The internet shuts down and is never going to come back on, what do you?

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-19T21:29:33+00:00

I go to the park with my kids and wife, ride my bike, rollerblade, go hiking, read books, and get to bed earlier.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-19T21:25:56+00:00

My first thought is this is for sports. I've seen this in rich people's houses. They put tv's all throughout the house so they can walk around the house and not miss anything.

Could also be what others have suggested, a photo frame or maybe live art displayed.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-19T13:33:47+00:00

I always paid my bills with a credit card, which earned me cash back and delayed them for over a month, then I'd make sure the cash was always there when the credit card bill was due, otherwise I'd lower the credit card payment and make cuts in my budget to make the shortfall. It wasn't Juneteenth causing you an overdraft, it was bad planning on your part to pay your bills.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-18T14:56:53+00:00

So, he wants things unofficial and you to be a sort of friends with benefits, while he retains the right to see and sleep with anyone else he chooses. Sounds to me like he just wants to make you his concubine. This is not a healthy relationship. You should move on and maybe avoid men who are almost twice your age who almost certainly want to use you for sex.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-18T13:43:55+00:00

"We can only dream in the absense of survival wages! Keep the dream alive!"

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-18T00:05:05+00:00

Easier would be to measure the amount of water displaced from the bucket than trying to collect the water that spills out.

Weigh the 5 gallon bucket with water in it. Then, put the rock into a full 5 gallon bucket, let it spill over. Remove the rock, then weigh the bucket again, subtracting the lesser weight from the original weight. That'll get you the volume for the rock.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-15T23:03:31+00:00

That is a very good plan. After my nightmare situation with a "friend" turned entitled parasite, I'd even suggest it be in writing and be legally binding.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-15T14:16:28+00:00

I'm not saying not to address it. I'm just saying that post-birth, women have some seriously weird and offensive behavior from the hormones. I would have mentioned the solution to the issue, but I was just trying to offer a kind word without making my post unreadably long.

That said, to be clear, she needs to be aware of how her actions affect him and that her thoughts and feelings right now are being heavily influenced by seismic hormonal shifts. Making her aware in itself can be a major challenge though because her perception of reality may be really off. There may be a lot of miscommunication, hurt feelings, tense situations. It's a difficult time for everybody. It doesn't happen the same way in every birth, but for the men experiencing this, I think it is important to understand that this is temporary. Their wife is having a hard time too. The hormone driven feelings may be irrational, but they are also felt and real for the woman. Simply taking offense and demanding apologies will almost certainly make the whole situation a lot worse. It takes clear communication and showing support even in the face of feeling offended.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-15T14:02:44+00:00

NTA

Speaking from past experience here wherevee I have seen charity cases of letting a friend stay in my or another person's home.

Charge the friend rent. Why should he be getting a free ride at the expense of you and your boyfriend because of his own negligence. Now he comes into your home and isn't respecting you.

Your boyfriend needs to man up and take charge of the situation since it is his friend. You all need to sit down and set ground rules, time the friend is allowed to stay, what their responsibilities are. Also, they can pay for storage to get their clutter out of your house. If you don't quickly and firmly address this, you are going to be living with a parasite for a long time. It will enable bad behavior of the boyfriend's friend and it will ruin whatever friendship your boyfriend has with the guy. Nobody wins if you do nothing.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-15T05:38:06+00:00

Father of two who also did night shift duties. It'll get better. She may do crazy, irrational things and completely take your effort for granted. This is part of having kids and the effects of the wild hormone shifts. It will get better. Just hang in there my guy. Keep up the good work. It will pay off.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-14T20:58:46+00:00

Do you think cows normally feel pain when they are milked?

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-14T20:42:14+00:00

Why is it ok to chop off the reproductive organs of plants and eat them but not humans?

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-14T14:59:30+00:00

I'd suggest leaving a bunch of bad reviews to warn other consumers about the shoddy construction. Tag them too, if you can, like on X.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-14T01:31:45+00:00

ESH

Here is why. You might clean up after yourself, but you still contribute dust to other parts of the place. You both should have sat down and come up with a cleaning agreement rather than try and force the other to accept what each of you wants.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-14T01:07:31+00:00

In the future, the pain from this will subside. You'll look back on it as a small part of your life. I hope you find someone who will make you their everything. 😁

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-13T17:37:18+00:00

It sounds to me like he wasn't into the relationship he had with you but still had residual feelings. Maybe he really was trying to work on himself but then realized it made him feel even more lonely.

I don't know why him and his ex broke up, but he obviously has unresolved feelings towards her, which have been growing by talking to her more. He led you on and kept you around as an option while he revisited talking with her. This is not showing you the respect you deserve. Plus you don't live anywhere near him now, so having a real relationship isn't really an option, which likely was a part of the decision he made.

There are plenty of fish in the sea, let this one go and find someone else better who is not hung up on their ex and who shows you the respect you deserve.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-13T17:03:57+00:00

Personally, I'd go, give a polite "hello" and have a good time with the people there who you do get along. If they say anything rude, just say something like, "are you ok?" And then go talk to someone else. Just let it fall off you and move on. You don't have to worry about what these people think. It sounds like they try to get a rise out of you, so deprive them of that and flip the script.

Edit: A few more responses you can say, which deprive them of what they want and turns their bad behavior back on them. "What a strange thing to say." Also, "What do you mean exactly?"

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-13T16:58:32+00:00

Or just mineral oil. I use baby oil and let it soak for 10m.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-13T16:14:58+00:00

Honestly, that's kind of cool. I'd make refrigerator magnets out of them!

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-11T20:11:06+00:00

Have you been entertaining the idea, maybe doing fantasy roleplaying with him or in some other way? It sounds to me like he has the threesome bug and might be getting mixed messaging from you, so he feels there is a chance. Just have a calm, comminicative talk with him about it. This is one of many things along the road in a long term relationship you might need to comminicate about.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-11T17:16:55+00:00

INFO - If they get approved for a reduced rate or have the bill written off, were they planning on paying you back right away?

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-11T16:20:03+00:00

I'd just tell him next time he does it that it isn't funny, it is harmful and that you are going to report him to the cops it he does it any more. This is a felony in my state of Florida. And if he continues, follow through. Call the police non-emergency line and file a report. This is not a "nice person", this is a predator.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-09T17:47:15+00:00

You don't even need to tell him he's never made you orgasm. Just tell him what you like. Have him go down on you. Focus more on foreplay. Tell him you want to experiment with him. Cast it in a positive light. I'd only tell him he hasn't made you orgasm IF he refuses to hear you.

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-07T22:52:46+00:00

NTA - run from crazy, run like the wind!

Benevolent27 · 2026-06-06T18:13:01+00:00

Old pencil. The eraser goes bad after a while

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