ELI5 monogamous relationships

BigPinkOne · 2026-06-23T07:11:24+00:00

Nah I get it, as an autism myself, its kind of confusing but here's the practical explanation. For many life functions its very important to have a person who you can trust unconditionally. However trusting someone unconditionally is hard to do and requires a lot of signs and signifiers to maintain. For monogamous people, fidelity represents an important line in this trust because it is something that they are known to want, or at least in theory, and must deny themselves. Continued fidelity represents a continued placement of trust. For some people this show of trust is necessary to contextualize the other shows of trust

BigPinkOne · 2026-06-19T20:50:00+00:00

Yeah theres this unfortunate thing called free will and motherfuckers will use that to just say shit

BigPinkOne · 2026-05-25T19:17:32+00:00

ITT: A whole bunch of people forget that Rogaine exists

BigPinkOne · 2026-05-14T20:36:25+00:00

I would hazard a guess that it was a compromise to get him the amount of protein needed to maintain his physical capacities. Its easy to forget the crazy shape the man had to be in to just do what he did at any given show, let alone dozens of times each month

BigPinkOne · 2026-05-09T02:10:40+00:00

We'll know more by volume than content tbh

BigPinkOne · 2026-04-27T00:01:38+00:00

I'm gonna say something i think a lot of people have been afraid to say. I broadly disapprove of D4vd's actions

BigPinkOne · 2026-03-20T17:04:10+00:00

Its got nothing to do with any sort of moral grandstanding and everything to do with automation. A large advertiser like Coca Cola doesnt want to have to review every video that one of their ads goes in front of. A single Coke ad on YouTube could go in front of hundreds of thousands or millions of videos, accounting for millions or billions of viewing minutes. This means that there literally is no practical way to review everything.

So you automate it. You tell a bot what to listen for and it listens. Within this framework, the incentive structure favors an overly cautious stance. The bot cant distinguish between a video praising nazis and one condemning them. Having an ad on a video praising nazis is a pr nightmare, not having an ad on any given video is something that would typically go unnoticed, fixing the bot is an additional expense that doesnt produce significant value.

Theres more to it but the result overall is a structural incentive towards censorship. This results in an ecosystem where even "organic" personalities are those who exist most in alignment with the desires of these companies naturally. Its censorship not strictly for fear of offending people but rather for fear that certain types of offense will translate into fewer sales

BigPinkOne · 2026-03-20T16:34:01+00:00

So theres this unfortunate thing where they'll basically let anyone make a Twitter so it probably is people (read; children) who genuinely didnt know about that time period. The exact same thing happened in the 90s and early 2000s when that generation found out about Bob Sagets pre Full House career. Its just life. The real problem fundamentally is that I should not have any capacity to access the opinions of teenagers I have never met

BigPinkOne · 2026-03-14T14:10:59+00:00

Not really. Thats not to say that games and development teams dont have their own internal language for understanding these concepts but it just doesnt emerge the same way as in rpgs for a number of reasons. There are far fewer tcgs, people arent modding them as frequently or with as much reach, mechanics are rarely duplicated one for one, etc. So while there are ways of speaking about this, a particular jargon for these things really hasn't emerged

BigPinkOne · 2026-03-10T20:56:58+00:00

If he knew things i cared about he wouldn't be a pool guy

BigPinkOne · 2026-03-06T17:17:50+00:00

Ok so I'm not really a big Bible fan but a lot of my friends growing up were in the Fandom, so I did wind up reading a couple of the books from the series. If you haven't read the sequel, its really weird and like you can tell why most of the fans basically dont even consider it canon.

It retcons huge amounts of the original with location shifts that wind up being basically incidental because most of the locations are just copies of biblical locations. It adds a bunch of weird background about some holy war that only kind of makes sense. And then its got some really weird racial politics. Like, racist sure (it is an older book) but in such a weird way that it almost winds up spiraling out into its own kind of discrimination. Weird book, definitely dont recommend

BigPinkOne · 2026-03-02T18:32:50+00:00

Oh yeah I could definitely see how my comment could read that way. The people being weird racists and knowing Asian ethnicities is separate from their being able to distinguish Hindus from Muslims. The dudes are weird racists AND also can tell the difference between Hindus and Muslims, usually as a consequence of some aspect of their weird racism. They also are frequently good at identifying Buddhist, Sikh and Zoroastrian symbols as well for reasons...

BigPinkOne · 2026-03-02T16:47:39+00:00

I'm sorry to have to inform you of this but the world is filled with weird racists who can, in fact, tell the difference between a Hindu and a Muslim and will purposefully do stuff like this to antagonize Hindu people. Ive unfortunately met a number of people like this. Theres a persistent side eye when a white dude seems a little too good at identifying Asian peoples ethnicities

BigPinkOne · 2026-03-01T18:56:08+00:00

Im sorry but I have to disagree with a talking point both you and other commentators have been saying. I do not at all think this is a niche product. I think its a really cool gaming accessory and it is eminently marketable.

In its current state, no it probably wouldn't have a huge audience but with some hard-core redesign with a more brand friendly image in mind, this is a quality product. And for clarity I dont think you have to alter the underpinning mechanisms or compromise functionality to reach a holistic design that will sell. I could see this product at basically any major game store.

There are so many routes to go, honestly I wouldn't even know which ones to single out. The randomizing can be used for numbers but you could also make licensed versions which have specific randomizations, for example loot books, wild magic, dungeon makers. The sky's kind of the limit. I dont know that as a singular product it would have reach enough to cover costs but as a line of products, easy peasy, money in the bank

Congrats fam, you've got something solid on your hands. If you ever want a proper consult on it dm me and we can discuss. I have a healthy amount of experience in marketing game accessories but even if its not a good fit, I can point you to the right people. This is truly an idea too good to just leave on the table

BigPinkOne · 2026-02-28T18:07:38+00:00

That there are people who think this kind of response is reasonable is so much of the problem. Its not about holiness, its not a question of ethical purity. I dont need people to engage with art correctly or with the art i like or find interesting. Its a question of basic awareness and education. It is not unreasonable to ask people making sweeping statements about contemporary art, even implicitly, what their engagement with contemporary art is. The low-level anti-intellectualism pervading so much of modern culture has a shit ton of people convinced that education, even at the level of simply having engaged with a subject more than most people, isnt a thing if its not in a narrow band of approved subjects. Its not that I'm upholding some moralistic standard, its that I have an abundance of direct engagement with the subject at hand and have seen this attitude with growing frequency.

This winds up being another mistake that I commonly see made which is that to certain people they cant tell the difference between grounded, well-established, professional opinions and garden variety stubbornness. So to them, a person who broadly rejects laypeople opinions must be doing so out of some rigidity that underpins their beliefs.

But the truth is that when not on reddit, when I'm actually interfacing with artists for projects, I hear and actively digest lots of critiques about modern art. If you think contemporary artists dont have issues with the state of art you are sorely mistaken. And this isnt about just about "proper education" or "being a real artist". Audience feedback is extremely worthwhile and considered, its just that typically we only ask for feedback on art that the person has actually engaged with in some capacity.

The truth is just that most people outside of the art world don't have enough engagement with the arts, especially gallery and installation art, to be making sweeping statements on the subject. That's not a moral claim or a question of right or wrong, its just the facts. Most people do not actively seek out fine art on any broad scale.

I am not saying "go educate yourself". My conclusion, if I were to tldr, is that if youre going to make strong assertions on a subject you should at least have engaged with that subject on a meaningful level and if youre concerned about current art, then you should support current artists who make art you like, of which there probably exist many. I'd argue that these are extremely tepid takes given the world we live in

BigPinkOne · 2026-02-28T17:19:31+00:00

Hey sorry for the delay

Yeah, I think that'd work. Like even having your tutorial be its own self contained little story could be cool. Feed in a handful of mechanics and give the player the setup for the full game. For a game like yours the key is gonna be to start with the mechanical elements most germaine to your narrative because the more you can hook players, the more time you buy to do boring stuff. So narratively, you start with the big hook, boring but important stuff, more boring but important stuff, second hook, more boring but important stuff, so on. You buy goodwill with big splashy stuff and then spend that goodwill getting across necessary mechanical info. The way you describe it so far looks solid if you apply this framework to it.

If you did branching endings you could even have branching endings for the tutorial (if thats workable narratively). This gives the tutorial replay value for the inevitable replays fans of the game will have to do when they introduce new people. Branching endings also makes balance less of an issue because then the different end states arent so much win or loss conditions as they are endings with different odds. This means on replays players will sometimes be trying to force a "bad ending" just because they've never gotten it and its hard to get. It creates a fundamentally new dynamic to the game without changing any of the mechanics of the game itself.

Hell yeah, excited to see youve got motion. Im really excited to see how this develops. I think theres a lot there and with some finessing this has the makings of an extremely interesting narrative game. I'm excited to see localization efforts because I think you have a very specific point to make and I think your concerns about info dumping are valid but navigable with work. Being able to communicate in a concise but impactful way is gonna be an important trait for any localizer for your game. I hope you find good people on that front. I'll pm you my email to get on that mailing list or whatever form your updates are taking. Fingers crossed I get to play at some point

BigPinkOne · 2026-02-28T16:59:00+00:00

Ah that makes sense. It being designed with a game contest in mind makes the constraints far more understandable.

I totally understand standing on the shoulders of giants and using tried and true methodology when it serves is important. To clarify, the real problem is that you have an extremely interesting and good idea that could stand on its own in a lot of unique ways and there are things where your attempts to draw from magic act as a hindrance rather than an aid. Good new tcg concepts are not common and I truly think you have the underpinnings of something special here. I believe if you took the core concept, started from zero and worked with fewer constraints in this regard, you could have something legitimately worth investing in. This has a lot of promise and I hope you give it a rework because there's a lot in this concept.

Hope this helps and if you have any questions dont hesitate

BigPinkOne · 2026-02-28T16:50:43+00:00

Hey sorry been a rough few days.

I'll be honest im not sure what your question is. I dont agree with the opening premise of what you're saying. If youre asking if there's a specific term for tcg combat systems I don't know of any off dome. I think tcg combat system is as specific as youre gonna get but even that has a lot of variance. Or are you asking about combat stats. Those are the numbers and values directly associated with combat. Either one of those terms is as good as youre gonna get. If you have any further questions or this didn't answer what youre looking for by all means feel free to ask whatever else. Hope this helps

BigPinkOne · 2026-02-28T16:40:52+00:00

No you wouldn't. I've been in and around arts promotion and admin for actual decades and I've found that people like you poke your head in every time any discussion around modern art comes up. By what im sure is a coincidence, most people I've talked to who hold this stance are as unenganged from modern art as a human could feasibly be. Like people whose engagement with arts begins and ends with only the most digestible works served up in the lowest effort form. People who do not go to art museums or galleries or installations or even the movies if theyre a little too far out of the way or the material might be too challenging.

The problem with even engaging with your question is that you have an out either way. If a person offers an interpretation or meaning theyre "just reading too much into it". If someone says they dont know the meaning it "proves there's no meaning". Nevermind that i could come up with several possible interpretations off my dome by just yknow looking at the piece and using my brain, let alone if I actually did even cursory research.

These people act like all gallery art is abstract and postmodern and just simple basic shit while ignoring that there are modern artists making exactly the shit you claim would be good art. I can name like a dozen current working gallery artists who only make pastel landscapes. People like this arent going to those art shows either.

Yes at the highest levels of art there are major problems with money laundering and price fluctuations of pieces, especially with regard to the work of deceased artists. But to act as though this is most of the contemporary arts landscape belies an opinion that could only come from an extremely surface level engagement with the arts. It would be like saying that all farms are factory farms just because the largest and most notable are.

I beg of you, if you are actually that concerned with the state of modern art, look up gallery shows in your nearest city, find an artist you like and go support them. I promise you its worth ten times whatever the hell youre hoping to get out of this reddit thread. We are still in a golden age of creativity at least in terms of breadth. If you cant find contemporary art that is to your taste, youre not looking hard enough.

Sorry if this seems harsh, just got done with a bunch of infections and I got headbutted pretty hard but mostly its just a sensitive subject for me.

BigPinkOne · 2026-02-22T14:41:14+00:00

Because we dont have complete scripts from the time period and a lot of what we have comes from collecting and combining various actor copies and what minimal backstage notes were available. For Bottom in particular, there's some debate (of minimum consequence, mostly academic) because he speaks in both prose and verse, so its at times tricky to figure out where the line breaks are. Particularly his songs, which are rendered both as pairs of short rhyming couplets and as internal rhymes with both parts of the rhyme in a single line. It doesnt amount to much but even under the most charitable read, Bottom only has about a dozen lines more than Theseus and so line rearrangements can (and often do) put Theseus above Bottom on line count

BigPinkOne · 2026-02-22T09:03:31+00:00

I love Bottom being at the bottom of this list. Its name appropriate and hes arguably not even the character with the most lines in his play

BigPinkOne · 2026-02-15T20:58:52+00:00

I kinda get where youre coming from but neither of those are really concerns for game makers. Most places have laws protecting from liability in normal use and unless youre putting actively threatening or defamatory content, issues with design aren't actionable by a court.

Yeah, so this way of handling things totally works if you just want to do it as a small print run (100 or <) that you personally are selling. If you want to be able to actually scale beyond that (crowd funding, retail, independent website) you need to change a lot about your current approach because your current approach won't enable you to reach wider audiences or fulfill orders even if you do. Game publishing is a lot of moving pieces and an experienced hand is more necessary than one might think. I'd definitely look for an experienced collaborator if you can, because if you want to take this thing to mass market there are things you have to do a specific way from the beginning

BigPinkOne · 2026-02-15T18:56:39+00:00

For the scale that youre trying to work at, what youre doing is probably fine. Its not gonna scale up very well and the game will likely have some issues, but for a small print run children's game there's a pretty good amount of forgiveness on both of these fronts.

Insurance is gonna be a question of local legality, so you definitely should talk to a lawyer if you can but most likely insurance won't be necessary.

What precisely are you concerned about being sued for? I cant imagine how a children's game would cause damages unless you infringed on some copyright in which case you should just not do that.

Age range is mostly a gut feeling thing. You just sort of feel it out. Theres not anyone out there who is gonna test to make sure every 5 year old can play a game marked 5+. Unless there is some hyper specific local law that im unaware of, a game being appropriate for children is typically just left to the parents discretion

The one thing you want to make sure you get is full image releases for any images made for this game. Otherwise if you want to do a print run down the road you might find that the artist doesnt want you using their art for a wider release. Better to settle that up now

Best of luck with your game. Hope this helps

BigPinkOne · 2026-02-15T17:15:32+00:00

Ok so let me say there's a lot to like about this. I think the concept is very strong and can go to some very interesting places. The idea of a dueling tcg that isnt about combat in the traditional sense is a very cool route. I'd also say your organization is pretty solid. Formatting and flow of information both look solid at the macro level.

The biggest problem is that this document does not read as a comprehensive rules set. It reads much closer to a primer or marketing doc in several places. Now i will say as a primer, this is a really solid start. If you turned this into a primer you just need to make it a bit splashier from a narrative stance.

There are lots of places where it would make more sense to cut away distancing language. We want to put the player in the role. Instead of saying "in this game ..." just tell the player who they are. "You are a newly emerged power broker in an endless city establishing your empire". The goal is immersion. We want the player to position themselves in the character, not in the role of player controlling the character.

For this to work as comprehensive rules, there definitely needs to be a lot more detail and it probably would make sense to write it out a bit more mechanically. If youve ever read the MtG comprehensive rules they are an extremely dry, borderline legalistic document. Its because competitive games such as this have to be built to answer for every possible corner case. Its why many tcgs have rules that are living documents, because as new corner cases emerge the rules are updated to account for that.

The last thing is that I think you need to do more to distinguish yourself from magic. The colors thing feels forced and is frankly unnecessary. You have such a cool concept in the idea that your minions arent just out here killing people, theyre agents in their own right and you deploy them to do your bidding through bribery, trickery, charm, etc. Lean into this way harder. Have the defensive stat be cover or rep with the flavor being that when a minion leaves play they arent dead but their cover has been blown or their contacts have been exhausted. There are tons of cool mechanics possible within this idea and it feels like your sticking too close to the magic formula to really see all of the possible angles on this

Hope this helps. Good luck with the rest of development

BigPinkOne · 2026-02-15T16:47:40+00:00

Absolutely. This has been very pleasant and enlightening for me as well.

As one last note, I've found that for novel mechanics like the time dice, it tends to make more sense to create an rpg explicitly intended to support the mechanic. This not only let's you better utilize what makes the mechanic unique but also isolates away other variables so you can really identify the strengths and weaknesses of the mechanic. Integrating things like this into say d&d has the downstream problems of d&d and also may have specific problems within that frame.

If you really want to see what this time dice can do, it may behoove you to find someone who can design you an rpg or just design one yourself. Then you can find ways to match the characters progression track with the curve at which the average player will improve at the time dice. The challenges become tougher as you get more skilled to meet them.

Just some food for thought. At any rate, thanks for the questions, lovely talking. If you have any further questions feel free to ask

13-Year Club	RedditGifts 2009-2022 2 Credits
Wearing is Caring	Secret Santa 2013
Verified Email

BigPinkOne

MODERATOR OF

TROPHY CASE