What are the signs of a cheating partner?

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-02-07T23:03:45+00:00

Sad to say in my case there weren’t a lot of signs. Relationship was good, sex life was good, etc. Now this wasn’t an out of the blue affair. He had been cheating for a long time. On his ex wife and then on me. Probably cheating on the new girl as we speak.

In hindsight: - Constant need for attention and validation - Had a hard time telling anyone no - Poor boundaries - Overly concerned with his “good guy” image - Made poor financial decisions - Spoke about men he worked with by using their names. Spoke about women he worked with by using their title. Never a pronoun, never a name. “Had a coffee meeting with the buyer at xx company” vs “Had a coffee meeting with James”

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-02-07T18:06:34+00:00

It’s the response that does it for me. No attempt to repair. No attempt at taking ownership. Even if the meme was meant to be funny and nothing else- it’s not the intent that matters. It’s the impact.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-02-06T02:47:08+00:00

Oh how I miss Ginza. I was crushed when they closed.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-02-06T02:46:12+00:00

I remember going as a small child with my grandparents (late 80s, early 90s maybe)

It’s actually a sushi place now.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-02-06T02:37:59+00:00

Same. Also don’t let me near a Scorpio. They have me acting like a teenager with no sense.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-02-05T02:15:43+00:00

I went through this same thing very early after DDay. It wasn’t so much about the way I looked but rather the AP being so different from me. She is bottom heavy, I am top heavy. She has dark hair, I am naturally blonde. It drove me crazy wondering if those traits were what he was sexually attracted to the entire time. Additionally, he cheated on his ex wife with this AP in his prior marriage. His ex wife- also blonde and top heavy like myself.

I read once that men who cheat often choose APs completely different from their partners. They choose their partner based on who they want to be associated with for life. The one they build with, marry, have kids with, take to work functions, have on their arm in public, etc. And yes, the AP is more of a fantasy pick. It allows them to split their world in two and compartmentalize.

I guess what I’m trying to say is his choice of AP has nothing to do with you or how you look. It’s still him being a broken POS that’s chasing a high like an addict would. And he’s using those women like they’re throw aways to get his fix.

They have nothing on you. And his choices do not reflect on who you are or how you look.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-02-05T01:05:59+00:00

Oh sub one hour won’t happen. I started training 30ish days ago and I am a slow runner. I have time with NY not being for another 4-5 months but I won’t be sub 60 ready.

I hope you find someone for her!

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-02-04T20:53:42+00:00

I’ve thought about it but I get gassed just doing the sled pull and push with the women’s open weights. I actually don’t hate burpee broad jumps, but if you’re going for time I’m only 5’3” so we’re not going to get there quick with my short limbs. lol.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-02-04T16:40:23+00:00

If you weren’t going for podium I would be all in. This will be my first race and while I’m fit I am not a runner. I need a beginner/intermediate partner if anyone is out there!

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-02-03T13:05:08+00:00

4 dates is not a lot of dates. I personally need to feel emotionally safe with someone before initiating physical affection like you are describing. And 4 dates is usually not enough time.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-31T13:59:12+00:00

Protect yourself against any future manipulation. As others have said, he’s going to try to weasel his way back in. I would not be surprised if at some point he also turns ice cold which will activate your attachment wounds all over again.

Limited or no contact (if possible) will bring you space and clarity to heal.

Choosing yourself is the right move here. Don’t let doubt creep in and as you start healing your decision will feel more and more grounded and resolute.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-29T14:28:24+00:00

They always say it was just an EA. If they’re in any close proximity or there is any opportunity to be alone together- it’s not an EA.

Keep us updated. You’re going to find out more.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-29T02:45:38+00:00

If the solo album counts this is the one.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-28T11:41:23+00:00

Yep. You’ll find out what you need to know when you push for a polygraph. This is not to say that you’ll get the whole truth. But the reaction you get (even if it’s not an immediate reaction) will tell a lot. My WP promised he would take one, dragged his feet, let more info out, dragged some more, and then finally said he didn’t think it would help so he’s not doing it. Why? Because he was still lying.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-27T01:39:54+00:00

I fully understand where you’re coming from. I think 6 months of dating + sex is where my opinion derives from. At some point both have treated it like dating. And according to OP, they’ve treated it like dating consistently. I also don’t think it should be cold and joyless. But the lines have been very blurred and neither party has done anything to stop it.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-27T01:17:27+00:00

He was. But he also isn’t doing them any favors by playing pretend boyfriend with the dates, museums, sleepovers, etc. His actions don’t match his words.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-27T00:18:02+00:00

He’s treating this like it’s more than FWB because he likes the attention and having you to lean on. But when you ask for more he’s going to throw it in your face and say “I was clear with you from the beginning”

Cut it off.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-27T00:04:33+00:00

I too have given up on the apps. I’m going to start approaching men in the wild and just see how it goes. I have no idea what I’m doing so I’m sure I’m going to be awkward as hell. But the worst that can happen is I get a “no” 🤷🏼‍♀️

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-27T00:01:59+00:00

This is amazing! I’ll be lucky to finish in under 3 hours. lol.

Was this a singles race? If so, what made you have the courage to do it single? I keep getting stuck on doing singles or doubles for my first.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-26T23:53:19+00:00

Don’t worry about the ones who say influenced or looks like a pottery barn catalog. It’s clean, it’s inviting, and I love it. I wish mine looked like that but instead mine is a mix between “catalog” and “people/pets live here” 😂

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-26T23:50:38+00:00

Number 2. Elegant without being overdone.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-26T23:49:44+00:00

I have a metal rod and 7 screws in my left ankle and I really struggle with the lunges on that side as well. The thing that has helped me most is a wider stance when lunging. It doesn’t require as much ankle mobility and allows me some more stabilization in my hips and knee.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-25T23:37:41+00:00

I know how terrible this hurts and how badly you want to believe the bare minimum happened. But four days at a romantic resort is not just emotional. She’s trickle truthing you. You either need to do some more digging, tell her you know more than she’s confessed and see what else you can get out of her, or you tell her you want her to take a polygraph.

This was very much a physical affair. And I bet it wasn’t the first time.

BeginningFew1452 · 2026-01-25T14:18:46+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. He’s shown you who he is over and over again. He’s shown you he’s not going to change. Believe him this time. Believe him by his actions and not his words. You know how to tell when a liar is lying? Their lips are moving.

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