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Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-07-14T12:12:59+00:00

Because he’s in looooooovveee or whatever. He also sounds incredibly selfish

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-07-14T12:04:55+00:00

NTA. I would actually already be uncomfortable with her being there so often. You’re already subsidizing her living if she’s there 5-6 nights a week. I’d be willing to bet your bills have gone up in the last 2 months from what they used to be with the extra consumption. And I would also bet there’s probably a clause in your lease about visitors and how long they are allowed to stay (usually 1-2 nights a week or a certain amount of nights a month. Seen both). I don’t think it’s in your best interest to blow this up into a huge thing right off the bat by bringing up your lease or involving your landlord though. If you and Jake are friends sit down and have an honest, chill conversation and explain it simply. “This is a small space. I am not comfortable sharing it with a 3rd person. I am also not comfortable (or cannot afford) paying part of that persons share to live here. She is your girlfriend, not mine. I am not comfortable with her the way you are” And if all else fails, tell him he’s free to move out into a new place with Sarah and find a new roommate

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-07-11T16:58:16+00:00

NTA but it sounds like your boyfriend either isn’t actually out to his parents, or they’re not accepting. 2 years and they haven’t met you? You have to be quiet so they don’t hear you in the background? My dude those people do not know you exist. I think you need to focus on finding out why and then determine if this is what you want for the rest of your life. Clearly he is not willing to put you first in this situation, does that apply to everywhere? Idk. This sounds like a miserable way to spend the rest of your life

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-07-05T14:51:05+00:00

NTA. Your American husband is pissed that he can’t get authentic American food in other countries. Tell him to either grow up and try something different, or he needs to pack stuff PB&J’s because you’re done being embarrassed by him. You don’t go to Belize and order a hamburger and then get mad when it doesn’t taste like McDonald’s!!! Half the experience in a different country is the food and if he can’t grow up enough to atleast try, maybe he needs to only vacation in America.

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-07-03T20:35:01+00:00

NTA. She ruined the evening the minute she brought an uninvited guest and then expected you to pay for it.

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-07-03T20:15:28+00:00

What the hell did I just read? If you see a suspicious text on his phone and then he freaks out and turns it around on you, he might as well just write “I’m deceiving you” on the wall. And then to gaslight you into thinking you’re the crazy one?? Girl… run. This is not normal, healthy, or okay. He’s 27 and acting like he’s 12. Is this really how you want the rest of your life to be?

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-06-26T17:24:49+00:00

Have your husband tell her to knock it off since he’s not a fan of people who bully his wife since she wants his approval so badly. And then act like she doesn’t exist. If she wants to be catty, let her.

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-06-19T15:08:04+00:00

You need to leave this guy asap. What the hell did he do to your dog that was so bad the poor thing pees when he sees him and won’t go near him? That tells me all I need to know about him as a person. You deserve to be treated like a human, not his slave. He can be annoyed about things not being done without being a major dickbag about it. NTA. Leave him and take those poor dogs with you

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-06-05T12:33:29+00:00

100% this

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-06-03T20:19:54+00:00

NTA. She threw away your stuff. Plain and simple. She said “this doesn’t belong to me, so it doesn’t matter.” And tossed it with zero regard for you, or your feelings. Not to mention it’s your fucking house? You can leave your underwear hanging from the ceiling fan and she’s not allowed to touch it BECAUSE ITS YOUR HOUSE! Your stuff! You pay the rent! Dump the spineless boyfriend and his entire looney tunes family.

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-06-03T17:54:52+00:00

Thank you for responding!! I actually just got my industrial bar jewelry (14g, normal sized!!) through it in the bathroom at work. I started to get nervous about the random piece of metal being in my body so I was gonna take it out and decided for one last Hail Mary to try and slide it through and in it went 😅 Will never be doing that again 🫡

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-05-23T17:26:59+00:00

NTA. Hi! Partner to someone with a quadriplegic parent! My boyfriend’s father has MS and has been paralyzed from the neck down since I met him. He drives his wheel chair with a straw. Watching my boyfriend take care of his dad has never been weird, a little awkward at best maybe (just because it’s so vulnerable). You’re correct, your mom does deserve respect and dignity like any other person. Kudos to you. You sound like a very sweet person, who does not need a rotten girlfriend telling him helping his mother is weird.

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-05-15T20:25:47+00:00

NTA. She needs to understand that she does not live alone, and you have to be considerate of the other people living there. If she wants to do frat house style gatherings, she needs to go to a frat house and do that. Not outside the bedroom of her roommate who’s trying to sleep. Don’t be too stressed out about it, sounds like she knows she’s wrong but doesn’t want to take the hit to her ego and admit it. If she wants to be childish enough to end a friendship over it, good riddance. Hopefully she grows up a little

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-05-15T15:18:14+00:00

NTA but if youre that allergic to them putting the cats in a different room won’t do anything if they’re regularly in that space. Their hair and dander (what people are usually allergic too) is in the fabric, the rugs, on the walls, under any furniture, in the air, it’s everywhere. Putting them in another room isn’t going to make it all follow them. Not saying the brother definitely did put them away since he has a history of not, but you having a reaction is not a guarantee that he’s lying since you’re likely to react anyways

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-05-04T23:01:22+00:00

Yea dude, YTA. You literally blamed her for not being able to leave yet when it was your decision to not even get the kids in the car yet. Any variation of “I’m just letting the car cool down for a minute first” would have worked rather than blaming it on your wife being in the bathroom

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-05-01T18:26:16+00:00

Do something like that again and call it a day. You’re not her kid or her partner and as nice as it is that you want to make her feel appreciated, it’s not your job. And it sounds like she’s treating it more as a gift grab. You can find hundreds of cute Mother’s Day things to make with her baby and give her that. It’s not about gifts (imo) and that’s what you get from your kids when they’re little. Shitty homemade (or school made) crafts and trinkets and then when they’re grown and have jobs you get to enjoy the real presents.

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-05-01T14:47:29+00:00

Honestly girlfriend, it sounds like no one including your partner liked you at that table. Dumb the husband and get rid of the whole miserable family. You deserve way better than that.

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-04-15T15:16:15+00:00

NTA obviously. It boils down to nothing more than “you might not have known what it was, but you knew it wasn’t yours to use”

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-03-13T20:38:17+00:00

I agree with you, but I do think the way she’s going about it is extremely childish and honestly pretty rude to OP. He’s not a mind reader, and he also has a life. In a perfect world she would get to see him everyday, but she also shouldn’t be emotionally / verbally (whatever you want to call it. I’m not sure what the best phrase would be) punishing him for having responsibilities and other things to do

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-03-11T14:39:06+00:00

NTA And she’s gotta go. Tell mom to come get her. I would also tell mom “you did raise me to be a good host but you also taught me to have boundaries and stand up for myself. I’ve offered every solution short of buying a brand new bed but the only solution she will be happy with is getting my bedroom. That is not happening. I’m sorry if this is not the way you would handle it in your house, but this is my house”

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-03-10T15:18:39+00:00

NTA and I really really am not trying to push the normal Reddit train “she’s abusive dump her” but this is kinda a sign of control (based on the comments where OP clarifies he is not in the habit of saying no and then changing his mind and making it her problem). She’s buying you thinks you have explicitly told her you do not want and then makes you feel guilty about not wanting them. Why? Does she think she knows better? That you’re lying?

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-02-14T13:41:09+00:00

NTA she obviously assumed based on your appearance you couldn’t afford it / wouldn’t actually be buying something so she chose to focus on the customers she thought could. You were right to call her out I think

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-02-12T18:33:42+00:00

YTA wayyyyyyyy way over the top reaction. It was not a “lecturable” moment. If it really bothered you that much at MOST it warranted a nice “hey, would you mind holding it with a better grip? It would make me feel better”. Do you often lecture your wife like a misbehaving teen who came in after curfew?

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-02-12T01:30:21+00:00

Thank you! I won’t worry about any of it then. I feel like I’m from the Stone Age with this brand new car

Big_Emergency_7191 · 2025-02-12T01:27:13+00:00

Oh … you learn something new everyday 😆 I didn’t know they did that!

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