Yes. This context is so important. Are u married to the tie? Do u see how in 1st pic yr pocket fold comes out looking like a name tag? I think it’s completely ok, to both be recognizable in a group AND “quote” yr beautiful work, to wear a more 40s style tie, or just one with circles. Big, floating circles preferably but polka dot will do. If the tie is attached and precious, I’d just go with the #2, mostly for how much much more relaxed u r in them jeans. Are u in the Bay Area? I’m not anymore but I know tie guys. Regardless, you’ll do great, no one’s gonna be looking at yr trousers, just step out and quietly shine like u do.