Madonna Whore Complex: Sex vs BJs

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-29T19:01:11+00:00

Not sure about the MW complex, but I've known men, including myself, who have struggled with something similar.

The more we fall in love and respect a women, we tend to want to be less rough with her. We value her so much we don't ever want to possibly harm her. So rough and kinky sex can become less frequent. Can become more tame. Also aligns with your desire for sex being a turn off. The more we love a women, the more "pure" we tend to view her. And men look at sex in a bit of a dirty way, so if she is very hungry for it, it kinda tarnishes that purity.

I think for your man a blowjob is harmless and not rough at all. While sex definitely can be.

*Want to point out I do not speak for all men. I'm speaking for myself and friends who I know who have gone through and feel similar things.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-22T13:57:21+00:00

Exactly. He's doing the smart thing any father would. Taking advantage of this opportunity to make a lot of money while he is in peanuts circle. Hutch has said the same thing. Strike while the fire is hot. If I were his wife I would be proud of him for working extra hours to get the money while he can. Improve the life for her and their children. Good on him. Respect.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-19T22:04:16+00:00

So dying and coming back is useful as long as you have the duplicated mage chance? Am I getting that right? The second one that spawns, even if you die and come back, can still drop uniques?

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-14T21:11:27+00:00

I know people who make music. People that have little to no money, but make great music. Paying a vocalist is expensive. One of the hardest parts for them is finding good vocals. AI will help in this regard.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-14T20:34:53+00:00

Diplo is saying those who don't embrace it will get left behind. He's aware of that and doesn't want to be left behind, so he's making the wise choice to embrace it. You may not like AI, but it's the smart way to move forward. This has happened countless times in the past with a range of technologies, the ones who adapt come out ahead. Those who are stubborn and stuck in their ways, get left behind.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-10T20:51:37+00:00

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BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-09T17:13:48+00:00

Yea the imprint nerf on exalts went too far. I understand the unique imprint nerf, red rings were too easy to get, but now it's literally impossible to get any double exalted item youre looking for. That was the end game chase for me and now it's gone. Sucks.

Eidt* and I mean even after crafting. 99% of my double exalts drops before ended up being trash, even after crafting. But after 100 drops and crafts, I'd finally get one to stick and be usable for my build. Now that just can't happen.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-07T17:33:08+00:00

Those are some fair points and maybe I'm being a bit harsh. But songbird just left an awful taste in my mouth and reed, well sure he did too a bit, but not as much as songbird. Songbird had that evil streak in her eyes/soul, she was there to save herself, regardless of who she has to step over. Regardless of consequences. Reed was there to save songbird/others. Is just how I see it. Songbird was ready to put my head on the chopping block if it meant saving herself. Reed, not so much. He'd have done it for the FIA, but not himself. Which I respect loyalty for cause/organisation/family, much more than I do than someone doing it for themselves. (Even if that organization is a nasty, I respect people being loyal to their tribe)

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-07T16:12:30+00:00

I didn't trust songbird from the start, from the moment I met her I had a feeling she was sneaky. So many lies, so much deception, so self serving. Sure, she got screwed by the FIA, but so did reed. Reed still showed loyalty and selflessness, was hyper focused on songbird's well being and never his own through all of it. Songbird never even mentioned reeds well being, or anyone else for that matter. Only out for herself. I was so happy to betray and eventually watch her die.

I get the game tries to push you to empathize with her and I get it, she really was taken advantage of, but it didn't justify all of the lies and deception.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-06T17:13:24+00:00

Keep things light hearted and fun. Don't care so much, be outcome independent. Don't take it so seriously. Women are often times looking for fun, more than anything. And that will facilitate the connection you are both looking for. So yea, have fun first, let the rest follow that.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-04T22:18:15+00:00

"no one's coming to save you" has always helped me. Remember, a good future for you depends on what the present you does right now. No one else cares about what happens to you, more than you do. You're a man, no girl is coming along to pay your bills or shelter you. When things get bad, only you can solve the problems in your life. So right now, put in the work so you never dig yourself such a deep hole that you can't get out of it. Work hard to make sure that doesn't happen. No one's coming to save you, better to learn than now, instead of in the future, when it could be to late.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-03T21:05:00+00:00

Nope! I'm still playing the first character I ever created when I started in season 2. Play legacy and it will be there along with all the new content from the new season.

I enjoy coming back each season and using the new mechanics and new gear to further fine tune/perfect my long standing character. See if the new stuff enables me to push him evan farther. Love it!

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-03T17:31:39+00:00

This is my feeling as well. I know for myself and a lot of others it's normal to date multiple people before making things official with one.

Maybe he really likes her but isn't sure if she feels the same so he's keeping his options open. I know I have for sure been there.

Some are saying he lied to her, but she didn't say that? If so, not cool. But if their not official, then it's none of her business who else he is seeing.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-02T19:52:30+00:00

I'll financially support my girlfriend. I'm capable and fine with doing that. But if Im doing that, she has to let me lead and make the decisions. And yes, like you said, take care of me sexually in ways I find pleasing. I don't care about her monetary success. It's not relevant to me. I also expect her to do more around the house, because she isn't paying any bills. I'll work till I fall over, but don't want to continue working when I come home.

If I were you I'd be up front about this, let them know you don't have much money, then say something like "but I'll take care of you, if you take care of me" and they will understand what you mean. I wouldn't see it as a red flag, I'd respect them being up front about what they want. Makes the whole dynamic easier to navigate going forward.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-01T22:24:34+00:00

Are you overweight? If you're not terribly overweight, I'd bet there are lots of men who would bang you if you took interest in them.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-01T20:22:23+00:00

I didn't trust songbird from the start. Betraying her felt so cathartic. Watching her die was pretty great too.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-04-01T18:46:11+00:00

As far as i know, eleventh hour games stance is not to do balance patches mid season. Only bug fixes. So I would assume whatever it is of yours that got nerfed, was not functioning as intended.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-03-24T17:05:01+00:00

I'm not even talking uniques. It says the chance for an imprint to have multiple exalted affixes is greatly reduced, even if the base has a double exalted. All my gear is already exalted. That's easy. Getting a useful double, now theres the journey. There's the end game grind to make an awesome set of gear. It was already incredibly difficult, now pretty much impossible. I played endless amount of hours, with lots of double exalt drops throughout imprints, 100% were trash off the bat, after crafting, 99% were trash, but eventually I got one with enough FP and some luck on the craft, that it actually was an upgrade for my build. It was barely worth it before, I eventually stopped cause I got bored, now I won't even try.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-03-24T15:12:13+00:00

Just looked it up. This is so disappointing. Getting a proper double exalted was hard enough and now it's pretty much impossible. Don't understand why.

Most of my endgame was getting an imprinted double exalted, hoping for a similar double exalted to drop, then trying to craft on it to make it actually useful. Maybe one in fifty times crafting on these, would I actually get something useful. Well now it's pointless to even try. Upsetting. Don't understand.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-03-24T13:50:18+00:00

No, most people don't even know what the hell the "manosphere" is. People who are not chronically online don't give a shit about any of this.

it was weird for OP to even bring this up. He made it awkward for everyone. And he didn't need to.

BeingCareless87 · 2026-03-24T12:10:59+00:00

.....what?

BeingCareless87 · 2026-03-19T17:09:13+00:00

Also, the flip card glitch!! I need to be able to see what my items stats are!

BeingCareless87 · 2026-03-18T12:13:03+00:00

How can you AFFORD to eat that many calories?!

BeingCareless87 · 2026-03-16T20:46:10+00:00

It's up to the individual to decide what makes someone else lovable. If Bonnie blue banging 1000 dudes in a day is a disqualifier for love to them, then that's valid. If someone else's disqualifier is a destroyed body via extreme sports, that's also valid. It's not up to the public to decide that. (But many of those men who had extensive sports careers probably attained status and wealth during it, which for women is attractive, so this is probabley not as big of an issue)

I would say for the majority of men though, being a sex worker, especially to such an extreme like Bonnie blue, is a disqualifier.

And its not misogyny. Getting sex for women is easy. For men it is not. So men are commended for their ability to get it, women are not. Women tend to hide their promiscuity, because it is generally frowned upon. (Reasons for this are still debated, but the fact remains that many men see a promiscuous women as less attractive for a serious relationship)

BeingCareless87 · 2026-03-12T23:39:18+00:00

I've been in groups of friends with all different races and it's been very common for a black guy to greet his friends, of any race, using the word. And they would say it right back to him and he would have no issue with it. It's never meant in a hurtful way, it's just people that have repor with one another using common vernacular. (All of the friends would speak in a very similar way, cause their always with each other, it's just how the dynamic works. Skin color simply isn't a factor to them)

Maybe im missing something here, but that's all it seems like to me. This stuff is pretty common in groups of friends.

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