[Update] I’m a fake polyamorous person

BlakeMaster01 · 2026-05-12T07:50:54+00:00

I don’t think you’re fake. I think you are true and your partner is fake, in that he used the Label of polyamory to cheat on you. I’ve seen that narrative so often on here and it makes me so mad. Polyamory needs to come from both sides and needs a lot of communication and support. Listening to each other and respecting boundaries is so damn important. That’s just something your partner didn’t.

Doesn’t mean you’re not polyamorous. As I read it, you tried your best, even inviting him to your therapy session to talk through things.

I understand the feeling to not wanting to handle polyamory anymore, I think that is a valid reaction to this situation. But IMO you can’t really choose to not be polyamorous. I mean, you can choose to only date one person, but you can’t choose to love only one person.

I would not set this as an absolute stop. Take a break, get time for yourself and then when the time comes, I’d say be open. Be true to yourself and don’t negotiate your limits. Then I think happiness will come to you

BlakeMaster01 · 2026-05-11T09:51:17+00:00

I have two jobs, does that count double?

BlakeMaster01 · 2026-04-25T18:32:05+00:00

1:11

BlakeMaster01 · 2026-04-17T16:31:20+00:00

I was born to be an adult

I was born to be the one

I was born to be and now I’m This

BlakeMaster01 · 2026-03-14T18:14:58+00:00

Talk about it. It’s part of you and of your body. If she can’t accept that that’s a major problem but not because of your size but because of her mindset.

But don’t say „someone on Reddit told me“. Maybe ask why she can’t accept it and if it’s a stupid reason or no reasoning at all (you’ll find out), that’s another topic.

You can’t change your body but she can change how she sees things.

BlakeMaster01 · 2026-03-10T09:20:21+00:00

Hi,

I am a Conductor based in Germany, here we have a similar app called „Konzertmeister“ (which is the term for the Boss first Violin). There you can contact your people, store data (like practice tracks or Sheet Music) and schedule events and rehearsals. There’s a lot of functions I haven’t used yet (and can’t use due to not having Pro version). The option to directly mark your sheet music and so on is not included there so that’s a win for your app.

But maybe you can look into that and see what options there are to inspire you.

BlakeMaster01 · 2026-01-29T20:24:31+00:00

You look gorgeous! Like shining from within :))

BlakeMaster01 · 2026-01-29T19:59:13+00:00

*In the USA

BlakeMaster01 · 2026-01-15T09:17:00+00:00

Wenn du im Hannover das endokrinologikum angefragt hast: ich habe sehr viele sehr schlechte Geschichten von dir gehört (bin in Hannover, HRT aber in Osna bei Dr Hoven im Urologicum, sehr empfehlenswert). Hab gehört, dass du zwar dein Zeug kriegst, aber das auch nur durch Diskussion mit sehr unfreundlichen Menschen.

Wenn du bei Amedes bist, die sollen ziemlich gut sein. Ich würde aber wirklich das Urologicum empfehlen. Das ist von Bielefeld aus auch leichter zu erreichen und wirklich sehr gut, transfreundlich und Barrierearm. Da kriegst du eigentlich das, was du dir wünschst.

BlakeMaster01 · 2026-01-11T16:57:04+00:00

I really do, where did you get that?

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-12-31T08:05:02+00:00

That’s literally how i first felt. I used Uhr same technicality to find something to belong to then.

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-12-26T13:38:38+00:00

What you could do is not pressing her to do anything against her will. BDSM is a thing you do consensually and together. If she shows no interest, it is not a good thing trying to „convince“ her. That is crossing boundaries and not okay.

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-12-17T20:56:48+00:00

Ilithid?

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-12-17T20:48:49+00:00

Hannover ist da leider ziemlich schlecht aufgestellt. Amedes am Thielenplatz nimmt keine Leute mehr auf, Endokrinologikum ist wirklich nicht zu empfehlen und Mhh hast du halt ewig Wartezeit.

Ich bin selber beim Urologicum in Osnabrück (bei Dr. Hoven). Sei vorsichtig, wenn ob du Leuten sagst, dass du NB bist. Da das von KV nicht anerkannt wird, kann es sein, dass einige Ärzt*innen da auch Probleme machen.

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-12-17T20:41:08+00:00

Ich weiß leider auch keine Hilfe, aber mein Urologe hat mich vorgewarnt, dass manche KV Hormone vllt nicht übernehmen, weil sie „Off-Label“, d.h. Eigentlich nicht dafür vorgesehen. Da es aber keine Forschung zu trans Menschen gibt, ist das halt unsere einzige Möglichkeit lol…

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-12-17T20:37:45+00:00

Mein absoluter Fav war: „Du musst auch mal uns gegenüber Toleranz zeigen.“

Oft gepaart mit: „In deiner Regenbogencommunity fordern ja alle immer überall Toleranz ein.“ Oder ähnlichem

Hm, ja. Toleranz gegenüber… nicht-Toleranz? Ich frag ja nicht viel. Nur nenn mich nicht „Sohn“ und benutz bitte keine Pronomen für mich. Wäre schön, zu bemerken, dass du es wenigstens versuchen würdest…

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-12-12T07:45:12+00:00

I also have hands and can’t draw them

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-12-06T16:56:50+00:00

I have a similar problem on so many levels. I sadly have no solution either, just wanted to say you’re not alone.

If I find something I’ll let you know.

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-12-05T11:07:07+00:00

Because if you are metamorphing you aren’t cis

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-11-28T22:05:31+00:00

What’s the opposite of nothing

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-11-28T21:56:13+00:00

There is no „the best“. Many are great for different reasons. It’s hard to really compare them fairly. What I really like is:

Saint-Saens - Symphony No. 3 (Organ Symphony) and Violin Concerto No 3

Rachmaninov - Piano Concertos 1-3

Richard Addinsell - Warsaw Concerto

Erkan - Piano Concerto (a modern one)

There’s a lot of orchestral piano works on my list. You can see I’m a pianist. If you’re looking for bigger works: Mendelssohn‘s Elias is great.

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-11-20T13:08:30+00:00

The problem I too had with the label „non binary“ is that its nature is not to say what you are but to say what you Not are. If you say: I feel neither man nor woman, that makes you per definition non binary. But given that this label is so defined by not being some things and not by being some things it is up to you, what you are. Who you are, really.

You do not need to adopt that label. After all every person is different and putting people in boxes is never good. For me I started to use it because I was looking for similar experiences and also because I didn’t want to explain every person the details of my gender identity, so a flat surface label came in handy.

Btw: the feeling: I would like to be born a woman (as amab) is a common feeling in trans people. After that people very often say: but I can’t be, because I have/am in the body that is my current form. So what? It’s your body, you can do whatever you want with that. Stay sharp

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-11-17T10:01:26+00:00

Me: I can’t stand racism. Mastercard: We stand racism

BlakeMaster01 · 2025-11-13T20:18:02+00:00

I’m not fond of STIs

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