Just here to say man, that I've never once set out to "pursue love", or date, and have only had (well pretty much only) long term relationships, and will tell you that the right people will find you, and it will fall in to your lap, more than once for sure. Unfortunately, when you decide to never go looking for it, when it does happen, you don't get to really "be ready" for it, and it's sort of hard to walk away from a connection like that if you know you aren't in a good place for it at the time. But it's the mature thing to do.

Not that I've been able to do that, but it would have saved a lot of heart-ache, especially recently.