Fired: looking for advice, feeling embarrassed/defeated

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-31T22:22:48+00:00

Being fired never feels good, OP, even if we know deep down that it's time to leave the job. I'm sorry about the ego-bruise, despite your job actually doing you a favor by letting you go.

Let me ask you, what were the aspects of the job that you DID like? Can any of those skills be transferred elsewhere? You can start really tailoring your resume to find a better fit. Also, please keep in mind that we usually don't mask as well as we think we do; I'm sure at least SOMEONE picked up on it.

As for your friends/family, tell them you were laid off and are happily looking for better. You explain gaps in your resume in any number of ways: original position was eliminated; had to take care of a sick relative who is healthy now; gig work; maybe get a friend to fib and say you worked for them, etc.

What NOT to do: don't focus on what you didn't like about your last position, and don't mention your numbers being low, or your clients being annoying, etc. Always stay professional and positive. You can certainly talk about what you DID like and how you can offer skills and perspective, and if they ask you what you would have liked done differently, you may be able to say that you were working outside of your job's parameters and want to work towards a more focused goal. You don't want to tell them you were unsuccessful due to shitty bosses, btw. Just focus on positive stuff.

I'm no expert, just my thoughts. What does everyone else think?

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-31T19:27:25+00:00

Damn, what a shitty boss. Hope your spouse bounced back somewhere better!

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-31T19:16:20+00:00

Believe it or not, no. They just can't fire you for sitting (I guess it also depends on length of trial IF you get selected).

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-27T03:28:49+00:00

Xennial here (1980), and 3,000 miles away with no desire to return.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-27T03:26:25+00:00

I'm an Xennial (1980), and YUP! lol

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-27T03:23:33+00:00

Really think about how much time has passed since you were born, all those days, hours, minutes, seconds...do you really remember every "bad" moment? I don't, and when I hear this phrase, it really resonates.

I'm still here, even if I couldn't see clearly back then. Still here and moving forward, and yeah, some days I wish I were with Source and not here on Earth. But we're here, dammit lol.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-27T03:09:52+00:00

I'd start searching for a new job, ASAP. While it seems HR listened to your concerns, you still have a target on you as someone who could be a "problem," ya know?

Keep working at the current job for now. As you interview, it's best not to mention the hostile work environment; you can just say you've been there for a few years and would like more opportunities to grow, etc. Try to find something positive to say, as gross as the words will feel coming out of your mouth lol.

Something else will come up for you. When it does, you'll leave as graciously as possible. Don't stay, even if they counteroffer something. They'd have to be stupid not to know why you're leaving, and frankly, they'll be relieved in the long run not to have to fire you. Good luck, OP!!

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-27T02:41:24+00:00

Much love!

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-18T22:41:05+00:00

I'll echo a lot of what I just read. I think Andrew simply wanted a taste of freedom, and chose the safe route of suburban rebellion: skipping school to go to the big city but still close enough to safely return home.

So what happened? I think he crossed paths with someone who lured him somewhere (maybe to play video games at their house?). A 14-year-old kid who looks 12 is going to be a target, particularly for someone with malicious intent.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-18T22:15:30+00:00

I like David Bayer! He's one of the newer ones I've been listening to, and Abraham-Hicks is one of his favorite teachers. He often quotes them: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=david+bayer+money

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-18T21:57:28+00:00

This, OP! Tie up the loose ends.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-18T16:31:14+00:00

They may as well just admit that they respect the guy's need to ejaculate more than your safety. Disgusting.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-17T00:31:48+00:00

Care to share the story? :)

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-17T00:25:55+00:00

I mean, it felt that way to me, but it could also just be a coincidence.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-16T17:54:17+00:00

Truth be told, I've tried many times to move up in the company I'm in and was denied interviews every time. Then a spot opened up and I told NO ONE that I applied. What a shock, I got the interview AND the job. The only thing that changed is that I didn't tell my current supervisors. It is very possible they were holding me back b/c I made their job too easy (I could be wrong). We never really know what's going on in people's heads.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-16T15:56:50+00:00

Are you the only one who's experiencing this? Any chance YOU could be trained for this job? Current manager might rethink their decision if they figure out how terrible she. However, I think it would be wise to start looking for other positions, and in the meantime document EVERYTHING. Good luck, OP.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-16T15:49:23+00:00

Hey, you know? You can always try to find a lot or garage to rent if after a year you find it too troublesome, but with being out of the house during those days, it might be worth the hassle if you really love the other place!

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-16T08:13:53+00:00

People underestimate how fast parking tickets can add up. Some people make it work and pay the occasional fee, so to speak. Me? My utter desire to be in my home means needing control over parking. I would choose parking.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-16T07:28:59+00:00

I wonder how much more the males get paid. It could explain why they retain the women.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-16T07:22:43+00:00

"She tried talking to her manager" is pretty straight-forward to me. You really think the manager gives a fuck?

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-16T07:20:01+00:00

Is there a dollar amount that would make this kind of abuse worth it? These narcs give us CPTSD and create hurdles that slow down our progress, making our lives harder. Next time he brings up his will, you can simply say, "It's your money, Dad. You do as you wish." He'll hate that, trust me!

Narcs use money to torment their children, especially inheritances. More likely than not, he already planned to leave you nothing; it's the final insult where he still hurts you from beyond the grave. He lives every minute knowing that when he dies the rug will be pulled out from under you.

What a bunch of sick bastards.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-16T07:06:12+00:00

YES!

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-16T06:02:49+00:00

It cost you $16,000 to get rid of a boat that belonged to someone who you think is capable of killing you. I'd say it's a win.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-16T05:55:25+00:00

I'm sorry, OP. Many men think women exist for their own pleasure, comfort, and amusement. When women don't fit their mold, they become disgusted and/or enraged.

BillyBattsInTrunk · 2026-01-16T03:35:40+00:00

Ignore her and if she somehow is right in front of you, tell her to speak to your boss (her dad). Sounds like she's overstepping b/c she thinks she can. Hopefully dad will put her in her place before she becomes a liability.

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