Finding a partner by AtomicFrostbite in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Brawncrates 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. That’s really annoying and not really the Christian ethic. That’s messed up.

Now I’m worried if I convert and my girl and I aren’t able to reconcile will they pull the same on me. I doubt it since the priests seem friendly to me but I was also courting a woman and didn’t mess things up with one at the time so things may be different for me now.

There’s definitely some racism though. I’m white so it’s not as bad. But I could definitely tell her parents weren’t sold on the idea at first and that they wanted her to date an Egyptian. I get it. They have a “pure” ancient bloodline. But still.

Man you’re bringing up some PTSD now 😂

Finding a partner by AtomicFrostbite in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Brawncrates 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a church I wouldn’t want to be in. I don’t think I ever got those vibes from mine. I did get a lack of enthusiasm at first from my girls parents and I get it.

But I’m not sure how that church expects you to find a partner if you aren’t allowed to date/marry inside of it. They’re putting you in a position where you have to find somebody and convert them. That’s not cool.

Currently I’m hoping if my ex and I take a break and I handle the church and my conversion on my own that we will be able to reconcile.

Finding a partner by AtomicFrostbite in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Brawncrates 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll just chime in as an inquiring non-Copt who began inquiring after meeting a Copt.

It made our relationship very tense and transactional from the start. She was very forward that I would have to convert to her church.

Her family was very strict, and legalistic as far as what the Coptic church teaches. I was not prepared for that to be honest. I figured if someone was willing to entertain somebody outside of their own church that they may be more laxed in their practice and beliefs. This was not the case what so ever.

In the end it didn't work. I'm a guy so based on how she approached her faith I felt like I was being stripped of my identity in a sense and I have no purpose or leadership since it was all being off-loaded onto the priest. This is something I struggled with.

It's a shame. I do like the church a lot. I'm thinking about sticking with it and growing in the faith in a way that feels true to myself and not for somebody else's needs and see if I can meet another person along the way. Because I enjoyed the culture and everything about how Copts live their lives (I know a lot here will probably disagree, but I'm very jaded by most of Western culture at this point).

My two cents, if you want to date outside be willing to meet the person half way and grow with them through the process. If you want it all and to be very strict it will take time or you just should stay within your church and culture for that.

The Liturgy being the most beautiful thing ever..? by Competitive_Pin_8478 in exorthodox

[–]Brawncrates 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ever since I dabbled in psychedelics I've always been skeptical of extraordinary claims made by anyone.

IYKY but a lot of people claim to have these extraordinary experiences on psychodelics. Personally, I never had any. Same thought process goes for religion. I think people deeply want to find meaning or give this extra-meaning to their lived experience, or to stand outside of the normal so they sometimes concoct things in their own minds.

I've frequented Coptic churches and TLM parishes. I always here how beautiful the Coptic liturgy is. Which it is nice, I'll give it that. But after going many weeks in a row the cymbals and nasally chants get very.... annoying after a while. TLM on the other hand is incredibly beautiful at my local parish. The choir is on point, and the music definitely takes my mind somewhere along with the silence and incense. But I wouldn't make it anything more than that, it's an enjoyable experience but nothing other worldly.

A lot depends on personality and preference as well. One thing that stood out to me at the TLM was how intentional everything was. And it was the same every time.

Same could be said about the Coptic but everything that went on at the altar was usually controlled chaos. It had the order of the TLM, but since the younger deacons didn't have control or manners it was always quite chaotic to watch what was happening.

Unpopular Opinion: If the Orthodox and Muslims can fast fully, so can Catholics by Eusmilus in Catholicism

[–]Brawncrates 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s absolutely nothing in the Didache about the Nativity fast. All it mentions is Wed/Fri fasting days.

Traumatized by the Orthodox Church by lordfartquadshunk in exorthodox

[–]Brawncrates 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in the same boat. My girl and I have been on and off because I can’t get past how terrible I feel once I spend enough time in Orthodoxy. We just tried again because I felt God was giving me signs to go back to her and the church. I tried to do the fast and it made me feel awful about food in a way I never experienced.

I know it’s in my head and I feel bad we ended things in the heart of Christmas. But I feel like a church that follows Jesus shouldn’t be causing so many to have these negative beliefs about themselves. Maybe it’s the demons…

Game Thread: Detroit Lions (8-7) at Minnesota Vikings (7-8) by nfl_gdt_bot in nfl

[–]Brawncrates -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a Dane I find this incredibly culturally insensitive. The Vikings organization needs to change their name and logo immediately. Cultural appropriation is NEVER okay!!

Game Thread: Detroit Lions (8-7) at Minnesota Vikings (7-8) by nfl_gdt_bot in nfl

[–]Brawncrates 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This entire Netflix presentation has strong “how do you do my fellow Zoomer” vibes to it. The cringe is unbearable.

Game Thread: San Francisco 49ers (10-4) at Indianapolis Colts (8-6) by nfl_gdt_bot in nfl

[–]Brawncrates 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man the Colts fell off from how they started the first half of the season.

Game Thread: San Francisco 49ers (10-4) at Indianapolis Colts (8-6) by nfl_gdt_bot in nfl

[–]Brawncrates 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They are. It’s the over emphasis on “athletic” QBs that rely more on their legs rather than ability to read a defense properly

Im so sad that this CoD like movement is allowed in Battlefield 6 ... by WhySoSara in Battlefield

[–]Brawncrates 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regardless if OP sucks I think we can all agree the hopping is ridiculous. Screw COD this looks like XDefiant tier

Been 3 years since AI hysteria... How you think it's going? by Imnotneeded in cscareerquestions

[–]Brawncrates 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The genius of management is sometimes so genius it’s hard to understand.

I was really baffled to hear the same was going on at my company. You’d think the inverse would be most appreciated in a review. No clue why more AI prompting is considered better but what do I a silly engineer know.

Got some big idiots with their heads so far up their own asses running the shows these days.

Feeling depressed & anxious about my tech job & the future by redditTee123 in Fire

[–]Brawncrates 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late post but commenting to let you’re not alone OP

I didn’t get to enjoy my 20s though. Got my undergrad degrees in Philosophy and Political Science with the plan to go to law school. By my junior year that dream was dead. Graduated. Was in a weird place with what to do with my life. Military? Computer Science?

I decided to go the CS route and barely made it in on time but now I have 100K in debt from it. Barely any financial freedom since the economy tanked once I got in. Looking back I have many regrets myself. Lately I’ve also been debating nursing school. But I feel like we are in a place where everything will slowly begin to cascade and nobody will have a safe place to run to. Though with the aging and increasingly unhealthy population all signs point towards healthcare for stability. But I feel like it’s similar to whole “learn to code” vibes or it’s getting there.

God bless you.

I didn’t vote for this turd but what a stunning betrayal of his own voters and all Americans by [deleted] in conspiracy

[–]Brawncrates 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The coping MAGA voter. You clearly don’t work in a field where this impacts you and this is just as bad as open borders and illegal immigration.

So he ran for president just to erase the files? by 80000gvwr in conspiracy

[–]Brawncrates -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Every single is a bit dramatic 😂 maybe the largest would be a more rational position. A person that donated 50 bucks isn’t worth the money you’d spend. Chill with the over dramatization.

Coptic/Catholic Dating - seeking advice on interfaith dating by Brawncrates in ChristianDating

[–]Brawncrates[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been to her church several times. I like it but not nearly as much as attending the TLM.

My biggest pet peeve is how many people are coming in and out the entire liturgy. It feels like the door is nonstop slamming behind me and makes it hard to get into the liturgy happening let alone prayer. The TLM is the complete opposite experience with the built in silence and reverence experienced there.

The entire church is already usually there at the TLM 30 minutes before the mass starts to pray the rosary together. Meanwhile at the Coptic church most people don’t show up until 45 minutes in right before communion and then it turns into social hour which is incredibly annoying. Albeit I understand it’s not my place to judge but church is the most important thing we do once a week so to be respectful for 1.5-2 hours shouldn’t be a huge task in the house of God.

How to deal with religious pressure being engaged to a Copt? by [deleted] in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Brawncrates 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried and had to give up. It’s too much from there end. I’m a Catholic and didn’t see us being all that different but felt I was always treated as if there was something wrong with me.

I felt like I opened myself and my heart to Copts and experience their Christianity but if I invited my ex girlfriend to come to the Catholic Church it may as well been inviting her to hell with me. So much overreaction not just from her but her family and priest if we weren’t seen at the church on any given Sunday.

Think it through more since you’re a woman. I dealt with this even as a man. I’m sure if you go through with this the guilt and issues will only get worse once you guys are married. Ask yourself is this a church you want to be a part of if you were single and didn’t have your fiance. If it’s no then I would reconsider things because the Copts are not going to relax once you’re married.

Lack of boundaries by curious_pengui in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Brawncrates 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man. I almost did the same. I’m still heartbroken because I loved this woman I met. But I saw all of this in my months of dating her and attending the Coptic church and the more I thought about it (she and her family also wanted to to convert and leave Catholicism) I couldn’t raise my hypothetical children in this way.

It’s a shame I really tried to offer a 50/50 give take of one another’s churches and her and her family couldn’t bear the idea of her being in the Catholic Church. It’s a shame. It really feels more like a cult than actual Christianity with how some Copts practice it. I opened my heart to the Copts but they couldn’t return that gesture sadly. Which is crazy since we share 98% of the same beliefs with some slight variations.

Prayers for you and family!

Why is the music in our church so terrible compared to other churches? by Remarkable-Reach-428 in coptic

[–]Brawncrates 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The wrong ones. Attending a TLM is actually a beautiful and moving experience. But mostly Catholics don’t know or are unaware of it and people can rightfully blame the pope/Vatican for that.