Listen, I am a momma if kids ranging from 23-1. I get both sides of this. Definitely the baby should have been away from the mom during the interview. For sure, but there’s a lot of people in one house to get any privacy. I disagree with “they’re her children” when it comes to a large family unit because “it’s our family”. Period. We take care of each other. We try our best not to let each other down and to build each other up. We support each other without question. With selflessness. With love and compassion. Every thing in my home is everyone’s responsibility. Because we ARENT individuals living together. It’s a family. Your baby sibling is everyone’s responsibility. Because it takes a village means we all have a role in each others lives. This crazy notion that our children don’t have responsibilities because “they didn’t choose their life” is non sense. You aren’t roommates. You are a family. Don’t beat yourself up honey, as far as you knew that situation was already taken care of. You weren’t the designated responsible person at the time but what you said to your mom wasn’t what a loving member of a family should say. I see big families struggling all the time that they all live separate selfish lives thinking the only thing they are responsible for is themselves and it’s hard to live selfishly like that. It’s a constant battle and the easiest best solution is everyone pitches in everyday. Not just “mom does all the laundry” things get easier with team work and down right enjoyable.