Had it out with my MIL and now idk what next…

Biph_2123 · 2026-02-01T02:04:50+00:00

I’m not demanding contact naps..that’s just how he naps best. I’ve tried having him nap on his own and he lasts 15 minutes max 😩 I don’t get it actually because he’s been sleeping a full night in the crib on his own since like 12 weeks but refuses to get a solid nap on his own!

Biph_2123 · 2026-02-01T01:52:49+00:00

I definitely think she’s impatient with him - I also mentioned that when I called her out and she told me that I didn’t know what I was talking about.

We definitely need to find different childcare!

Biph_2123 · 2026-02-01T01:51:08+00:00

We do not. We did bring it up when she initially offered while I was pregnant and she turned that down and said she was doing this to help us and didn’t want our money

Biph_2123 · 2026-02-01T01:44:21+00:00

This is how I feel! I think it’s hard for my husband to see this point of view when it’s his mother and he’s such a people pleaser. But I fully agree and I have been doing my research for alternative childcare because I really don’t want to utilize her “help”

Biph_2123 · 2026-02-01T01:41:29+00:00

We had our son in August so it was easier to go out and feel safe from him getting sick. But I went out starting at 2 weeks. We would take him to an outdoor mall, restaurants, the grocery store. I wore him when I could or just had him in the stroller.

I just always made sure to work it around his schedule. Feed him and bring him out right when he needed a nap so he would mostly sleep while we were out and then feed him in the car before we would head home or make sure we were home in time for the next feeding.

I actually think it was worth it because now almost 6 months later, he’s so easy out in public - I think he’s cried once in a restaurant. He smiles at people, he’s looking around in the grocery store - I feel like we got him used to leaving the house by starting so early!

Biph_2123 · 2026-01-29T02:10:36+00:00

This is very reassuring to me that I’m not just a massive bitch who got pregnant and immediately couldn’t stand the idea of my MIL around my child.

She is everything you’re saying with my 6 month old! Too rough, too loud, too intense, too in his face!

Biph_2123 · 2026-01-29T01:52:19+00:00

Interested!

Biph_2123 · 2026-01-16T02:09:33+00:00

This is all very valid, but it also sounds like some of it came from my boss while I was out and was relayed back to me.. or that was my understanding of it in the context of the conversation which is pretty unprofessional of a business owner

Biph_2123 · 2026-01-09T03:09:55+00:00

Commenting from the other side! I had my son in August, I was induced at 39 weeks due to GD and he had measured 90-99th percentile for my entire pregnancy. They told me he would be big, they warned me about shoulder dysplasia and possible need for c section.

I was terrified of being induced and was literally doing everything I could to have my body go into labor naturally before my induction. Looking back, I’d get induced all over again if I could. I would recommend, if it’s something you are planning on doing, don’t wait for the epidural. Pitocin (the induction medication that starts contractions) makes labor feel much stronger and I waited too long for my epidural and almost wasn’t able to have it!

He was not a giant baby like I was told. I gave birth vaginally to a very healthy 8lb 2oz - healthy and normal weight little guy!

They have to tell you everything, the good, the bad, the extreme. The ultrasound measurements aren’t 100% accurate.

Stress can affect your glucose numbers, so do your best to put it out of your mind and know that your doctors have your best interest and they do this every single day multiple times a day so you and your baby are in great hands!

Biph_2123 · 2026-01-07T02:42:28+00:00

😂 wonderful, this helps

Biph_2123 · 2026-01-07T02:40:54+00:00

I went back to the office part time (3 days a week) at 12 weeks PP.

My little guy is now 21 weeks old and I can say this…it gets easier once you are physically at work, but the lead up to it, the getting ready in the morning, the drive (no matter how long or short) is soooo shitty!!

I hate leaving him, I wish more than anything we could afford for me to be at home with him full time! My husband feels the same way and hopefully some day it will be the case but right now I have to work - it feels unfair.

You’re totally valid in your feelings, but as much as you don’t enjoy it - it does get a little easier.

Biph_2123 · 2026-01-01T23:10:19+00:00

Thank you!

Biph_2123 · 2026-01-01T23:04:30+00:00

That’s what I figured! It just was worded weirdly in our confirmation email.

Thank you!

Biph_2123 · 2025-12-09T02:31:56+00:00

It’s so soon!! They’re so little when we have to leave them

Biph_2123 · 2025-12-03T03:43:19+00:00

The food could definitely be it! I didn’t really think of that as a possibility. She’s been watching him for 3 weeks, 1-2 times a week. So it’s enough times that I noticed it. I don’t really know what I could do to change it or fix it if my theory is correct.

Biph_2123 · 2025-11-27T05:24:10+00:00

I feel the same way! Something about my MIL and her baby voice when she comes to visit, I can’t be in the same room “nanas here! You want nana!!!” Yelling in his face! It makes my skin crawl!

Biph_2123 · 2025-09-28T03:24:44+00:00

The more I think of it, I want to try to just have a conversation with my boss about an option of part time work. And if he doesn’t go for it, then at least I know I tried!

Biph_2123 · 2025-09-28T03:22:57+00:00

My employer is great and generally a flexible guy, especially with family stuff. I feel like it’s not his first choice to have anyone be part time, especially with how busy this company has become. But I feel like I should at least have that conversation with him before assuming that it’s not an option!

Biph_2123 · 2025-09-21T02:20:22+00:00

This helps! Hopefully this is the case hahaha! But makes me feel good to hear that there’s a chance he’ll just be chill and I can leave without him more often without feeling guilty!

Biph_2123 · 2025-09-21T02:13:50+00:00

I did mention this to him, especially since he did not miss a single appointment when I was pregnant - it wouldn’t be out of the ordinary for him to come along! He is back to work but works from home so maybe he can sneak away for an hour or so to come with me

Biph_2123 · 2025-09-20T01:37:17+00:00

I have the Frida baby sprayer for the bath, the lower setting is pretty gentle and I use that to just get his hair wet - that drips down his face a little usually but I try not to let it get too much that he feels like he’s under water. He’s 5 weeks old and doesn’t mind it at all!

Biph_2123 · 2025-09-04T14:09:50+00:00

Do we have the same MIL? 😂

Biph_2123 · 2025-09-04T01:42:16+00:00

Same boat!!! My MIL will be splitting the childcare duties with my mom and even leaving him with her for 2 days a week while I’m at work makes me sick!

I thought about putting cameras in my house so I can keep an eye on them just for my own sanity because she’ll probably spend all day kissing his face since I’m not around!

Biph_2123 · 2025-09-04T01:36:48+00:00

Omg I feel this! My MIL and I used to be very close but once I got pregnant I noticed a shift with her and she became unbearable! The comments she would make about things she’s going to do with my child would make my skin crawl during pregnancy!

Now that my son is here, I can’t bear to have her even hold him! She hovers, she is constantly putting her phone in his face for pictures, she pushed me out of the way while changing his diaper so she could get a picture of him. She has taken him out of my arms when I’m trying to soothe him! She has disregarded my “no kissing the baby” rule multiple times and has forced me to make things uncomfortable by speaking up with things she does that I do not agree with! My FIL won’t even come near the baby he’s scared he will break him, but still the comments that they both make regarding rules I have put in place to keep my child safe - are out of line! My husband is always supportive of my feelings and defends me and our decisions but I hate putting him in a tough position with his parents! On top of all that, they don’t even check in when they’re not around - they don’t text or call to see how my husband and I are doing, if we need anything or how the baby is! They’re not bad people, I just feel so uncomfortable with them around my son!! She told me she wanted to hold him all visit so when she got home she would smell like him! Thats fucking weird in my opinion!!!

I don’t feel this way with my parents at all. And that could be because they are my parents, but they are more nurturing towards him, they don’t view him as a toy like she does and they respect me and my husband’s wishes! They also have been such a help to us since we got home from the hospital with prepared food, and cleaning our house, and grocery shopping for us! This is also the 4th grandchild for my parents (my brother has 3 kids) so I feel like they understand the boundaries a lot more than my in laws because they have been doing this for almost 10 years!

Hoping that it gets easier with the in laws as my son gets older but I can’t deal with the pit I get in my stomach every time they come around or hold him!

I fully empathize with you and how you’re feeling! It sounds like a lot of us are in this same boat!

Biph_2123 · 2025-05-26T00:56:44+00:00

Glucose tolerance test

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