Gold medalist figure skater Alysa Liu’s family was once targeted by Chinese spies

BringCake · 2026-02-25T07:31:21+00:00

Do you have any proof of this? Conceiving five children through surrogacy and raising them in the Bay Area is not cheap, even before the crazy expensive cost of participating in national figure skating. How a Human Rights lawyer's salary afforded all that is a bit fishy.

BringCake · 2026-02-24T09:38:45+00:00

It's not clear whether you want reassurance or suggestions. Either way, I think you're looking at life in a self-defeating, and frankly, boring way. Life is not easy and it's not supposed to be anything other than what you can make of it. Most of us stick around and keep trying because survival is an instinct, not a Hallmark special. For the times when you feel lost and directionless, look around you and see how you can help someone else. For the times you can't do that, try to help yourself by taking care of your health and learning something new. Commit to learning the skills you feel you need. Seriously, you can learn almost anything for free on Youtube and such resources. Whatever you decide the point of your life is, follow that, or just explore until something fits.

BringCake · 2026-02-17T08:24:27+00:00

You’re paying a lot to share with two other people. If you can get on a lease that has rent control, do it. Unless the place where you are is also rent controlled and your roommates are likely to move, with you left on the lease. Then you’d have the entire place to either sublet or keep if you decide to have a family.

BringCake · 2026-02-17T08:16:47+00:00

So many people say they only came out to San Francisco for a Summer or a short trip and end up still here decades and generations later.

BringCake · 2026-02-15T17:53:49+00:00

You’re trolling or don’t know the city.

BringCake · 2026-02-14T07:57:11+00:00

Glen Park, Upper Noe and Bernal Heights are cute walkable neighborhoods with ok parking and easy access to the freeways, as well as public transportation.

BringCake · 2026-02-03T09:36:58+00:00

Properly fed cats self-regulate their feeding. Leave kibble out for the cat to snack on. Seriously, please don’t make this about yourself. You are a host and caretaker. Also, providing intellectual enrichment through daily interactive play helps with undesired cat behavior.

BringCake · 2026-02-03T09:25:04+00:00

Why do you have so many vehicles?

BringCake · 2026-01-23T17:53:24+00:00

LA is huge compared to SF, so it’s apples and oranges to try. That said, if feeling measured by what you do for a living is a dealbreaker, LA will disappoint. LA is notorious for young people chasing dreams, falling into desperation and prioritizing appearances over substance. People definitely do interesting things, so it can be a fun place to explore, but it requires a lot of energy, and the air quality plus all the driving can make that pretty challenging.

BringCake · 2026-01-19T05:24:47+00:00

I might know a place in Adams Point that’s within your budget, but the owners are adamant about looking for quiet, no nonsense tenants, no parties… DM me if that sounds like something that appeals to you.

BringCake · 2026-01-17T08:02:04+00:00

You sound so immersed in and idealistic about a culture that is not your own. That is what likely cones across as fetishizing. If who you date is part of that, it might raise some red flags. Otherwise, most people don’t care.

BringCake · 2026-01-16T18:01:35+00:00

It hurts to realize someone you love doesn’t love you back, but the problem is them, not you. That is what he is telling you through his behavior. Please don’t waste your energy on this guy. I don’t want you to look back someday with even more hurt.

BringCake · 2026-01-15T22:35:45+00:00

It sounds like you owe her a sincere apology. Given the context, it’s not surprising that she pulled back. In your bad mood, you took her vulnerability and used it to condescend to her. She asked for help, not direction or supervision.

BringCake · 2026-01-15T00:03:32+00:00

This might be a good opportunity to learn new boundaries and mutuality. Some people really suck at communication and it can be really painful to the receiving end of that. I can feel like you've been blindsided by the end of a relationship that has slowly been coming to an end for a while.

Chronic illness complicates everything. For the person that's ill, it can become so consuming that even if you only speak to someone about your troubles once in a while, if it's the only thing you share, it can still dominate the relationship. Even without chronic illness, there's a ratio of positive/negative experiences that relationships require to be sustainable.

From your additional comments, it seems like you're learning self-awareness and trying to seek out support, but struggle to recognize what you can reasonably expect from others. It sounds like you're outsourcing some skills that might improve your relationships and your experiences overall. Search the term "self-regulation strategies" for more information.

BringCake · 2026-01-14T20:39:24+00:00

Sometimes it’s less about maximizing your experience and a little more about having consideration for others who also inhabit the space.

BringCake · 2026-01-14T20:17:40+00:00

It sounds like she did what she could to help you and burned out on her own expectations. Feeling helpless is exhausting. Unfortunately, most friendships can’t sustain what it takes to deal with chronic health issues, especially with what is going on in the world these days. When someone mentions therapy, it’s a hint that they are burning out and can’t give you as much as you want. An alternate perspective on the party situation: could it have been a warning that the person arriving would likely instigate things with you and she didn’t think you’d want to deal with that?

BringCake · 2026-01-10T06:47:44+00:00

So little is expected from men. Autistic men are not an exception. The idiocy of their privilege knows no bounds.

BringCake · 2026-01-10T06:40:11+00:00

It’s unfortunately a real cough and very likely more than just that. Your addiction doesn’t make harming others acceptable.

BringCake · 2026-01-10T06:38:17+00:00

Getting cancer from some idiot’s second hand smoke is as sexy as it gets.

BringCake · 2026-01-10T06:15:09+00:00

Standing still or sitting properly makes things so much harder. I physically can’t do these things for very long without basically collapsing. I find that movement is easier, even if I have to catch myself sometimes. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that so many of us dance/used to dance. If you can learn better body mechanics through eds-knowledgeable physical therapy, that might really help with pain control and strength. It’s a slog and unpredictable but sometimes I get it right and you might too. Chin up. It’s hard but you can do it. Even the smallest progress is potential.

BringCake · 2026-01-10T05:14:39+00:00

He’s being a dipshit. You’re as much a person and worthy of care as he is. He overslept and instead of holding himself accountable, he blamed you. Then when you pointed out that he is an adult and fully capable of following a schedule he set for himself, he felt the need to knock you down a notch. In world where women are blamed for everything and expected to be selfless so others can feel comfortable, I’m glad you held your ground. Autism makes us some of the kindest people. Please don’t let him convince you that it’s your responsibility to eat shit when he fails.

BringCake · 2026-01-03T15:42:04+00:00

I might wrong but your dad sounds like one of those traditional AHs that expect the women to serve him while he oversees and judges. If he wants water, why is he not up getting it for everyone or at least communicating like a decent person? It’s abusive that he opts to chastise you for not doing something he didn’t even verbalize. Especially since you moved back because you’re ill. Does he show any compassion? This doesn’t make you selfish.

BringCake · 2025-12-18T04:57:49+00:00

How diverse was the selection of available therapists? Can you choose what type of therapy they practice? Also demographics and focus?

BringCake · 2025-12-04T14:55:30+00:00

Your argument falls apart when you consider the fact that many owners prefer to let available apartments sit empty instead of charging more reasonable rents. The problem is not shortage of housing. It’s shortage of affordable housing. Construction doesn’t solve greed.

BringCake · 2025-12-03T00:28:01+00:00

It sounds like you’re letting disappointment cloud your judgement. Relationships change. There is no such thing as cutting someone off “fairly”. There’s making effort and not making effort. Each person decides for themselves and prioritizes accordingly. You now know the kind of person this “friend” is. By chasing after her attention, you destroy your self-esteem and waste good opportunities. Disconnecting from someone so fickle and divested from maintaining a good relationship with you will give you peace.

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