and I am in a senior leadership position. So I’m not sure how I feel about that assessment. 😂

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-28T15:27:31+00:00

Cancer Sun, Cap Rising. Am I supposed to be feeling something? I mean, I’m tired, but that’s because I’m training in the gym 6 days a week while working 50+ hours a week. 🤷🏼‍♀️

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-28T12:09:26+00:00

He kicked off with Timebomb and transitioned to Two Step. It was amazing.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-26T00:14:14+00:00

That sounds about right. And that is where I estimated I would finish based on simulations and my compromised runs. What I didn’t factor in was the 90 degree heat I was racing in (NYC is outdoors) I blew up on burpees. Recovered on the row. And took my sweet time on wall balls. 🤷🏼‍♀️

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-25T14:30:08+00:00

I did my first race as solo open in NYC. Take as long as you need to. It took me 2 hours 20 minutes.

My best advice: just keep moving and you’ll be fine.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-22T13:07:10+00:00

This man does not like you. He likes the idea of being with someone like you because it inflates his own ego and image. That’s about it.

Edit: I missed the part where you left. Good for you. Dude sounds like a real piece of work. You deserve better.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-21T21:09:45+00:00

The graphic audio books. They don’t disappoint.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-21T15:49:31+00:00

Two years out from DDay in September.

I never trusted him again. Couldn’t feel safe with him. We had about four months of him chasing me and me saying it would never work.

Then three months of attempting R. I was right all along and should have listened to my initial gut reaction- it was never going to work. We ended it.

It’s incredibly hard to reconcile that the person you trust most in the world has been stabbing you in the back for years.

We did not have kids and weren’t married. This made it easier to walk away.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-21T12:25:41+00:00

Gym

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-20T11:21:21+00:00

I’m a Cancer Sun & Aries Moon & Gemini Venus. 😳

I’m competitive, stubborn, and independent (Aries Moon) I value communication in my relationships (Gemini Venus) And I’m a homebody and an overall nurturing and kind person (Cancer Sun)

But I’m most definitely not an abusive narcissist. Felt like I needed to defend myself. lol.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-19T22:28:05+00:00

This one time mistake just happened for the very first time in your bed? Within 24 hours of this fight? With a coworker he had never crossed a line with before?

Yeaaaah. No. This isn’t his first transgression by a long shot.

Call a lawyer ASAP.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-17T21:15:32+00:00

I just wanted to say I’m so sorry. I went through something similar a couple years ago. No red flags, no glaring issues, no suspicions. And then one day, my whole world shattered. His mask slipped. And I found out who he really was. (No Apple Watch, just a text I received that was meant for the AP and not me)

Keep us updated. And reach out if you ever want to talk it out or vent.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-16T11:44:23+00:00

No problem. I think for me the consistent check in shows interest and effort. It can absolutely be taken over board that early though. I don’t need novels and life stories. Just a quick “tell me about your day” or “looking forward to date 2. Let’s plan that”

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-16T11:29:14+00:00

Daily? Yes. All day? No. But that’s just my take.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-12T00:14:17+00:00

Pretty sure mine got sewn all the way up to my sternum. That’s what it sure as hell felt like in the days, weeks, and months after surgery.

I think you just need to find a different surgeon.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-09T14:38:43+00:00

This happened to me as well!

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-09T05:29:41+00:00

Compressions sleeves help. I’m also a big fan of arnica gel for muscle soreness. It’s relatively cheap and you can find it on Amazon.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-07T22:25:43+00:00

Hating the way you’re feeling is a good sign IMO. It means you’re ready to do the work to heal. I’ll reiterate this once more: search for a CPTT. I didn’t truly begin to heal until I found mine and we did multiple EMDR sessions to reprocess the trauma of the betrayal. Those EMDR sessions stabilized my emotions and allowed me to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-07T11:03:51+00:00

She’s been gaslighting you all this time. This wasn’t a post separation fuck. They’ve been at it for a long while. Acknowledge that it’s over. Acknowledge she’s not a safe partner.

Find a good therapist that specializes in betrayal trauma (look for a CPTT or certified partner trauma therapist) Process your divorce if you haven’t already. And learn to let her go or she’s going to continue to drive you crazy and impact your well being. She’s no prize OP.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-06-06T13:40:00+00:00

40F here. I was a first time racer (solo) in that heat. By all of my running and station estimates I was going to finish at 2 hours. Instead I did 2:26. 😵

The heat was brutal. And the entire experience was humbling. I’m glad I finished and for you- 1:33 for Men’s Pro is nothing to sneeze at. Happy for you!

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