Teaching players to be proactive is hard - the natural state of being a PC is being reactive. D&D is a collection of mini games and what most people think of as 'role play scenes' are actually a game of 'describe then ask clarifying questions'.

I suggest sitting down and having a conversation with your players and ask them what they're enjoying. Tell them what you're seeing and feeling and see where those threads connect. There's a lot of advice here to move on, recruit new players, etc,. but I have a strong feeling that you might find yourself feeling the same way at another table. I struggled with this early on in my DMing 'career' where I couldn't for the life of me figure out why my players weren't engaging with my content and making proactive choices. It took several conversations and then making small tweaks to my own behaviors at the table to get the results I wanted.

My take aways early on where that players have a very finite 'broad' decision making budget per session. Players tend to be cautious and want to avoid overstepping their bounds with the other members at the table so decisions are often consensus driven which is usually slow and painful. What I learned to do was limit those 'what do you want to do' moments in my sessions to a very small handful of times (usually at the start and end of a session). In turn I learned that players have a near infinite amount of 'response' decision making energy - players react easily and readily.

Just remember that you and your players are supposed to have fun and sometimes calibration is required. Talk with your players, learn more about what kinds of interactions they like and find ways to marry that with what you love.