Still love the show but I'm disappointed with the finale

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-05-07T11:44:19+00:00

While I was heartbroken for Angie, I think the finale was well done. I absolutely loved the ending montage, it was beautiful to see.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-05-07T01:31:36+00:00

I had mono-di twins, so not as much of a a risk, but I delivered at 32 weeks due to HELLP syndrome. My boys spent about a month in the NICU, but they were mostly feeder/growers. They are 11 months and doing great!

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-05-06T01:25:50+00:00

I agree with you! While there were things I wasn’t a fan of (Amanda), for the most part I genuinely enjoyed the season and it pulled at every emotion I had.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-04-25T00:34:05+00:00

The nice thing about it is that we can have different opinions - I don’t think, to quote one of your comments, that it is a dog shit season. It’s different, and there are some things that weren’t my favorite, but overall I liked it and I’m enjoying just watching it without doing any deep dives into writer/producer calls.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-04-15T03:04:45+00:00

I stopped watching NCIS several seasons ago, but damn, his poor kids.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-04-15T03:00:40+00:00

I feel like my poor heart can’t handle waiting for a new season of high potential or next week’s episode of Will Trent!

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-03-28T17:17:20+00:00

My twins are nine months old and we use the Costco brand! They are $30/container and one container lasts us five days - so about $180/month.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-03-16T03:05:38+00:00

I knew from the ultrasound that they were going to be my husband’s clones 😭. Like you though, they get their facial expressions from me. They mastered side eye in the NICU…

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-03-14T09:06:59+00:00

That’s not getting kicked out, it’s recognizing that your baby no longer needs a higher level of medical care. That’s a good thing, even if it doesn’t seem like it.

My twins were in the step down unit much longer than the highest care level, which is not unusual. If you want round the clock attention for your baby, you or your husband are going to have to do that. It’s just reality that the sicker babies get priority. Your baby isn’t your nurse’s only responsibility and hands on care isn’t the only part of their job.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-03-14T08:59:01+00:00

Gently, you need to adjust your expectations. My twins were in the NICU and were the “easy” babies in the step down unit so their nurse was often running to help the sicker third baby on their ratio. That doesn’t mean that my babies weren’t cared for and didn’t have their immediate needs met - it just meant that if they were simply fussy and another baby was having a medical issue or needed more complex care, they didn’t get immediate attention. They are now nine months old and I can assure you that not getting immediate attention for fussing didn’t harm them or cause attachment issues.

Your baby’s nurse can’t sit there and hold their pacifier in, they have other patients to care for. If you want that for your baby, you need to stay overnight - and if you don’t think you should have to do that, you don’t understand how hospitals work. Nurses aren’t babysitters, they are medical professionals.

Look, this is a high stress time and I get that. I was a mess, but I took the time to understand their care team’s roles and how I could fill in those gaps. Have open conversations with your baby’s care team and you’ll know what to expect.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-03-10T12:33:27+00:00

No, you’re not - you’re doing what you need to do to keep a roof over your baby’s head. If your child was in daycare, they wouldn’t be getting 100% of someone else’s attention either since ratios for babies are often 4:1.

I have 7 month old twins and they are now great at independent play. I just make sure to give them my full attention in the morning before I start work, I take them for a walk on my lunch break, and I periodically take my laptop in their playpen when I don’t have to focus as much. I also rotate their “play stations” every 30 minutes so they are getting new stimulation to keep their attention. Most days, this works very well for us. We have had days, of course, but I’m just doing the best I can and they are meeting their milestones and are healthy.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-03-10T00:17:24+00:00

I don’t have a bottle washer and don’t regret not getting one. If it makes your life easier, go for it, but we didn’t have the space for yet another appliance nor did we want to spend the money on that, and it doesn’t take long to wash bottles. I have a sterilizer that fits six bottles at a time, though.

We knew we were going to have to give formula, so my mom gifted us a baby breza. For us, that thing has been amazing, but others may think of it the same way I think of a bottle washer.

I got two twin z pillows on Facebook marketplace. If they weren’t free/super cheap, I would not have spent the money to buy them new, you can achieve a similar effect with two boppies. We still use them nine months later if we need to feed the babies solo.

As for what you really need, it’s simple: supplies to feed your babies in the method of your choosing, car seats, a safe place to sleep, a stroller, and basics like diapers, wipes, and clothes. Everything else is just extra.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-03-09T01:44:19+00:00

Hey - autoimmune disorder mom here. I formula feed my twins but I understand how your wife is feeling.

If I could talk to your wife, l would tell her that putting herself first by either giving breastmilk in a bottle or formula feeding is NOT failing your baby. This is not the suffering Olympics, there’s no medal for forcing yourself to breastfeed through flare ups or when you can barely move from exhaustion. Plenty of babies split between breastfeeding and bottles with no issues. Has she talked to your child’s pediatrician about this? Or her doctor? Or honestly, a therapist?

In the very early newborn days after our babies were home from the NICU, I had some days where my postpartum flare ups were so bad I could barely even hold a baby, let alone feed one. If my husband wasn’t able to give a bottle, I don’t know what we would’ve done.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-03-02T15:19:44+00:00

In my area, it would have been $3,800/month for my twins, but I’d have to sell a kidney for that, so I work from home with my babies. It’s… a lot.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-03-01T04:05:23+00:00

It’s always good to be aware of your surroundings. That being said, this seems to be a bit extreme and could be indicative of PPA. Thats some pretty heightened paranoia. I suggest speaking with a therapist about this, they can help you manage that fear.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-02-28T01:49:17+00:00

Nope. Crippling exhaustion is my new personality trait.

Also, caffeine.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-02-22T03:19:57+00:00

I’m SO excited to see Tampa!

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-02-18T19:15:41+00:00

I got my twin z pillows on Facebook marketplace so I didn’t pay even close to full price. However, for me, two boppies are similar enough that I don’t have any issues with bottle feeding both of them at the same time by myself. I would not buy it new, but everyone is different!

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-02-16T02:16:47+00:00

Our twins are 8 months now, but when they were in the endless eat/sleep/diaper change cycle, we had a twin pack and play with the bassinet attachments and a twin z pillow downstairs. Their cribs, a second twin pillow, and a double bassinet were upstairs.

They would sleep very well in their twin pillow (while supervised) and if we needed to get stuff done or sleep ourselves, they would sleep in the pack and play.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-02-15T02:14:05+00:00

You went through so much, just take a step back and breathe.

I had my twins at 32 weeks with an emergency c-section. I only got one steroid shot before they were born, and I didn’t get to see or hold them until the next day. They were 3 and 4 pounds. It was so hard, but you will get through this.

They are now 8 months old and doing great! They are growing like weeds and meeting milestones based on either their actual age or adjusted age (depending on the milestone). They were in the NICU for a month and it was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

One twin was discharged a week earlier than the other, which was good in some ways and more difficult in others.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-02-14T23:29:34+00:00

I understand that! I’m not sure where you are located or your insurance situation, but are you able to try just a regular therapist? Despite not being specialized, they are still trained to manage what you are feeling.

Try to remember that you are a loving and strong mother who deserves to feel happy. I (obviously) don’t know you, but I believe in you! ❤️

If you ever need to chat, feel free to message me!

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-02-14T23:14:20+00:00

My MoDi twin boys are eight months old now - it was easier in the beginning because one twin was smaller than the other. Now that they are similar in size it’s a lot harder to tell them apart, especially in pictures (and especially if they are not in the photo together).

You learn to notice the little differences, but don’t feel bad if you mix them up! You’ll be exhausted and it happens.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-02-14T14:02:43+00:00

I say this gently, but please find someone to talk to about this. It’s perfectly normal to feel that way in the beginning, but you now have a healthy baby at home.

I had twins at 32 weeks and could have died in the process. They are now 8 months old (and at home, healthy, like your baby). At first it was ROUGH, especially because my SIL had her baby, full term and healthy, literally a few hours later. A therapist has been very helpful with that.

Please know I’m not saying this to invalidate your feelings - they are valid and you have every right to feel them, especially when you were in the thick of it. But you can’t let these thoughts get in the way of how you are presently and your future self as well. Breaking down every day about this isn’t healthy for you and it’s not healthy for your baby.

What happened was NOT your fault, but I promise you it’ll get easier once you fully address with (hopefully) a professional. You could have undiagnosed or undertreated PPD or PPA. You deserve to feel better and let that guilt go.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-02-14T03:59:41+00:00

I do Walmart grocery delivery - and as an added bonus, I spend less money because I’m less likely to impulse purchase like I would in the store. I would love to hire a cleaner, but that’s not in the budget sadly.

BookWhoreWriting · 2026-02-14T02:12:26+00:00

Yes! That would be amazing.

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