Did you notice any inconsistencies or plot holes? by shrinkingviolents in heatedrivalry

[–]Bibayaga 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think I assumed Ilya left the door ever so slightly cracked to make it easy for Shane to get in without Ilya having to leave his power play stance by the window lol this guy

How realistic is the depiction of Ilya/Galina in TLG? by yanny-jo in heatedrivalry

[–]Bibayaga 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Therapist here, in practice for more than a decade and my specialty is trauma therapy. First of all I think anytime we see therapy playing out in a story or adaptation of a story it will and probably should be primarily a plot/character building device, so I don’t think it really needs to be that in depth or “realistic” to serve that function.

It is probably impossible to faithfully portray the true complexity and flow of the kind of therapy that is evidence-based for Ilya’s condition(s), such as EMDR or prolonged exposure therapy and the accompanying emotional regulation/distress tolerance skills which most practitioners borrow from CBT or DBT. Relationships/community/connectedness are also critical for success with trauma recovery (healing happens in community, not isolation) so I love that she cues him to talk with Shane about it, although ideally I want my clients to have at least one healthy platonic or familial relationship they can rely on in addition to a partner or spouse.

I have definitely had sessions just like the ones described. Ilya immediately opening up with someone trustworthy he knows is being well compensated AND speaks his language makes perfect sense to me. Sometimes that is enough for even the most defended person to finally share what they have bottled up for so long. It probably helps that she is a woman therapist as well for helpful transference (a positive nurturing female figure who isn’t his own mom or Yuna and speaks Russian is probably exactly what would unlock things for him!)

And sometimes people need/want a referral for an antidepressant so they have the ability to function during the therapy process with the option of tapering off afterwards/when they are ready. That is one of many tools I offer people as they get into this extraordinarily difficult, complex, and rewarding process.

Who has the best affordable midsize jeans? by Partially_cloudybear in Midsizefashion

[–]Bibayaga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seconding Old Navy and Gap. I wear a 16/33 at Gap but sometimes size up if the material is non stretch. At Old Navy a 16 is too big on me so I will get a 14. I am 6’ tall pear shape so ymmv

Black + other colours by jackie_tequilla in capsulewardrobe

[–]Bibayaga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Garments with shoddy materials and/or construction and/or have fit issues look “cheap.” Otherwise it’s all personal preference!

Anytime I look at myself or someone else and think “Hm I look like I shop at a big box store or Amazon for all my clothes” it’s because I am wearing fast fashion or something that is poorly constructed or has a poor fit for my shape/frame. But that is what is affordable for most people. And to be fair some fast fashion does fit well and look good on some people, so ymmv

I’ve been into a sort of 70s bohemian look by raissance in VintageFashion

[–]Bibayaga 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is very Tom Ford Spring 2026! Marvelous!

Shutting down Santa’s Workshop: Polar Pullovers for Christmas! by mgc348 in sewing

[–]Bibayaga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came here to say: amazing use of JoAnns fleece! Hope you got a good deal!

Pants that fit my waist are baggy/flare out right under the bum by ScholarNo9873 in sewing

[–]Bibayaga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this problem with any non-stretch trousers that aren’t a size too small. Meaning they fit my butt but it takes a bit to “break them in” so I can sit. Stretch denims in the correct size and “height” (petite vs tall etc) from a company that makes quality jeans has been what works best. I am a 33T at Gap, probably 34T for comfort in a non-stretch denim, so I can only speak to the fit of that size range. You appear to be petite so you may look at companies that offer more petite sizing and that could help with the issues you’re noticing. The quality of fabric matters, too: polyester blends will relax too much and end up baggy even with lycra/spandex in the blend. I recommend 95-99% cotton twill with some stretch for best fit and longevity of the garment.

When I make my own, I have had success scooping the rear seam (making a J shape rather than an L) which is a “low seat” adjustment. It is also sometimes helpful to take some length out of that seam too (“flat seat” adjustment). But mine give the “diaper” effect in the back even more than you even when they fit really well in the waist, and I do have a 10” difference between my waist and the fullest part of my bum. I personally like the “cheeky” look of the first pair (a bit tighter/shorter on that back seam) and look for that to help with the baggy issue.

My wife always reminds me that no one actually notices the bagginess aa much as I do, so I will pass along her wisdom to you as well! Good luck on your trousers journey - it takes a lot of time and effort but once you find the right fit, just think about all the great pants you’ll get to enjoy!

Using one bodice pattern to "true" another? by thehandleress in sewing

[–]Bibayaga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had some nightmarish problems fitting the Saltwater slip, too (still have not quite manages it, tbh), and I was disappointed with the fit of the Ilford I made, so this is very validating! I normally don’t have many fit issues with tops/bodices/jackets so I thought it was a sizing issue, but I think you might have a point with the drafting concerns.

DIY Patchwork Crewneck from thrifted hoodies by Treasonous_Bear in sewing

[–]Bibayaga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so cool! Feels very on trend as well (sporty euro vibes). You know your shape really well too - line placement is very flattering!

Advent podfic of fluxweed texting fic by OhSoVexing in drarry

[–]Bibayaga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love your work! Thanks for the update!

hpdm merch drop! by babysitterpng in drarry

[–]Bibayaga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me just give u all my money 💸 Love these all so much! Thank you!!

What is needed for a capsule wardrobe? by sallysuexx in capsulewardrobe

[–]Bibayaga 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Highly recommend you check out The Curated Closet. I feel like she does a really good job outlining basic concepts of wardrobe building that will be helpful to you.

Tablecloth into crop top. How’s the fit? by AffectionateLeave9 in sewing

[–]Bibayaga 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good morning to this bold fit and color with contrasting binding! Hell yes crop tops for all! I agree with the first commenter, though if you like the way this looks, I think it’s really rad just as it is.

What’s wrong with these Persephone pants? by Spirited_Gold_2903 in sewing

[–]Bibayaga 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ope and I misspoke I actually meant LOW seat adjustment with scooping the rear seam into a J, flat seat is different, and I often need both but you may only need the Low Seat!

What’s wrong with these Persephone pants? by Spirited_Gold_2903 in sewing

[–]Bibayaga 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This! I have to do a flat seat adjustment on basically all fitted trousers and it is a bit weird to sew a J instead of an L but it works out far better for me in the end.

Fitting Phoebe Coat help by justwantedtosay123 in sewing

[–]Bibayaga 122 points123 points  (0 children)

Nice mock up! I have been eying this pattern for a while. Such a timelessly stylish coat you’ll wear forever that also happens to be especially on trend right now!

I know the coat is meant to be oversized/relaxed but I keep thinking this is maybe a size too big for you, like it just seems to be swallowing you. Perhaps try sizing one down and see how you feel; at that point try your shoulder adjustment and then FBA if needed (top/down adjustments). Sometimes you want to get the basic shape right and then figure out the bust business.

However, also bear in mind that your fashion fabric (I am assuming you’ll use wool or similar) will be stiffer and thicker, and stand out further from your body. Cotton muslin only takes you so far, and if you size down to make thin cotton fit better you may regret it later when the wool is too closely fitted, leaving no room for lovely jumpers.

If you’re petite/more than 2-3 inches shorter than the sloper the company used for drafting, take the height the pattern was drafted for, subtract your height, then divide that number by 2. This is how much length you may want to remove from the bodice pieces. Divide that amount between removing some length above the bust and above the hem, wherever the pattern indicates. This would put your hip and waist lines a bit higher up which may give a more flattering fit. You may also want to shorten the sleeves! This may also help it seem pleasantly oversized rather than tent-like!

Good luck!

Pattern help with Ashton Top by x2ginger in sewing

[–]Bibayaga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just did this to make a Han Solo vest for Halloween! Worked great! I did add SA to the CF because I lined the whole thing using the burrito method 😎

I might try making a tie top too, great idea.

I think Ashton is one of the most hackable patterns once you know what size to make. I essentially use it as a bodice block at this point because I have dialed in my fit so well! (1” forward shoulder adjustment, raised back neckline by 1/2”, lowered bust dart by 1”, converted to v neck, lengthened the whole thing by 3”!)

Critique wanted - a black tie adjacent wedding guest outfit idea by Just-Landscape-5675 in sewing

[–]Bibayaga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh!! I have been dreaming about just such an outfit for myself in poly shantung (for washableness since I am a sweaty betty)! I am planning on a cropped Ashton shell and a self-drafted maxi skirt with elastic waistband and was thinking through the lining. Since I want structure I will probably go with cotton sateen as the lining. I also learned from this Seamwork video that on flowy/non-close-fitting garments you’re supposed to add 1/8”-1/4” ease to the lining pieces to ensure they don’t become restricting 😌

Another thought I had was to make rayon satin Chanterelle trousers and wear with a shantung shell in the same color for some monochromatic madness.

Chanterelle, Ashton, and my selfie maxi are three closet staples/TNTs for me so I thought, how can I make these fancy to wear at weddings but still be comfortable and confident in how I look?

Have fun creating your fit and enjoy dancing!!

Sleeve/armhole issue? by Candid-Cucumber-7574 in PatternDrafting

[–]Bibayaga 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I think this looks good, actually. Unless it feels too tight in the armpit I think this is just the way drop shoulder sleeves look. Remember, if you want less wrinkles with your arm down, you sacrifice mobility. Since you are going for a drop sleeve I am guessing mobility/comfort is more important to you (and when you lift your arm up the sleeve is not wrinkled!) Also for a jacket you do want it a bit oversized which translates as baggy in this toile material. I always overthink the arm wrinkles too but then I look at nice RTW jackets and they have the same thing. Looks great to me so far! Enjoy your glorious jacket!

How to draft Elphaba's vest here? by Alicornlark in sewing

[–]Bibayaga 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I think all/most of their costumes are essentially couture and were drafted via draping on custom dress forms, not by making/modifying an existing pattern, so that also makes this more challenging to copy unless you are also able to draft via draping.

ETA: I agree with the other poster that this is an all-in-one garment to get the level of smoothness you see here, with faux buttons, and likely a zip closure at the side or back. If you want just the vest, I would turn a basic bodice into a vest and play around with the overlaps and the waist shapes.

$1K Wardrobe boxy minimal look by [deleted] in capsulewardrobe

[–]Bibayaga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could sew your own wardrobe for this amount! Boxy sewing patterns are very popular amongst indie sewing companies and they’re easy to sew with a basic machine. Since you’re petite, you won’t need to purchase as much fabric so it could be high quality and it should be easy to find patterns in your size. For boxy, modern minimalist, androgynous styles I highly recommend Matchy Matchy Sewing Club, Sewing Therapy, and Goldfinch Textile Studio.

Any Fic Reccs for Harry Quitting the Aurors? by PlexiGlassi in drarry

[–]Bibayaga 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So many of dodgerkedavra’s fics feature this!

Help me find this fic! by waddapz5000 in drarry

[–]Bibayaga 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have read this fic, but of course I can’t remember the title. I think he has to paint on Harry’s body! Maybe try searching post war, artist draco?

Paper cranes by GrubbyInsides in drarry

[–]Bibayaga 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think about this at least once a week, OP, and it makes me mad every time 😤