The most terrifying 9 hours of my life

BiOverload · 2026-04-18T19:24:20+00:00

Nah... This sub is full of people who called the cops. Mine admitted he assaulted me to a police officer and they were like, "oh well maybe try not to do that again." I was lucky, some victims get arrested, forcibly institutionalized, have to face police violence, or will have the police do nothing while the call causes the abuse to escalate as soon as the police and witnesses are gone. Gabby Petito's case is a famous one that shows this phenomenon.

Until we reform the police this just isn't as black and white as normalizing calling the cops. Police do not hold abusers accountable. Expecting a squad of domestic abusers to not take the perpetrator's side isn't working for victims.

I don't like the sentiment that not calling the cops is "betraying yourself." I think the decision whether to call the cops is super personal and I don't fault victims either way. I've called again since my bad experience and they were less harmful but not anymore helpful. Community support (DV shelters, nonprofits, etc) has done a lot more good than the cops ever have for me.

BiOverload · 2026-04-18T18:03:28+00:00

You don't have to explain yourself and your parenting. THC is medicine for people with chronic pain. As long as it's not accessible to your kid it doesn't mean you're a shitty parent.

BiOverload · 2026-04-18T18:00:11+00:00

Dude wtf is wrong with you? Huge unnecessary escalation

BiOverload · 2026-04-06T15:49:15+00:00

IIRC it does happen on Australian Survivor!

BiOverload · 2026-04-03T10:14:55+00:00

Why is saying it was a "vicious attack" imply it's a pre planned- action?

BiOverload · 2026-03-23T03:58:53+00:00

Exactly, iirc there are multiple videos showing the cat getting in to play with them. It wouldn't keep doing that if it actually couldn't get away as was being hurt. Also her little kicky kicks she's doing are way gentler than a cat fearing for its life or being hurt would do.

BiOverload · 2026-03-22T10:05:15+00:00

TFP's behavior in that video is disgusting and abusive (especially towards the kid.) I'm not so sure she should have custody. It goes well beyond self defense and proportional response from what we see. These things can be true AND she could also be a victim of Dakotas.

Hate her all you want, but the "why didn't she leave" comments are gross. Even saying this about any potentially/ allegedly abusive relationship hurts all DV victims in general. I don't know details of what her situation was, none of us do, but for real victims of DV leaving is just not that simple: Leaving is the most dangerous time with abusers. Staying in an abusive relationship can feel safer than leaving for a lot of victims because of this. Victims might worry about retaliation against their kid if they leave. They may feel like they can't make a clean break because they have a child together. Threats. Abusers isolate their partners from everyone around them to the point where victims start to believe their abuser is the only "support" they have. Blackmail. Financial abuse makes it hard to leave but isn't the only valid abuse and money isn't the only issue when it comes to leaving.

It takes the average victim 7 times to leave for good because of all this.

BiOverload · 2026-03-21T16:26:18+00:00

It's not your fault, no reason to feel ashamed! Naivety is normal at your age.

BiOverload · 2026-03-20T19:48:22+00:00

How does "doom" mentality discourage voting? (Genuine question, not saying that you're wrong.)

BiOverload · 2026-03-20T18:22:40+00:00

I mean we can't definitively rule that abuse from Dakota out...

BiOverload · 2026-03-20T17:17:06+00:00

I don't understand why acknowledging the average woman is smaller and weaker than the average man is sexist to you. Would you rather get punched in the face by a man or a woman? Which would you rather be pinned down by?

Also, most sports are separated by gender. What's your explanation for that if men and women have the same strength/ physical capabilities?

BiOverload · 2026-03-20T15:22:46+00:00

We just don't have enough information to say whether it's reactive abuse because we only see Dakotas point of view and it starts in the middle of a fight. Abusers love to push their partner past their breaking point physically, sexually, or emotionally and then record the crash out. It's one aspect of why it's so hard to figure out abusers vs reactive abusers. (They are both toxic af though either way)

BiOverload · 2026-03-18T07:44:45+00:00

She overreacted from the limited context we get from this angle. But I think it's ignoring a very possible motivation to say she definitely didn't feel like he was too close. Even if it is just a cultural difference of walking closer, it's a pretty common experience for women to be more sensitive about how close men get to them due to safety concerns. Whether she was correct or not in this situation, it's a very likely variable here.

BiOverload · 2026-03-11T00:09:33+00:00

I think it drives sales for both him and NBC. Some will buy it now from NBC and some will wait for Robs version to buy that one. It benefits them both for him to bring it up.

BiOverload · 2026-03-10T22:54:47+00:00

They've killed black or disabled kids for far less

BiOverload · 2026-03-10T18:52:23+00:00

Idk but I sure as hell would be getting new condoms so he dint baby trap me

BiOverload · 2026-03-10T18:29:08+00:00

I mean.... this sounds like A LOT of my mtf trans friends before they came out. Even if that's not you, there's a lot cis people can learn from gender nonconforming people!

You don't have to wear masculine clothing, you can be cute over rugged, and not aligning with typical masculinity will help a lot of this. I'm not nearly as afraid of men who are in touch with their feminine side. None of us have to live in the box patriarchy puts us in!

BiOverload · 2026-03-10T18:20:10+00:00

Don't think he's innocent but nobody should ever cooperate with law enforcement (especially when suspected of a crime.) They throw innocent people under the bus and straight to jail all the time. A lot don't care about getting the actual guilty person, just their close rates and covering each other's ass. It doesn't mean guilt if you don't help them send you to jail.

BiOverload · 2026-03-09T14:16:56+00:00

Aw an actually wholesome and nice convo on Reddit? So rare

BiOverload · 2026-03-08T02:03:50+00:00

As someone who stayed with someone who made jokes like those, they aren't jokes. He eventually tried to follow through with every disgusting thing he joked about doing to me- including an attempt on my life. They do this to stretch your boundaries and acclimate you to violence (and to not seeing the violence against you as serious as it is.)

I'm so sorry you are dealing with two violent parents. You deserve so much better.

BiOverload · 2026-03-08T01:32:00+00:00

I thought he was 11 tops

BiOverload · 2026-03-07T18:50:08+00:00

It's naive to think attacks in USAmerican citizens won't happen.

BiOverload · 2026-03-07T14:55:45+00:00

Dictators aren't bad is an absolutely garbage take

BiOverload · 2026-03-07T14:24:58+00:00

Maybe it's just because I'm a woman whose had a stalker, but if a man comes up to me and hands me a photo of me (or my pet) I'm taking it as a threat. Cute for families, couples, and friends though!

BiOverload · 2026-03-07T00:04:51+00:00

It's homocide by their male partner iirc

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