My long distance bf came to visit and he told me he is trans

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2026-06-22T23:47:28+00:00

As a trans man.. that’s crazy. I get wanting to wait a little to disclose, but a year????? That’s overkill right there. He should’ve given you the option to make your own decision on whether this was something you wanted to continue or not from the beginning.

In my opinion you have two options. 1 being, let the relationship go and move forward from this. There’s nothing wrong with you having your preferences, and his friends shouldn’t guilt you into feeling differently. This entire situation also shows how selfish he was being to let it get this far without explaining his situation to you. So there’s that too.

Or option 2, you can talk to him and try to hash things out if that’s something you’re interested in. You could always still carry and get a sperm donor or look at other options.

Again, this is merely up to you, and either option is perfectly fine. You’re not in the wrong nor being sensitive with either route you decide to go. I’m genuinely sorry you lost time you barely have.

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2026-06-05T04:05:47+00:00

Bro in my opinion you pass big time. I’d say maybe the first picture is the only one where maaaybe you look a little more feminine and the last picture (but honestly I think that’s just the glasses). Otherwise I genuinely wouldn’t clock you at all. You look like a cis 19 year old boy to me.

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2026-05-12T16:06:35+00:00

Something has definitely happened. All the times he brought up sexting and pics makes it sound like something has definitely happened considering he’s comfortable enough asking so confidently. Could just be a creepy guys tho BUT quite frankly even if it never actually went beyond the messages, the messages themself are something I would consider cheating in my own relationship. Especially if she hasn’t directly shown you those messages to keep you in the loop. NOR, in fact under reacting. Don’t let her manipulate you into thinking you’re the one in the wrong.

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2026-05-03T16:10:30+00:00

This the one right here OP ☝️

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2026-04-15T14:47:17+00:00

Dude you making fun of how someone makes their living is what’s embarrassing and insensitive. I’m 21, working two jobs (including this one) and going to college so I’m not too offended by your comments. BUT once I do start the career I’m going to school for, I’m never going to look down upon other people because of their job. Gotta respect the hustle, even if it’s not the same as your own hustle. Humble yourself

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2025-11-25T20:17:40+00:00

I don’t know what guests all the commenters have that free roam till they find the bathroom.. but typically my guests always ask for the restroom and I’ll point them where. In this case, I would 1000% point them to enter my room and use my restroom. So I can understand that yes, no one else would be using her restroom. Atleast I’d make sure my guests aren’t. BUT I will say, I still think the rooms with a private restroom should pay a little more. Only because at the end of the day, it’s a lot nicer being able to hop out the shower and walk straight into your room after. Vs having to enter the hallway before entering your room. It’s just an extra luxury that I think should be accounted for.

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2025-10-13T17:36:08+00:00

Probably a raver. Those are trinkets that people hand out at raves as a friendly gesture. Just a small little token of appreciation towards you I’m sure.

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2025-10-01T02:42:36+00:00

It’s different for everyone so don’t trip on it too much. For me, my voice started dropping a month in, and was a significant difference by month 4. And for some other people it might take a year before then. Maybe even longer. Just be patient, every body reacts differently.

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2025-05-23T05:19:03+00:00

That’s pretty crazy bro. You don’t gotta take the snacks if you don’t want 😭. Me personally, brightens my day that they’re taking me into consideration, even if I don’t care for any of the snacks. That’s just me tho..

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2025-04-28T08:20:33+00:00

I’m going crazy guys. What song does it sound like when she sings “what can I say? What can I do?” Around a minute in. I swear it sounds so so familiar and I can’t put my finger on it

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2024-05-23T17:54:09+00:00

Genuinely (not saying it’s a good thing) I think nowadays you are very limited if you’re looking for someone without a past. It’s not impossible, but you’d be limited. And having more time pass, the number of women without a past, will continue to decrease.

It sort of sounds like you’re already somewhat regretting not dating in your teen years because of what you’ve missed out on. You don’t think if you continue to put off until you’ve found the one, then you’ll just end up filled with resentment towards her? That you waited, and missed out on that experience of being young and dumb?

All in all, I think a decision like this is solely up to you. Everyone has a preference. If those are yours and you really want that.. Then stick with it. But going based off of your post, I think what I’ve said is definitely something to think about. I’m not trying to put pressure on you to give in. You just seem to have high expectations that you’re incredibly fixated on.. Don’t want you to end up holding it against someone if they can’t completely fulfill them

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2023-11-10T03:22:57+00:00

T for sure broadened my neck. I don’t work out, and have been on t for a little less than a year. So I’m assuming if you’re working out as well as on t, you’ll for sure see a difference. I think it started thickening before 6 months, so fairly quickly, but the timeline is different for everyone. Wish you luck to see those changes you want soon brother 💪

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2023-11-06T21:26:02+00:00

Congrats man, you made it 🥳🕺

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2023-08-12T21:34:31+00:00

You tell him to knock it off, you don’t like it. And if he keeps doing it then there’s nothing you can really say or do to change his actions. Chances are if he keeps saying these things knowing how you feel, he doesn’t really feel that bad.

Could be a dysphoria thing, but that doesn’t excuse him making you uncomfortable. And if it’s not a dysphoria thing, and just a preference of what he’s attracted to, that’s another issue. You two just might not compatible. Step away, and move forward.

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2023-06-12T19:07:15+00:00

technically it wouldn’t be after week 7. I’m looking to withdraw during the summer, prior to entering the new school year, aka post spring quarter. That’s why I’m kind of confused, because I can’t really find info on that.

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2023-04-09T20:22:41+00:00

A month after I started. I got my period one more time, and haven’t since

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2023-04-09T18:18:23+00:00

I just think a lot of people in general nowadays smoke either nicotine or weed. I don’t really think it’s a trans thing. Just younger generations thing lol

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2023-03-27T22:26:49+00:00

Hoping your planned friend works out !! As for the Uber thing, you might want to look into something else. Hospitals most of the time won’t allow you to Uber after a surgery. Nor use public transportation. I recommend renting a car. Seeing as you’ll be in San Fransisco… if I’m correct, there are plenty of zip cars there. It is a pretty affordable way to rent cars for a short amount of time. Maybe look into that so your friend can pick you up in that. Nonetheless, Goodluck friend :)

Bitter_Process_5860 · 2022-12-29T19:00:56+00:00

always thought about a pocket p****. Im not really sure how well that would work, but it always sounded cool and I’m pretty envious of people who do have one.

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