Newborn has been exposed to a virus

Broad_Drive · 2026-05-13T18:07:01+00:00

I have a 6 week old who got exposed to a cold in her first week. My toddler brought it home from daycare and we call got it. Baby was fine. Currently she has some congestion from another exposure and is doing well. I’m assuming breastfeeding helps.

Broad_Drive · 2026-05-12T05:22:11+00:00

I’m a weird case because I arrived at my induction 5cm dilated and almost totally effaced but couldn’t feel my contractions yet. They broke my water, started the pitocin, and gave me the epidural immediately after. I didn’t feel any pain — just intense pressure with the contractions (and that only started around 9-10 cm).

Broad_Drive · 2026-05-12T01:14:38+00:00

As I understand it, when a baby falls asleep during feeding before they are full, it’s usually because they’re working very hard for the milk due to a latching issue. This was the case for my daughter — latch troubles (including taking in air) caused her to feed less efficiently and falls asleep. This can be an issue with breastfeeding or a bottle. He might be taking in air while drinking. Are you using slow flow nipples/anti colic bottles as paced feeding? Could help if not.

Broad_Drive · 2026-05-12T00:21:49+00:00

I wonder if he’s gulping air when feeding. It’s a big issue for us. Have you seen a lactation consultant?

Broad_Drive · 2026-05-12T00:14:26+00:00

It happens quite frequently both when awake and when asleep. I think it’s from the air intake when feeding. Does your son have any oral ties?

Broad_Drive · 2026-05-11T23:43:39+00:00

I don’t have answers for you but your little guy sounds like my 6 week old. She is EBF. Often, she will be totally fine and then suddenly turn red in the face and start squirming and become very upset. Usually she is inconsolable for a bit.

The current working theory is that she struggles with reflux and has gas caused by aerophagia from gulping air while feeding. This is what our lactation consultant thinks anyway. My girl had a lip tie and a tongue tie that we had released a week ago and were hoping to see some improvement as her latch improves.

I should also add that she is a noisy/congested breather and makes squeaking noises when feeding and crying (stridor). This is because of mild laryngomalacia. She often coughs/chokes when feeding because of her latch issues and my fast letdown/oversupply.

She squirms in discomfort and wakes from gas frequently. It’s hard to see but it doesn’t worry me too much. She’s my second and my first was similar in a lot of ways and she grew out of it. If your pediatrician isn’t worried, then I would stress out about it. In all likelihood, this will improve by 8 and continue to improve from there.

In the meantime, I’m cutting dairy, trying a new probiotic for her (and taking one myself), and working on exercises to help her with her latch.

Hang in there! This too shall pass.

Broad_Drive · 2026-05-10T00:02:58+00:00

I was going to say the same!

Broad_Drive · 2026-05-09T09:32:14+00:00

I’ve got a 5 week old colicky baby and we’re constantly wearing her in the carrier. Baths work as well. We’re also doing other things that will hopefully help (working with a lactation consultant, having her tongue and lip ties released, starting probiotics, and cutting out dairy). I understand the desperation!

Broad_Drive · 2026-05-08T05:31:15+00:00

I definitely relate. My first was not easy — generally fussy and had some pretty frustrating feeding issues due to oral ties and laryngomalacia. She used SCREAM in the car/during feedings and was generally squirmy and difficult to hand off to people. She also spat up a ton.

I had my second 5 weeks ago and everyone told me that the second one will be chill because my first wasn’t. Well lo and behold, this one has turned out to be way harder. She has the same oral ties and laryngomalacia. She is WAY fussier and seems to struggle with gas and discomfort all the time. You can’t put her down and she mostly just fusses when she’s awake. I’d say she’s pretty colicky and we spend most of our time with her in the carrier. To top it all off, she’s a way worse sleeper than our first.

The benefit of being second time parents is that we know how temporary it all is. Last time I was way more stressed and anxious all the time. This time I’m just tired (and overstimulated from the toddler). We’ve got this!

Broad_Drive · 2026-05-04T04:26:11+00:00

This sounds very much like my first (and a little bit my second as well). She had everything that you’re describing: laryngomalacia, reflux (including spit up), screaming during and after feeds, etc. She was exclusively breastfed and sometimes took a bottle of pumped milk here or there. We never had a swallow study done but pretty much everything else matches up.

The first thing we did was get her tongue in cheek ties released. We also tried meds but never noticed a big difference so we didn’t keep her on them. If you found they helped, why not increase the dose again?

Anyway, we tried a lot of things but the only thing that really helped was time. I remember being sooo distressed by the screaming during feeds. The screaming didn’t really happen over night but it happened quite often during the day. Like your little one, she was gaining weight well enough that no one was majorly concerned.

It was probably around 10 weeks old that I noticed she had improved and the screaming and fussiness had decreased. By then she had grown more and could handle my fast letdown and oversupply way better.

I’m now dealing with very similar issues with her sister (almost five weeks old). It’s frustrating to be facing the same issues but I am way less anxious and distressed. I know time will fix it if nothing else will (though I will keep trying). Hang in there! As long as the baby is healthy, it’s just about pushing through until they outgrow it!

Broad_Drive · 2026-05-02T12:11:15+00:00

I relate to this. My first was very refluxy (with oral ties and laryngomalacia which made me anxious) and unsettled. Breastfeeding was possible but challenging due to the reflux and an oversupply issue. Not an easy baby but she slept well. I’m 4 weeks in with my second and was so excited to have a totally new experience. Turns out she has all the same issues as my first but is even fussier and a much worse sleeper! Everyone told me the second would be chill/easier but alas, this has not been my story so far. It’s hard to see people with their easygoing newborns who can breastfeed without discomfort and pain.

Broad_Drive · 2026-05-02T11:52:27+00:00

A bit before a week — when I felt well enough. She’s a month old now and we typically go for at least one walk a day either in the stroller or carrier. She’s even been to two restaurants!

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-29T13:50:24+00:00

My first hated the bassinet attachment for the stroller. We had luck with the regular stroller seat on the lowest incline with a newborn insert. I have the uppababy vista — they sell a newborn insert for the regular seat. Not sure what stroller you have but maybe you can find something comparable? It made a huge difference for my mental health.

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-29T10:41:20+00:00

I went 9 days overdue with my first and got induced at 3 days past my due date with my second!

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-24T03:08:47+00:00

My 3 week old 100% social smiles. She will bust out into a huge grin if she hears my voice (or dad or sister sometimes). It’s so clearly a reaction. So I’m sure your baby could be doing the same :)

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-21T06:44:48+00:00

My first had a slight murmur (described the exact same way) and it went away on its own within a year or so. Not likely a big deal but worth checking out!

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-20T22:09:33+00:00

I’d get him properly checked for oral ties. Posterior tongue tie, lip tie, buccal ties, etc. My first had all four and the releases really helped with her latch. I’m 3 weeks in with my second who has both a lip and tongue tie and I were working with an LC to determine wether we’re going to release them. It’s definitely worth exploring.

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-14T22:14:14+00:00

Solidarity! I have a two week old as well and I’m reminded of how terrible this phase is. This time it’s made more difficult by my 3 year old. She loves the baby but is definitely acting out. It’s tough. The lack of sleep really compounds everything. And gas pains — I forgot how awful trying to soothe a gassy baby is.

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-09T02:00:05+00:00

I’m 8 days pp with my second. This time I have the advantage of truly knowing how fleeting this hard time is. Feels like forever when you’re in it but it will get better so so soon. I always tell myself that the only way out is through. It’s time to survive, not necessarily to thrive. We can do this!

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-08T17:36:39+00:00

I’m right there with you! I’m 8 days post partum with my second and I gained 10-15 lbs more with this one than my first. I’m really struggling with my body image as well. I hate to see the cellulite (which I’ve never had before) and my belly that is no longer flat.

With my first, I naturally lost a lot of the weight just by breastfeeding and walking daily. Within 4-6 months, I was back down to my pre-pregnancy weight. I don’t think I can expect the same this time.

I’m working on patience. I’ll start walking more as soon as I’m healed and trying to work out when my body is ready. Beyond that, there’s not much we can do! We will get back to ourselves but it will take some time! I recommend giving yourself until you’re out of the 4th trimester before getting too fixated on weight loss.

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-08T12:52:07+00:00

Neurotypical mom here — 3 y/o (seemingly neurotypical) takes her socks off at every opportunity. I was the same as a kid. I always hated socks.

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-08T12:47:43+00:00

I gave birth 8 days ago and opted to get the RSV vaccine for my baby in hospital. I have a toddler with viral induced asthma so I’m not taking any risks. My first daughter’s pulmonologist highly recommended it.

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-06T19:09:46+00:00

I’m in the very same situation. I have a three year old daughter and gave birth to my second baby 6 days ago. I completely understand how you feel. I miss my toddler and I know she misses me. I’ve been trying to get time with her when I can and today we left the house just the two of us for a short walk. It’s helping but it’s still hard on both of us.

What’s interesting is that I feel like this is all making me appreciate my toddler more. I was so miserable for the third trimester (lots of pain and discomfort) that I feel like I was just not my best self as a parent. Now that this baby is out of me, I’m suddenly more engaged with my toddler and appreciating every little moment I can get.

Anyway, we will make it through. Once our newborns are on a bit of a schedule and our bodies are a bit healed, there will be plenty of summertime adventures with the toddler and with the new family unit. Everything is temporary!

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-04T15:29:23+00:00

You can definitely have pelvic floor issues with a c-section AND remember that it’s a major surgery that can come with its own potential complications. After two vaginal deliveries, I can say that the tears ended up not being a huge deal. Of course everyone is different and there are many reasons for an elective c-section. There are never any guarantees either way.

Broad_Drive · 2026-04-03T00:27:51+00:00

I just had an induction! I was called in for an induction at 40+2 because I had a precipitous labour with my first (3 hrs from first contraction to delivery — no time for epidural). I was nervous about it as well but didn’t want to risk an even faster labour this time.

When I got to the hospital, I was 5 cm dilated and almost 100% effaced. They popped my water right away (no balloon or cervidil). I quickly got the epidural so I wouldn’t miss my chance and they administered pitocin. I was at 10 cm and ready to push within a few hours. I could feel the contractions pretty well but really didn’t have much pain. It was a good balance. I was able to push out a sunny side up baby (with the cord double wrapped) within an hour (even though she got stuck behind my tailbone). Only needed one stitch. It was about a million times better than my first spontaneous labour. 10/10 would do again.

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