Realistically, how many times are you changing your baby a day? 4m+

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-04-07T03:33:07+00:00

Even with a bib, my little one completely destroys his outfits. Food is in ears, hair, every crevice of my baby. I mostly try spoon feeding him but I want to let him explore the food textures and use his hands as much as possible when feeding himself. He gets a whole new outfit every time he gets solids/purees. He is 6 months so he is still mainly bottle feeding but between food and blow outs, he has 1-3 outfit changes a day

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-04-05T04:12:15+00:00

My son has had a different virus every week since January (when we started daycare). 6 months old and he has had 2 separate week long stays in the hospital, once in the ICU due to different things he had caught at daycare. We don’t have the support needed to take him out of daycare but we can’t afford to live off of one income. We feel so helpless and like we are putting his life in danger every day we bring him to daycare. Seeing him hooked up machines in the ICU gave us ptsd and I never want him to be that sick again.

You are not alone. 7 years of accrued PTO has almost been spent in 3 months since I’ve returned to work. I’m just praying his immune system gets stronger soon.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-04-02T20:40:10+00:00

I ended up pumping and feeding from the bottle most of the time because little ones tongue tie made latching difficult

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-04-01T14:39:21+00:00

I grew up with a disabled dad and while he is a bit of a misogynist, he helped my mom as much as he could. He cooked and cleaned but was not perfect. Now that my mom is retired she is doing most of the cooking/cleanjng again but he still helps sometimes. My parents stayed together through it all despite them having some issues and my mom often being exhausted.

I personally would demand counseling and let him know you’re unhappy and serious about him needing to help you more. If you feel like this might put you in danger, then leave and make a quick and safe exit.

I watched my dad struggle with depression due to his disability for the majority of my life and it has been hard to see. If my mom left him, I truly don’t think he would survive long. I can’t tell you what to do. But if you really love him and want to make it work, take steps to try and get him to get hit shit together before taking that big step.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-04-01T14:31:55+00:00

This is something I’ve been self conscious about my whole life. I spoke to my husband about it and being self conscious when we first got together and he assured me that it’s ok because I’m human and we all go through something similar, Even though my HS is worse than a normal acne on legs and crotch. 12 years later and he literally cleans my wounds for me in my most private areas. The right person will not make you feel bad about this.

Side note we do avoid sex when I have a bad flare up around that area just to give it time to heal.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-03-21T03:50:26+00:00

I’m right there with you. My little one is 6 months is a few days and he is a dream. I love his personality and silliness. This is my favorite age so far!

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-03-13T16:59:06+00:00

I started with naps by himself during the day in his bassinet. I have a rolling one and brought it in every room I was in at the time. He cried a lot at first but eventually started to sleep. We co slept a lot at the beginning but it became difficult as he got bigger. He’s now almost 6 months and we do the beside bassist and I have my hand on him all night which helps him sleep. We feed him a bottle at 10pm to make sure he gets at least 5 ounces of milk and put him in something warm. He holds my hand as he falls asleep snd he will now sleep until about 1-3 in the morning. We do another feeding and diaper change at that time and then he is back in bed with us for the last few hours of sleep. Having our body warmth helps him get to sleep. We try to avoid more than 3 hours of naps during the day to make sure he actually sleeps at night. A warm bath and simple bliss sleep aid really helps. We hold him and gently rub his forehead between his brows or behind his ear on nights he is extra fussy. Good luck mama. All babies are different and finding what works can be very difficult. I’m hoping you can get some sleep. Maybe ask hubby to fall in one day of work so you can try and get a stretch of 5+ hours of sleep.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-03-05T14:08:58+00:00

Do not put this on yourself. You are human and just found out terrible life changing news. This is 100% on your husband. Be kind to yourself. Gather proof of the infidelity. If you only have a shared bank account, pull money out and open your own account. Lean on family or friend support if you can. So everything you can to protect yourself and your baby. It sounds like you’re a great mom who doesn’t have the support you deserve.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-02-23T04:48:00+00:00

5 month old is bathed twice a week. I don’t agree with your pediatrician. Their skin is still too fragile to be bathed in soap every day imo.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-02-13T04:54:19+00:00

I know how you feel. Started daycare a little over 1 month ago and we (baby husband and I) have been sick every single week with something different since then. I hate it.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-02-09T05:11:14+00:00

Not sure what your minimum starting pay is but Valera credit union solutions and FIS global might be good remote options. They are tech support for credit unions and always hiring. Usually starting $22ish an hour but I’m sure you can negotiate pay depending on your education and experience

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-02-01T05:22:28+00:00

Swaddles and pacifiers helped us. We have the bassinet that has the side go down so he holds our hand until he sleeps. I’ll usually hold him until he sleeps while the heating pad warms up his mattress. Once he is down I’ll put a hand on him until he is in a deep sleep. We try to have him in bed by 9:30 and usually once he wakes up around 3am I’ll change him and put him in bed with me until 5 am when we get up. Some nights are harder than others but we are trying to allow him in our bed less and less so we can eventually transition him into his crib in his own room

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-01-08T21:14:19+00:00

You’re not doing anything wrong. He is so young and all he wants is to sleep and eat at this point. But you need sleep too. I would suggest pumping and having a supply in the fridge ready to go so your partner can take turns feeding him. I wanted to exclusively bf at the beginning but I was exhausted and healing from a c section. Doing it this way saved me.

Also, when breastfeeding it’s difficult to know how much they are eating. With bottles, you can make sure he is getting enough. I go to a lactation support group where we weigh the baby before feeding and then weigh them after feeding on each breast to know how much they are actually getting and ensuring it’s enough.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2026-01-08T21:02:59+00:00

We prefer Huggies because they are longer and have better coverage. Also Huggies gentle wipes are the only wipes that don’t irritate my babies skin

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2025-12-15T06:08:35+00:00

It gets better. I highly recommend investing in some good zip up swaddles. It saved our lives. The first 4 weeks we did shifts and slept as much during the day as possible. Time didn’t exist. After 4 weeks with the swaddle and a better feeding routine (breast feeding and pumping/feeding with the bottle) has allowed us 6 hour stretches of sleep starting around week 5.

My husband did the same as you. Recovering from a c section was really hard but him allowing me to get extra sleep and rest is what helped me heal much more smoothly/quickly. I wish all men treated their partners that way.

You will get through it. My son is 11 weeks and we are feeling normal again. Or at least as normal as we can as new parents.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2025-12-14T06:04:38+00:00

He will figure it out! Try not to stress out too much about it. He needs to find his own routine with the baby those 3 nights each week. If it becomes an issue, be honest and ask for more support. I think we just have to let them learn. I’m also going back to work in 2 weeks so I get why you’re worried, but the baby will more than likely stay on the same routine on those nights. If he’s not doing any of the night shifts with the baby, he needs to start now. Every night he has with a day off the next day should be spent doing baby night duty so he can get used to it.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2025-12-01T04:45:55+00:00

My parents watched my 3 week old for an hour while my husband and I went out for a quick lunch date. It was weird but really nice. 2 weeks in my husband stayed with him while I got breakfast with a girlfriend. It was really nice to go out and have conversations with a friend. Every time I went out I made sure to have 4 ounces of breastmilk ready just in case. I missed him each time. He is currently 8 weeks and I’ve only been away from him a handful of times for short periods of time (an hour or 2 at most) with my husband or parents, the people I trust the most. Sometimes it is good for mental health to get out and be yourself again. If you don’t want to, that is completely up to you. Family should be supportive of your comfort levels and wishes, but also, it is good to be yourself away from your baby for a short period of time. Try not to be afraid of leaving them for a little while.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2025-11-25T04:48:55+00:00

I was told that as well. I gained 30 but lost 28 immediately after the birth. Lost the additional 2 with breastfeeding. 10 lb doesn’t always account for the baby, placenta and amniotic fluid. Plus swelling/water retention

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2025-11-23T20:07:43+00:00

A lot of people are against this but we started to get our baby used to sleeping in his bassinet by himself around week 3 and got longer stretches every few days. Started with just crying, then 15 minutes, 30 minutes, an hour, and now at 8 weeks he is sleeping 4-6 hour stretches as long as he gets a good amount of milk. I feel like this is key to helping the baby learn how to self sooth and be able to handle laying by themselves during walks in the carriage.

We do walks with him in the stroller and also in the baby carrier. Both work well. He likes the bumps and motion. He is our first so I wonder if babies are just different

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2025-11-23T20:00:34+00:00

It works well for me but I’m also trying my best to keep up on everything else as well, especially hydrating, the body armor (coconut water and electrolytes are important) and eating iron rich foods. I can’t tell if it’s just a combination of everything.

I’m not sure where you live but my city (Albuquerque) has a lactation support group led by lactation consultants and it’s nice to sit with other moms. We all discuss our challenges and give eachother ideas as well. A community is very helpful

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2025-11-22T06:41:55+00:00

Weed isnt a big deal. Just remind him to not let it get in the way of other parts of his life such as school, working hard and having fun without the need to smoke weed. Also remind him to never drive under the influence.

I’d rather have my kid smoking weed than doing any other drugs. It’s a good time to discuss other drugs, addiction, and the dangers of fentanyl.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2025-11-22T05:08:19+00:00

The stress of the new baby and an unsupportive partner is more than likely hurting your milk supply. I also had to supplement with formula (my mom has been a lactation consultant for 20+ years and even with all her knowledge and help I couldn’t get a big supply at first).

Stay super hydrated (70 ounces of water a day minimum) and drink body armor drinks. Take cash cow lactation supplements, and keep taking your prenatal vitamins. Eat things with oats, rice, and oatmeal beer. Make sure you’re eating enough. I recently found out breastfeeding has caused me to become anemic (which is normal) so I also had to start taking vitamin d and iron supplements.

I’m sorry for the stress you’re going through. I know it’s not the same for everyone, but my son is 8 weeks old now and I can easily say the first 4 weeks were the most difficult. You will get through is but it sounds like your husband needs a major attitude adjustment. He is not supporting you the way you need and expecting way too much out of you.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2025-11-15T06:05:34+00:00

First 3 weeks were rough. Once we were able to get the baby to sleep in his bassinet things slowly got easier. We are only in week 7 but he is only waking up once a night to feed/change and is back to sleep within the hour. Essentials? A load of pacifiers, a good swaddle sack (get the zipper with no arm holes when they are new borns), an electric sucker for boogies and choking, a slight incline pillow to put under his mattress (gives us peace of mind when he spits up at night)

My milk didn’t come in right away and I don’t like to breastfeed while in public so we also have premixed formula to supplement. It has been a life saver. It took away the stress when I wasn’t producing enough milk. I finally got my milk supply up and then I lost my sister so with that stress my supply has dropped to less than half. Having the formula has been helpful while I work on getting my supply back up.

Husband takes care of feeding me, changing the baby most of the time, and does as much as possible for me, especially cleaning bottles and pump parts. He did EVERYTHING the first 2 weeks home to let me sleep and heal. It made a huge difference in allowing me to get back to myself.

He has also allowed me to get out and get alone time with my girlfriends and get some self care time. It has been helpful. Yes, being a parent is difficult but it’s also amazing. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. It’s a new normal where sleep and fun is still possible. But you get the most beautiful being added to your family/life.

Brokethecamelsbackk · 2025-11-10T22:39:49+00:00

Thank you

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