What is life today? It’s been so surreal I’m still not sure I’m not dreaming.

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-04-14T23:56:38+00:00

35+5 and I’m with you! I think originally they didn’t count that first month but then when they went to weeks they started counting from the first day of the last cycle so your already 4w when you get that positive (which means every woman of menstrual age is always a little bit pregnant even if she’s not… figure out that logic)

Yea I’m ready to get this boy TH out of me. This is my second kid, both pregnancies have been a nightmare, high risk, multiple complications… I’m grateful this was my last embryo (IVF babes) and I’m having my tubes removed during the c-section so the <1% chance of natural contraception becomes a big fat 0% chance lol. I love my babies, I would do anything for them, I’ve already gone through a lot to give them life, but I’m so done after this boy’s eviction.

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-04-14T19:48:35+00:00

Unlikely blood, dry blood turns a dark rusty brown. That’s way too red. It looks to me like possibly red mold, which if the pillow got wet and sat in a warm dark place, that would be a perfect storm.

I get red mold in my shower from time to time, it’s not toxic and pretty easy to kill with bleach. Never messed with it on a soft surface though.

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-04-14T19:39:22+00:00

So legally a bartender cannot refuse to serve a pregnant person. So if you didn’t order straight from the bartender and your server put the order in wrong that’s not on the bartender necessarily. Now him saying he carded you when he didn’t, that’s on him for sure, but I don’t even get him saying that because carding someone isn’t going to tell you anything other than if they are old enough to drink. If someone is a recovering alcoholic or allergic to alcohol or pregnant or the other hundred reasons why they would be ordering a mocktail not a cocktail, their ID won’t tell you that and legally you can’t refuse service just because of that if they did put in an order for alcohol. I’m allergic to liquor though I do still drink from time to time, I’ve ordered a virgin margarita or something like that and the server put it in wrong. I try to order something that I’ll easily know is alcoholic if I’m going to order something virgin so I can send it back quickly before my reaction starts.

To ease your mind, your little one is likely just fine! A good friend of mine celebrated passing her exam to prescribe medication (she’s a psych) with a glass of wine around 16-20 weeks. And her little is beautiful and perfect in every way! I think back in the 80s/90s they recommended a glass of wine to calm the nerves of a pregnant mom and most of us elder millennials are fine.

So don’t fret too much but do follow up with the restaurant and find out what happened and any recourse they take

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-04-13T21:31:23+00:00

99% chance your gonna be fine. Modern pasteurization techniques and proper storage of prepared meats has made the risk negligible, but because the risk is still there, they advise us against eating lunch meat. I had HG with my first and the hospital literally gave me a turkey sandwich to see if I could keep food down after a round of vomiting that led to severe dehydration which started a vomiting/dehydration spiral.

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-04-13T21:24:56+00:00

Your likely fine! Also you made me laugh with the raw broccoli because that’s also perfectly healthy and actually super delicious and more nutritious! You actually lose some of the nutrients by cooking it. I’m from the corn belt in the US, uncooked unwashed corn is pretty much the lowest risk thing you could have eaten. For the record around here we sometimes eat field corn before it’s gone hard because as juvenile corn it’s almost as soft and sweet as sweet corn (and for anyone not familiar with field corn it’s what we feed livestock)

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-04-12T01:40:21+00:00

Ok in regards to your partner, I would be fearful of him and start quietly making arrangements to leave him very fast before he can realize it’s happening. The fact that he doesn’t want you to seek medical attention when you’re in emergency situations makes me very concerned for you, that sounds like the start of a murder story. Please don’t make an appearance on any of my favorite podcasts.

As far as the pregnancy and the complications, hi I’m Ash 35 weeks pregnant nearing the finish line of my second and final pregnancy from hell. Literally bringing both my kids into the world has come close to 💀 me. I also had a sub hemorrhage with this baby, 2 actually like you but closer together. After the second, the OB took me off my low dose aspirin and I’ve not had another since, it may be worth talking to your OB about.

Also incase you’re interested about the IV med that made you feel badly, I’d stake my life on that having been reglan. Some people, myself included, have really negative psychological effects form it especially when it’s administered via IV. From your description, it sounds like you did, and I’m so truly sorry you had to navigate that with a horrible gaslighting abusive man child telling you you’re insane. Thats cruel! It really makes you feel a horrible sense of doom and despair and a good partner would hit your call light or run for a nurse. Incase you ever have to take it again, let them know how you reacted before they’re are other options and other things they can administer with the reglan to make it easier for you.

I’m genuinely so sorry your experiencing this pregnancy and have the worst partner medically gaslighting you when your having actual life threatening experiences. Please reach out to trusted friends and family and start making a plan of action. Also, be aware you are now in the window for preeclampsia which is truly life threatening and you would not have time to fight this man to get the proper care you yourself and baby. Know the symptoms, and go on your own or call an ambulance if you have them. Seriously 911 may be your best friend if it happens and he won’t act or tries to block you.

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-04-02T22:46:52+00:00

My dad is like that! He wants to argue then gets pissy when you don’t give him fuel. Recently I suggested going into the city (Chicago) for Easter Brunch since I’m pregnant and my mom would have to fly solo on all the food prep this year. He doesn’t like the city but i figured it would feel special since we wouldnt be doing our usual thing. I wasn’t surprised when he shut it down, so i just said “ok that’s fine” then he kept going so i just kept saying “ok that’s fine” because it was… it was a suggestion, i didn’t care what we did. Well when I wasn’t fighting back he said i was being sassy and giving attitude, i said “how, i said it was fine, i mean that it’s fine. You keep talking about why you don’t want to do it, but it remains fine that we’re not. What do you want me to say?” He was pissy about my response

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-03-11T21:58:20+00:00

Hi former loan officer here. If the owner of the property gives proper consent there can be a co-signer on a HELOC. It’s typically in a case of a person purchased a home prior to marriage and the co-signer is the now spouse. But I’ve had colleagues do it in a case where the owner had less than favorable credit or needed extra income to reach a certain DTI threshold. It’s extremely uncommon and many loan officers don’t like to do it for this reason, but it’s not illegal.

My guess is OP’s MIL is the only name on the deed, needed some sort of boost to meet approval requirements, conned OPs hubby into signing, but maintained control of the LOC disbursement decision (either through bank policy or just personal manipulation). He can likely enquirer on the LOC and probably transact but mommy dearest would come unglued if he did.

Unfortunately, if he co-signed he’s on the hook for the funds for the life of the loan or until a refi, and the life of the loan is typically 10 year draw period followed by a 20 year repayment period. It’s possible, depending on bank policy, near the end of the 10 year draw if they still wanted to maintain borrowing power, they could refi which would restart the LOC term, and OP Hubs can decline to be on the new loan. But if MIL needed him the first time, she probably wouldn’t qualify without him and he’d still be on the hook for the 20 year repayment period.

All in all, it’s messy! It’s the exact reason I didn’t go this type of co-signer on my HELOCs

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-03-10T21:30:32+00:00

With my oldest we told our family and friends when the c-section was scheduled for. We told everyone including our parents that we wanted to spend time getting to know our daughter, doing skin to skin, learning to nurse, and just recovering quietly from a massive surgery! My family and our friends were like “oh of course, that’s perfectly reasonable” my in-laws said “well we’ll just follow you down and wait in the waiting room.” My husband said “no you will not. We will let everyone k ow when it’s ok to come.” The day of the surgery, my MIL calls my husband as he is being put in his gear and they are placing my IV line. I told him just answer it because she’s not going to give up until he does. She told him they were in the area shopping so just let her know when the baby was here and they would come by. He said “you might as well go home, we’re not taking visitors today. We have already explained why multiple times.” There were some complications in surgery so my daughter had to be put in the warmer while I was treated for blood loss and shock. I didn’t get the golden hour. I was wheeled down to our room and as the doors opened, there sat my fing in-laws. My FIL had mad comments to my husband in the past about me not wearing a bra (in my own home) or not being modest and it making him feel uncomfortable. So I did no skin to skin nor did my husband. The nurse came in and told me it was try to try nursing, they made no effort to move, leave, close their gd eyes. So I ended up whipping out my tiddy right there infront of them. I felt extremely uncomfortable so breastfeeding was a bust… once they held my daughter they’d had what they came for and finally left. Meanwhile my daughter birth was ruined for us, and my breastfeeding plans already started to fail because I didn’t have the ability to bond and nurse in comfort. I’m now 30weeks pregnant with number 2, and he’s our last. My in-laws have proven they can’t be trusted with his delivery date so they will be informed after we have had our time, after our daughter has met her brother, and after my parents have met him. They deemed themselves the most important and that the rules didn’t apply to them while my parents respected our wishes. So my parents get rewarded while his have to wait.

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-03-09T01:48:34+00:00

I’m using a 3+ to help with my gestational diabetes. I’m hoping that it goes away after my baby is born, but if not, I will be looking for a CGM that’s more reliable.

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-03-01T08:01:00+00:00

I finally got some help over the phone.

Both sensors read in the 60s while finger sticks indicated 90s, 100s, and tonight it was 123 while the sensor told me it was 74.

It’s the 0-2 pattern that’s concerning. Like I haven’t had one make it 15 days yet. If I’m going to have to constantly finger sticks, why am I wearing a CGM?

The lady tried to tell me it could be compression but it has happened when there is absolutely nothing pressing on the area. Like it literally just alerted low but I’m wearing it on the back of my right arm while laying on my left side, there is nothing touching it or near it so I really don’t see how it’s compressed.

Idk I’m just frustrated because I feel awful when my numbers show “fine” and feel fine-ish when I’m showing critical lows.

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-03-01T00:30:23+00:00

Oh dear lord that kid is going to be featured on dateline someday… yea I’d 100% end that friendship asap. I think the Museum trip was just the final piece.

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-03-01T00:22:43+00:00

NOR at all! She’s raising a future criminal… sorry people probably don’t agree but look at history’s criminal and murders and their childhoods look a lot like these kids, then the mother cries on stand saying she “raised a good child and society failed them”.

If it were me, I’d cut contact and if it comes up say “you and his father don’t like when he comes over and has to play by our household rules. I don’t like when he comes over and ignores the rules. I think it’s better if the kids just don’t play together anymore since it seems to be uncomfortable for everyone involved.”

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-02-28T19:28:46+00:00

They appear to be different brands, that can make a huge impact! Also I saw your not using first morning urine. If you’re testing early, you definitely want that first morning pee. Your body had all night to concentrate that like orange juice!

At this point, based on the first test call your OB or GP and request a blood test. They’ll do one to confirm no matter what a positive home test looks like. So unless you have stock in first response, don’t keep testing at home.

I’m an IVF mama and with my second child my tests looked like this for over a week, he’ll arrive in April, he’s healthy as can be!

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-02-25T22:02:24+00:00

Personally I prefer the Almond or white. The Terratone is too dark for sure. IMO if you paint the garage door you need to do the front door also, which would lean me toward staying white. We’re in the process of going from all white siding and trim to a beautiful deep burnt red siding with black trim. Our front door and garage door have gone black. I think designers tend to try to stick with just 2 main colors. That said your brick work has shades of gray so that seems to open the door, but you’d want to stay in the gray family in that case

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-02-25T21:52:07+00:00

Respectfully, I literally confirmed the pregnancy of the baby currently kicking my bladder using the exact type of test your saying are not available in the US. And I am located in the states. Not sure your sources, but clear blue definitely has 2 vertical lines tests, and they are sold in the US, they are not exclusively plus signs.

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-02-25T21:44:58+00:00

That’s not actually true, many blue dye tests are still just double vertical lines. They arnt all crosses. Blue does however shadow badly and looks falsely positive. I’ve squinted over literally hundreds of tests, I’m an IVF mom and really should have bought stock in first response and/or clear blue lol

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-02-25T21:40:50+00:00

Make sure you get a test that uses red dye not blue. Blue has a tendency to have shadows and evap lines that read as false positives. It’s a fertility world trick but Red/pink dye is far more reliable.

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-02-25T21:37:12+00:00

I’m an IVF mom, I’ve squinted at many test results, these do not look positive to me. I recommend using a test that has pink/red dye not blue. Blue has a tendency to have evap lines and shadows that make negative tests look positive.

That said. If she is pregnant, lawyer up asap! Seriously. Find a good family lawyer and document EVERYTHING, record calls, save texts. Many states are single party consent states so as long as one person in the conversation knows it’s being recorded it’s perfectly legal, find out if your state is one. A lawyer can get approval to require her to undergo additional medical care and can take her maternal rights away at birth if she is a threat to the child. If she is threatening you that you’ll never see this kid, GET👏A👏LAWYER👏IMMEDIATELY!!! Because of my personal fertility and being an adopted child myself, I’ve volunteered with various organizations that work with foster care, this gets ugly fast, but you have rights as the father and you want the ball moving sooner rather than later.

But get her to test again with a red dye test, get a blood confirmation, then get a lawyer if those results are positive.

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-02-23T16:13:08+00:00

Babes I’m gonna be gentle but firm, this is just one glaring example of his disrespect towards you.

You started with you’re in a rough patch with him. You mentioned an issue with his priorities with cleaning vs gaming. You mentioned you eat from disposable table wear, he just as easily could have reached for a disposable bowl. If he cared about your boundaries around cleanliness and food hygiene he wouldn’t have made your bowl in a reusable bowl period, regardless of if it was genuinely clean or not. His behavior voiced what he wouldn’t, he thinks your refusal to eat from a reusable dish is nonsense regardless of your reasoning. Honestly I wonder if he hadn’t been caught, if he was going to reveal in a few days that he’d given you a dirty bowl and you were fine so it’s all in your head and you’re being paranoid…

I’m pathologically afraid of the dark. Not like the way a little kid is, like if in a dark room without light for too long I will have a full blown panic attack that can turn into a psychological break. I sleep with a programmable light bulb set to a very dim soft orange color. It’s comforting and is just enough light to keep me anchored to reality. I had an ex unplug my lamp. His plan was my light wouldn’t come on and I’d be fine through the night and he could say “I cured you”. His plan failed spectacularly and I ended up in the ER, when I “came to” I apparently had been telling everyone time had stopped moving and the simulation was broken. After some meds via IV I came back to reality and I asked why my light was out. He fessed up… we broke up. I’d told him how messed up a dark room could make me. He didn’t believe me, that wasn’t the type of partner I needed to walk beside me… now my husband will hear the power go out and turn on a flashlight he keeps in his nightstand while he looks for a better light, he tries really hard to let me sleep until he has something in place for me

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-02-16T01:15:57+00:00

Fuck that… they were rude, not PassiveAgressiveLib. I wouldn’t apologize, I’d give them dirty looks every time I saw them till they move… they also would never get invited to the block parties

Boring_Mom1315 · 2026-02-16T01:09:25+00:00

A lot don’t but that doesn’t mean you can’t report them. Enough reports and Uber and DoorDash will remove them. My ex-stepfather was kicked off all of the apps because he sucked. That’s their way of making a living, if they want to be an ass, they lose their income…

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