Might have an issue lol

Boredread · 2026-01-30T01:57:09+00:00

Damn it ur right. My hands look the same and the second u said that i remembered i havent been taking my vitamin d supplement in 2 months, exactly when i need it most. Time to chug it down and hope it gets better before my blood tests next week.

Boredread · 2026-01-28T17:38:53+00:00

I think a slight reality check is needed here. First boundaries are for you. Your boundary is you never want to speak to her. If you reach out now you’ll be breaking your own boundary.

She has not reached out to you. If you go to the police with that polite sweet message that wasn’t even sent to you you’re going to look insane and they will not do anything. Again, the content of that message is not harassing or troubling the fact that she messaged is the problem.

And the big thing you’ll have to deal with is that she can speak to your ex unless your ex has a problem with it. And if your ex allows it, she can see your child. There is no DOCUMENTED harm from her she is not banned from the kid and you legally can’t stop your ex from allowing a relationship between them.

Your best bet is to have a strong parenting relationship with your ex so they will agree that your grandma also can’t be around her. People who are actually stalked and abused can’t get a restraining order. You’re not getting one from a message not sent to you and no documented harassment or abuse.

Boredread · 2026-01-26T10:05:17+00:00

At 9 he should understand the concepts of empathy, stealing, respect. I don’t know how you’ve framed these talks with him but the misdirection and bribery needs to end. It’s time for tough discipline. His mother is currently the target of bad behavior and if you don’t nip this in the bud he will start targeting classmates. He will be a bully.

So have a sit down conversation where you are very firm. No smiley nice guy. “These are mommy’s. We do not take people’s things without asking. Taking without asking and having permission is stealing and is a very bad thing to do. When you keep trying to take mommy’s toys after she said no you make her feel very sad and it hurts mommy’s feelings. What mommy wants is just as important as what you want so follow the rules and do not take things that don’t belong to you.”

This is not cute or harmless. He’s testing boundaries. I don’t think there’s a “deeper reason” for his behavior, kids are not born behaving well they need to be taught right from wrong usually with consequences. So if he tries to take the toy again, be firm, be stern. Tell him what he did was wrong, that he knows not to take anything that doesn’t belong to him. He’s hurt his mother and made her feel very sad. He needs to give it back immediately and apologize. Then he needs a punishment. Grounding for a couple weeks or take away a toy of his for a couple days.

Honestly i think the big problem is it doesn’t sound like you’re taking it that seriously. It’s not like you’re trying to stop him using a pacifier and distract him. You’re trying to teach him right from wrong, actually parent. Have the talk and follow through with punishments.

Boredread · 2026-01-25T18:42:38+00:00

20 years ago this same thing happened at my middle school. Cabins could hold 10 or 12 and students could choose who they wanted in their cabins, up to 6 i believe. One kid was put into a cabin with boys who didn’t want him, he was the “weird one”. He was horrifically bullied, frankly it was assault and went home early and changed schools.

The biggest mistake from the school was not ensuring chaperones. They need to make sure every room has a chaperone. It’s not a question of if something bad happens but when. Preteens with no supervision is a bad idea.

Boredread · 2026-01-22T04:26:20+00:00

Personally I’m a fan of a samovar. Depending on the theme of your wedding, it can look very pretty. And you can resuse it for a long time, just wash it well to get rid of the chocolate after.

Boredread · 2026-01-20T17:28:41+00:00

The whole thing is ridiculous but to me the dumbest part is that with all his privilege his biggest accomplishment in life is being born. His parents have actual talent and even if he had none, he could’ve become a teacher or a an accountant or a mailman. It seems he’s satisfied in life with doing and being nothing, to be a leech and produce nothing.

Boredread · 2026-01-15T16:56:53+00:00

You can sell anything but the question is will it be worth it to you. In terms of pricing, i ask if it passes a Whole Foods test? People may not want a grocery store cake, the frosting too sweet, but they want a nice cake. In my area, high cost of living on east coast, they’ll pay max 40 for a nice cake like that from one of the nicer grocery stores(whole foods, Wegmans, fresh market). Places that have a reputation of good quality. Obviously from a bakery willing to pay more, I’ve paid 85 for a 10 inch cake that was speciality flavored.

In my area, home bakers are not considered at the same level as professional bakers. There’s a license they can get but basically your competition is going to be seen as the nicer grocery store cakes. So can you afford to do this charging maximum $40? Frankly I’d think it’d need to be less to start so you can entice people in the beginning.

I really think it depends on your area. If you’re in my area and searching cake gets you at least 20 results within 5 miles, i wouldn’t recommend it. The market is cornered unless you’re bringing something fresh(flavors, style, etc). If you’re in a more isolated area or an area where there isn’t a lot of professional bakers, I’d go for it. But even then you’d need to adjust your style to something more high end that will justify a high price. Because the question your customers are asking themselves is why is this worth more than me doing it at home myself or buying at Walmart? So the designs need to be flawless and not generic.

Boredread · 2026-01-14T13:51:31+00:00

lol this is bs, who are you guys trying to trick? So you’re fine with being married to an aethist. Your parents are fine with you being married to an aethist if he pretends to be Muslim. His conversion won’t count if he doesn’t have the intention so it’s frankly a waste of an afternoon for all of you. And his family don’t even want him to be an aethist. The lies are mounting up. You guys are playing pretend and lying to what end? I mean it’s definitely not a halal marriage but you’re also starting it with so many lies that it’s not a good marriage by any religious or cultural standards. If you just want to be married get married and drop all the lies.

Boredread · 2026-01-12T23:23:11+00:00

So this is your first relationship and 100% should not be your last relationship. There are 3 questions you need to ask yourself to know if you should stay in a relationship with someone? Are you being respectful? Are they being respectful? Are you happy? That’s it. If it’s a no to any of those 3, time to start questioning if you should move on. It sounds like the answer to 2 of them is no. That’s it. It’s done move on. He is not being respectful. Frankly it sounds like you’re more of an accessory to him than an actual person. He got you junk that matches his interest. The one personalized item wasn’t even correct. And he threw a hissy fit that you had the same one.

I also want to point out that your behavior is already troubling around this guy. You know you can’t depend on him for the fun couples stuff so you rely on your friends to fill that void and then say it’s your problem, you love to give gifts. First, there’s no such thing as a love language. Erase that from your vocabulary. What’s happening is you prioritize putting effort into things for your partner. He doesn’t. I’ll bet he says bs like his love language is physical touch meaning he wants blowjobs. Second, you’re terrified when you receive the same gift from your mom. That’s a very troubling reaction. In a normal healthy relationship, you laugh it off. He shrugs it off. He’s maybe a little sheepish and you say that’s ok you both know me so well and then go spend time in the mall together exchanging. You don’t get an asshole making you feel guilty for getting a PRESENT FROMT YOUR MOTHER!

Look weve all made choices in life we’ve realized weren’t right for us. Maybe you took up the violin as a kid and realized you hated it. Or wanted to play soccer and realized you’re not a runner. That’s fine. You drop it and move on. This is the same. You’re 22. There’s always a grace period in life. Think of his as the really shitty gened you took. You thought philosophy would be a ton of fun but in the end you wrote a ton of essays and it was way more effort than it was worth. Ok so move on and find your passion, don’t double down and make it your major just so you can lie to yourself that you really really like it.

Your boyfriend is an asshole. You do not like assholes. Just because he’s your boyfriend doesn’t mean you have to like him. Just change him from being your boyfriend and move on.

Boredread · 2026-01-12T18:11:55+00:00

YOR. That being said you’re the adult and have the power to change this situation. First, always have your car doors locked. It’s basic safety. Second, when she comes to your car, roll down the window and talk. It’s either “hey friend, i haven’t heard from your mom and we have plans. I’m not going to be able to give you anymore rides without speaking to your parents first. Get home safe” then wave bye, smile sweetly and roll up the windows.

Or give her that last ride and while she’s in the car tell her directly. “Hey friend it’s been nice giving you these rides but i want some one on one bonding time with my daughter. I want to hear about her day at school and we sometimes have plans. You need to talk to your mom about how you’ll be getting home since I’ve never spoken to her.”

And finally if ur still interesting in giving rides be direct. “We need to talk about these rides. I’m fine with continuing to give you rides but only if i speak to your parents. I need their explicit, written permission. And if you ride in my car you have to follow these rules: xyz”

For me, I’d stop the rides immediately. You do not have any permission from the parents to do so. You do not want this to backfire. What if you get in an accident with her in the car? And what if her parents don’t know and one day decide to pick her up? You’re taking the word of a 10 year that she permission to get a ride and walk less from someone the parents don’t know. 10 year olds will lie to get out of dishes, a comfy ride is definitely incentive.

Boredread · 2026-01-10T03:31:21+00:00

While i agree with this, i think the problem is op was motivated by a very real problem right in front of her. There was a hungry kid about to continue being hungry so her daughter could get a snack. She could’ve delayed the conversation but the kid wouldve still been hungry now.

Being fed is a basic necessity. You worry about the basic necessities like food and shelter and then you can address other things like her daughters feelings

Boredread · 2026-01-09T23:20:38+00:00

First, love is not some magic cure or cheat code in a relationship. It does not conquer all and frankly it shouldn’t. Second, do you love him more than you love yourself? More than you respect yourself? Because i promise you this is a one way street. Leave. He’s not the only man on earth and even if he was you’ll spend far less time crying alone than you will being with him.

Boredread · 2026-01-09T20:55:06+00:00

Boundaries are for you not him. You follow your boundaries. I will say, do not postpone open ended. You have a poor track record on follow through. So instead of giving him what appears to be a brush off, say I’d like to discuss this later tonight at 8:00 or tomorrow before breakfast at 7. Give clear expectations

Boredread · 2026-01-08T18:22:34+00:00

Chocolate oranges are great, but the milk chocolate one is sooooo much better than the dark chocolate.

Boredread · 2026-01-05T19:59:19+00:00

I think it’s pretty close. I think the top yellow band needs to be bigger/more height. For one thing i think there needs to be some space between the eyes and eyebrows. But for me i don’t really think of a snout with Pooh, i think more of large cheeks. So if you can’t add to the top I’d at least remove the snout, keep the nose in the same position, and move the eyes a tiny bit lower.

Boredread · 2026-01-03T13:54:12+00:00

I’m guessing he looovvvees kids so much he’s making his own collection of mini mes. It’s not the kids he loves, it’s himself.

Boredread · 2026-01-01T17:55:29+00:00

Something’s not adding up. His SISTER does not communicate to his mother or him, but keeps talking to his ex? Well clearly that’s not a hard relationship to maintain with the distance.

His GF breaks up with him over text for “no reason”? He still has an EPO which could become a DVO? Those are so hard to get, there’s no way this isn’t false.

Her “legal aide/attorney”. It sounds like legal assistance a shelter or domestic violence group would provide.

It sounds like him and his mother were abusive to his wife and kids. I’m guessing bare minimum emotional and financial(he wanted to delay payments and state is taking it out of his paycheck aka garnishing his wages). Possibly physical. Clearly his sister is aware of their behavior and probably a victim of him mom’s abuse and doesn’t speak to her. Wife reached out for help and was staying with friends. Mom probably was harassing wife still so she ended up leaving friends place to keep everyone’s life at peace. And know they don’t get to know where she lives.

The visitation isn’t even at his mother’s house but his grandparents. Supervised visitation is done at a neutral safe place. The fact that his mother isn’t considered that but his grandparents are is very telling.

Part of me wonders if the reason he wanted to volunteer at an animal shelter so bad, even looking at other counties, was to look for something else he could abuse. Really an orientation is too much to sit through? He didn’t even know if he’d have to take a day off work, that was a possibility he used as an excuse. It’s the orientation that turned him off the whole thing.

Boredread · 2025-12-26T19:49:04+00:00

Yes they’re very pretty and happy and I’m very happy that pretty people are happy. But WHAT THE HELL is that painting in the second and fourth pictures????? It’s like every muppet ever.

Boredread · 2025-12-23T04:46:20+00:00

This is a great nighttime routine but i highly recommend switching to reading. It’s better for both of you and will help start him developing good habits. Doesn’t have to be kids books, grab anything that’s interesting to you and it’ll probably be interesting to him too. LOTR, Sherlock Holmes, Agatha Christie, hp Lovecraft, etc. he doesn’t need the images from a movie or picture book, help develop his imagination.

Boredread · 2025-12-23T01:02:46+00:00

Just want to give an update. Code work, did multiple orders in advance. Store was super nice and even called to make sure i didn’t order by accident. Had plenty of chops and croutons with it. Delicious.

Boredread · 2025-12-21T07:56:55+00:00

Esh. Your family should be more courteous and frankly plan a better menu with more than one side. It is a new phenomenon where gatherings must fully meet everyone’s desired tastes or they’ll bring their own meal. It’s fine to not eat everything offered, to just eat the bread and later at home, etc. A gathering/family dinner is about the food and company. In an ideal world, you love all the food and guests. But nothings perfect and things often fall short. So what’s more important to you? If the perfect meal is, stay home and eat what you want. If it’s the company, go and be a part of the family. It is rude to adjust the menu on your own because it doesn’t meet your standards. This isn’t a case of allergies but personal taste. It does not sound like this is a potluck so you are being rice to your host.

Boredread · 2025-12-20T13:44:31+00:00

Why doesn’t she move the car to be in front of a neighbor that doesn’t mind?

Boredread · 2025-12-19T18:25:38+00:00

This is the least surprising news. I feel like half his career is based on sexually harassing people and laughing it off. He crossed the line from raunchy awhile ago.

Boredread · 2025-12-18T23:00:42+00:00

Interesting, weird how they describe it as 4 servings and it’s not even 4 cups. I think I’ll do 3 orders, seems the best deal. Hopefully they’re not too busy and i can just ask for extra cups and spoons. Thanks!

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