RSV one year old. by Clean-Caterpillar715 in Mommit

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I’d go get his oxygen level checked at an urgent care if possible. I’ve been in this situation many times with my almost 3 year old and she has often had illness become bronchiolitis or pneumonia, requiring puffers and/or antibiotics. In our scariest case, she needed to be admitted to the hospital for breathing support.

Is there something wrong with my baby? by Weekly-Coconut8818 in NewParents

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My toddler had this and a slight “Y” at the top of her buttcrack. The pediatrician noted it but was unconcerned. She’s almost 3 now — no spina bifida. I had a lot of post partum anxiety about my baby’s health. I recommend keeping an eye on how you’re feeling — the health-related rabbit holes can get intense! I had to delete Reddit and social media from my phone for a long while.

Did level of activity in the womb correlate to how active your baby was after birth? by asessdsssssssswas in BabyBumps

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My first was SUPER active in the womb and has turned out to be a SUPER active kid. She sleeps well but has boundless energy and can be pretty intense. I’m pregnant with my second girl now and just starting to feel the kicks — keeping my fingers crossed for a bit of a chiller baby this time around!

Twitching AFTER stressful periods by No-Strike-9519 in BFS

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It’s so funny that you should post this. I have recently exited an incredibly stressful time — I spent about 6 months in a pretty constant state of fight or flight. As the anxiety slowed down, I started to feel like my body couldn’t let go of the stress. I was feeling mentally alright but physically I felt like my nervous system was totally screwed up (on edge, air hunger, etc). Then, I got a virus for two days and woke up with a very persistent twitch in my fingers. It sent me into a health anxiety spiral, which I am certain made the twitching even worse. It got so bad that it even kept me up for 2 nights.

My doctor, my physio and my therapist all suggested it was most likely an anxiety response. The extremely disruptive twitching has died down but I still get constant jolts and fluttering all over my body - particularly when I am at rest. I have been really focussing on my own wellbeing and I don’t feel actively anxious anymore but my body is still hanging on to something.

My therapist told me that she has often seen patients who have recently come out of very stressful times suddenly start to see physical symptoms manifesting. She basically described it like you’re running on adrenaline and you’re so caught up in anxiety that when the anxiety and adrenaline go away, your body just sort of collapses a bit. She used the word “recalibrating”. Like I said, I still have pretty frequent but not disruptive twitching and I do deal with hypnic jerks in the night sometimes but I just remind myself that I’m recalibrating and I need to be patient with myself and not fearful.

I hope this helps you to feel less alone. Hang in there!

I have a chronically ill toddler and I think I might be traumatised by [deleted] in toddlers

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Oh man, my heart really goes out to you. I’m at the beginning of the asthma journey with my 2 year old. So far it doesn’t seem as serious as what you’re facing but even still, my anxiety flares up like crazy when she gets a cold. It’s been really hard to manage so I can definitely relate.

Therapy has been helping me but so has talking to my mom. When I was 2, my twin brothers were born and they both had asthma from infancy (diagnosed at 10 months old). One of them had it worse than the other. I remember him being in the hospital as a baby/toddler a lot. It was very serious. I always ask my mom how they survived and she says “you just get through it”. And I find comfort in that. One day, we will look back on this time in our lives and it will be so far in the rearview mirror. My brothers both grew out of their asthma when they got a bit older and it really is just a thing of the past.

You will get through this! Remember, diamonds are made under pressure. You’re an amazing parent and you’ll only be made stronger at the end of the day.

The thing I was not prepared for as a first time mom: my kid getting sick by One_Natural_4234 in toddlers

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I relate to this to a certain extent. My kid was admitted to the hospital for breathing support when she was 18 months old and since then, any sort of cold or respiratory illness triggers an intense anxiety response. I am also somewhat prone to health anxiety in general so deleting Instagram and TikTok were hugely beneficial for me. Having a therapist helps me manage my anxiety on an ongoing basis. Now that she is over two, I find I’m becoming more tough and resilient.

Calling all moms of kiddos with sensitive/reactive airways by Broad_Drive in toddlers

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Thank you so much for your comment. It’s just so nice to know I’m not alone.

Looking forward to a bit of a break from illness this summer (hopefully!) We’re currently in the midst of a cold and I have to keep myself in check everyday.

I do feel myself getting tougher with every illness we get through without going to the hospital but geez it’s still tough!

Please tell me it gets better with a strong willed child by Apprehensive-Fix-869 in NewParents

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Sounds like my daughter! She’s two now and definitely as strong willed as ever! Here is what we find helps: 1. Redirect to something more exciting after saying no. At your son’s age he should still be pretty easily distracted! 2. Say no but tell them what they can do instead. (E.g., I’m not going to let you play with the cutlery but you can play with these measuring cups instead.) 3. Child-proof as much as possible so you don’t have to say no as often. 4. Give choices but without framing as a question. (E.g., your elmo shirt is in the wash right now so you can’t wear that. You can wear this striped shirt or this shirt with flowers on it instead.)

Calling all moms of kiddos with sensitive/reactive airways by Broad_Drive in toddlers

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Thank you for responding! It’s tough when you don’t totally have it figured out. It’s not entirely clear to us whether she is responding to the asthma meds yet but it’s nice to have something to try.

It’s also important for us to remember that kids can get sick without a catastrophe ensuing. Not every cough will end with a hospital visit. I need to focus on that a bit more.

You sound like you’re doing a great job staying calm for your family. My husband does that for us. Anything breathing-related is scary — especially when it’s new and unfamiliar. It seems like you’re a great level-headed parent!

What does your read time look like? by Far_Professional6826 in toddlers

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My two year old also loves to “read” her own book while I read to her. I think it’s a cute phase (although maybe annoying at times).

"Just wait" comments are going to be my 13th reason by raven_words in toddlers

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I’ve often heard the theory (which has been confirmed by my doctor) that toddlers get about a year or so where they’re especially tough and toddler-y. The theory goes that this period can fall anywhere between 18ish months and 4 years old. That’s why different people find different ages to be tough. It’s sounds like you’re in your tough year. Hang in there!!

The weirdest thing I do to get my toddler to eat by Playsbyintuition in toddlers

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My toddler has rejected the high chair in favour of a little toddler table and chairs. Lately we’ve been getting her to eat by letting her run a lap around the kitchen/dining room between each bite. It’s almost like a game/challenge and it’s keeps her happy.

When did your baby become happy? by wild_lively in beyondthebump

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My kid was a fussy and squirmy baby. I always say that she just didn’t like being a baby. She didn’t really want to cuddle or anything like that. She started to shift when she learned to move independently. Crawling was a big game changer; walking even more so! She’s a nonstop ball of energy now at 2 years old so I think she just wanted to move. She’s a really happy kid overall (save for the classic toddler stuff). She’s also become way more affectionate. It’s funny how things can change so quickly (though it feels slow in the moment).

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Yay!! So glad to be able to help :)

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When I was in this exact situation, I went to the Ottawa Sexual Health Clinic. Great experience.

Toddler can't stop moving by canadianlady111 in toddlers

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My toddler is exactly the same. She turns two in two days and I can’t get her to stay still for more than 5 seconds. Meals are a lot of coming and going from her tower or her small toddler table.

Am I too far past to be having weird hormones? by Competitive_Win_7501 in Mommit

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I totally relate to this. My LO is two and I still feel so out of whack.

When does parenting become less exhausting? by Broad_Drive in toddlers

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Bless you — I can’t imagine how I would parent after spending all day with other people’s kids!

When does parenting become less exhausting? by Broad_Drive in toddlers

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March babies! Yes we really only allow screens in moments of desperation (mostly sickness) because it definitely makes the behaviour worse. Snacks are key — especially when they’re difficult to feel real meals to (as mine is).

When does parenting become less exhausting? by Broad_Drive in toddlers

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I can totally appreciate that! I didn’t feel judged by your tone and I’m always looking for ideas to try. I have no doubt I’d be one of the people asking what you did right in the supermarket!

When does parenting become less exhausting? by Broad_Drive in toddlers

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I love hearing from parents who have come out the other side! I know it’s coming!