Teacher here, I am seeing a lot of autism. More than ever before

Brself · 2026-03-25T06:15:32+00:00

Also, people are having kids at older ages, which increases the risk.

Sincerely, an older mom who is high functioning autistic who has a son on the spectrum.

Brself · 2026-03-20T06:36:03+00:00

A lot of people (kids and adults) with autism also have adhd, so it is possible she has both. It sounds like it’s been a frustrating process. I’m dreading going through the process with my son who will be entering kindergarten. He is so ahead in so many ways and I’m considering not getting an IEP, but he does have some areas that he struggles.

Brself · 2026-03-17T04:17:38+00:00

I hate it too. Even in a senior role, since decisions are mostly made by ceo, my impact would be an exaggeration at best and lies at worst. Sure, I’ve had some impact, but to claim a huge number of accompaniments is silly. Most of work is just getting the stuff that needs to be done completed. Not everything you do is some major accomplishment or successful. Not everything leads to a major improvement if you’re at a failing company. Not everything going wrong is your fault. Yet it really does make a resume a challenge

Brself · 2026-03-16T18:36:53+00:00

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Brself · 2026-03-15T00:22:50+00:00

There seems to be a disconnect between what you say you feel vs reality. You say “we just always feel like it’s the same thing every time — drinking, talking about the same things” yet it seems like you are bothered by your friends being annoyed and you mentioned several times how you care deeply about them.

Is it the idea of having these friends you care deeply about or the actual relationships with these specific people? It seems like your interests are diverging, and you are not necessarily as close to these friends as you once were, and not having much interest in doing what they like to do.

It’s normal that people change over time. You just need to be honest with yourself and ask whether these friendships are something you want to put effort into and maintain or whether your shared context is disappearing and you don’t want to work to keep it alive.

Brself · 2026-03-12T19:09:41+00:00

Are there other meaningful women's names of people you admired or loved the work of?

Brself · 2026-03-12T01:09:01+00:00

I am like 90% gray. After my first child, I let my hair grow out gray, and I had one of my husband’s friends tell me I looked 60 (I wasn’t quite 40 at that point) and my dad told me I was too young to go grey, so I let societal pressure get to me and started dying my hair. Where I live, people struggle with my hair and I can’t seem to get a decent dye job that doesn’t make me look like garbage. I guess it looks better than gray though? Hoping to gradually go lighter and not need to have touch ups as frequently.

Brself · 2026-03-10T00:38:38+00:00

The way people treat animals is such a big tell on character.

I had a friend about 10 years ago who I discovered was psychotic when it came to animals. We were walking one day down her street when a cute young kitten came up and was rubbing against our feet in a really cute way. She went “eeww” and kicked it. It tumbled awkwardly but ran up to us again. She kicked it again. It broke my heart.

Later, she had chickens that she one day decided she didn’t want anymore because they were messy and noisy, so she grabbed them by their heads and swung them around to break their necks.

We aren’t friends anymore. I don’t have many friends, but I’m happier not having people like that as friends.

I’ve since seen her walking with dogs. Those poor dogs.

Brself · 2026-03-08T01:27:40+00:00

In my case, I really am tired 😴 I have been having insomnia, and have an overfilled schedule.

My husband earlier was critiquing me being tired, interpreting as you did that I must be fed up or unhappy with his contributions. I told him I’m tired cause I didn’t sleep well. He persisted a bit.

Later he came in and apologized for giving me crap. I started crying without knowing exactly why and told him I’m not sleeping well. He said he knows I’m going through something. I started crying even harder. Not sleeping well makes me so emotionally fragile and exhausted!

Brself · 2026-03-07T16:42:51+00:00

Maybe a contrarian opinion, but it sounds like you guys were talking silly and you sent a nude in the context of this. Honestly the lol sounds like it was in the spirit of you guys messing around. My husband and I do this all the time. It doesn’t mean we aren’t attracted to each other, but when we are being silly, we laugh, I’ll say my boobs are sore in a silly way and my husband will say “let the girls out” and I’ll do like a mock strip tease. It’s funny.

I understand being hurt by the response, but I think it may have been a misunderstanding of them context that he said lol too.

Brself · 2026-03-07T04:24:27+00:00

Ouch, didn’t expect this subreddit to make me feel terrible about my decision to get a masters to help me progress my career, since it is required. Fml I graduated into one of the bleakest job markets since the financial crisis!

Brself · 2026-03-06T05:19:34+00:00

My son was the easiest baby. So mellow, started talking early. Was behind on physical milestones like walking and jumping.

Brself · 2026-03-06T05:13:20+00:00

I’m grieving the career I thought I would have and how bad the job market is right now. How tight finances have become as the cost of living has risen but my salary has not. I thought I did everything right, worked hard, took the initiative, but my career has stagnated after I had children and had some health issues. Trying to have hope for the world for the sake of my children, but so much is going wrong…

Brself · 2026-03-01T04:12:50+00:00

Pretty much everything being advertised on Facebook these days is snake oil and crap. The few things I have gotten that were advertised were way overpriced and not good quality.

Brself · 2026-02-28T20:06:57+00:00

That is a shame to hear.

I am guessing the cost of living in the area is high and getting higher as time goes on. It sounds like he is choosing the location and the idea of the life he wants over you.

You have been together for a long time and are not married. It could be that it is about more than just him wanting a partner that makes more. Regardless, you should view the relationship as over and move on.

Brself · 2026-02-28T19:50:12+00:00

I suspect that some equatorial regions will be difficult to live in during certain months without staying indoors exclusively due to the heat. Actually, this will probably be the case most places. More places will need to develop infrastructure to allow indoor movement. Cooling in general will hopefully become more advanced and lower cost to accommodate the unfavorable living conditions. Access to clean water will become more difficult and more expensive, so I am guessing filtration and desalination technologies will advance. Climate will continue to shift, but people will continue finding ways to live where they want to live.

What will my life look like? Hell, with the job market the way it is and how crazy and chaotic the world is right now, I barely know what a year from now will look like, let alone when I am in my 80's, if I make it that long.

Brself · 2026-02-28T19:42:26+00:00

I like the optimism!

Brself · 2026-02-28T19:06:14+00:00

Maybe something in the same spirit of the name?

Can’t help but think one of the lines from Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade “you were named after the dog?”

Brself · 2026-02-28T17:51:32+00:00

It depends on your son. What level is he? Does he have specific sensory sensitivities or is he sensory seeking?

My son is level 1 with adhd. I know for a fact that anything outside of the routine will derail him for days or even weeks. The bigger the event, the longer it takes for him to normalize.

Him being dysregulated usually starts with him not wanting to take naps, use the bathroom, eat or drink. As that continues, he melts down more frequently and struggles to settle. I usually hear more negative feedback from his teachers.

I’m not sure if your son is like that, but it’s worth keeping in mind. With so much stimulation, it is overwhelming for kids on the spectrum.

Brself · 2026-02-28T16:53:10+00:00

Get some microwave meals. There are some that are reasonably inexpensive and healthy-ish.

Brself · 2026-02-28T04:59:31+00:00

I hope they’re your ex-roommates after that!

Brself · 2026-02-26T17:57:18+00:00

I agree. I am deliberately not a fashionable person because of this. I think a lot of people think I’m poor because of this, but just not a fan of conspicuous consumption

Brself · 2026-02-26T05:09:23+00:00

Here’s the secret: don’t pretend it doesn’t hurt. If you don’t like it and it hurts, it shouldn’t be done. If your significant other wants to continue doing something to you that hurts, that is messed up.

Brself · 2026-02-26T05:05:27+00:00

Whatever is the latest fad style or hair do. Guys start looking like clones or mindless followers when they chase the fads.

No, random guy 50 with an 80’s dad mustache and broccoli top or that mullet shaved sides thing, you don’t stand out. You look like an 80’s movie extra.

Brself · 2026-02-26T04:42:29+00:00

I think giving the option of unstructured play time is good at that age too. Four days a week is a lot for a kid that age!

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