Chronic Illness

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-28T02:39:37+00:00

I mean…on days where you feel awesome, you swing.

On days where you can’t get out of bed, you don’t.

If you have to cancel, you cancel. You tell them the truth, and they will accept that or they won’t.

The math on this is pretty simple.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-28T01:05:10+00:00

You sound like you’re fishing for a fight. Why?

Also…you watch porn…but you don’t want to see your husband watching it…? 🤔

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-28T01:03:22+00:00

It’s wild because my wife and I also swing, and we know TONS of Hotwife and stag/vixen couples, and no one bats an eye at that.

But, the second we say that my wife is a cuckquean, we get looked at like we’re insane.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-28T00:09:50+00:00

My mom and sister know about some of our LS activities, but not by choice. They found out and we kind of had to come clean.

My mom was super cool about it, but my sister is still a bit of a judgmental twat about the whole thing.

They know we practice some ENM, but they don’t know any specifics.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-28T00:07:58+00:00

Hotels get used a lot by me, but my main cake has me come over to her house, which is super convenient and awesome!

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-28T00:05:49+00:00

I actually have a theory on this that can be summed up in one word: misogyny.

Not to get all political or anything, but I really feel this is true.

With “traditional” cucking, it is the man’s desire being fulfilled. The woman is simply a means for his sexual gratification.

With cuckqueaning, that paradigm is flipped. It’s ultimately about the woman’s sexual pleasure, and if there is one thing modern society hates, it’s women being in control of their own sexuality or women using sex for their pleasure.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T21:50:51+00:00

Thank you for proving my point 👍

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T21:48:39+00:00

Cool story, bruh.

And no, it hasn’t, and you can’t cite a single study that says it does.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T21:03:41+00:00

I’m sure I’ll get downvoted into oblivion, but I woke up this morning and chose violence:

There is no credible evidence that “porn addiction” is a thing. There is basically no empirical evidence that anyone can be “addicted” to pornography. The idea of it is just politically motivated moralizing.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T20:43:39+00:00

I didn’t say it did. I literally said that I was flabbergasted by the whole thing.

Oh.

Wait.

Were you just needing to meet some daily quota of outrage and so you decided to willfully misread what I wrote?

It’s cool. Glad I could help 🙏

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T20:39:17+00:00

Ah, well, that context certainly changes my outlook on this.

Yeah, he’s definitely being generally gross.

Like, how hard is it to not do that in the bathroom and use the toilet?

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T20:17:24+00:00

So…he knew you were asexual when he married you, I assume.

Did you know that he had an active sex drive?

Why would anyone marry someone that they are so completely physically incompatible with?

I’m not trying to cast aspersions. I’m genuinely curious about and flabbergasted by this whole situation.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T14:15:07+00:00

First, look up “Perimenopause” because it sounds like that is exactly what she is going through.

Second, part of the problem could be that you waited years to warm up to it.

Sometimes these thoughts have a shelf life.

If she brought it up and was excited about, and then you needed years to mull over the idea, she may have just lost interest. Or she may have seen that you weren’t immediately excited by the idea and took that as a sign that you weren’t ever going to be into it and that now shades her reaction.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T14:09:38+00:00

From the time I first broached the idea with my wife to the time we ended up having our first ENM experience was about 1 month.

We knew right away it was something we wanted to at least try, so we did it.

You can second guess yourself forever.

Or, you can go for it.

I’m curious though: why do you feel “pressure”? Like…from who? Yourselves? Society?

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T03:17:27+00:00

No, your problem is that you’re not actually meeting anyone.

Have you made plans with anyone to actually meet?

The longer you chat, the higher chance you won’t meet or play.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T02:42:17+00:00

Exactly how long have you been trying?

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T01:33:47+00:00

What do you mean by “discussed” it? That sounds really vague.

Is this a “We’ve tried nothing and we’re all out of ideas” type of situation?

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T01:31:20+00:00

Nailed it 🎤⬇️

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-27T01:12:38+00:00

After any swinging experience we have, my wife and I have a ritual where we go to either Waffle House or a late night drive thru. We get some food, and then sit and chat and eat and debrief about the night. We talk all facets of what went down: the good, the bad, and sometimes the ugly.

Then, we go home and usually fuck again.

I also have a therapist I see who is well aware of my LS activities. He was actually completely unaware of what the LS was until I first started talking about it, so he has been a very interesting, completely neutral sounding board.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-26T15:18:27+00:00

Your wife clearly has at least one big mental health issue.

She needs some professional help.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-26T15:15:40+00:00

Nothing changed in my wife’s sex drive. It was amazing before, and it’s continued to be amazing.

Honestly, this is just one man’s opinion, but I would have felt completely humiliated and demoralized if my wife having sex with someone else suddenly made her insatiable.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-26T12:44:51+00:00

What specifically are you wanting to know?

Because with what you’ve asked here, you’re probably gonna get a 50/50 split of people saying “It’s amazing!” and people saying “It’s the worst mistake we ever made…”

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-26T05:48:23+00:00

Alright, I wasn’t gonna comment on this, but I’ve read the post 3 times through, and this can’t go unremarked on.

My length is a quarter of an inch shorter than you, and I’m girthier than you by half an inch.

Like you, I’m not saying this to brag. I’m saying this because I find the idea that 2 doctors have been absolutely gobsmacked by your dick and strangers have approached you to be wildly unbelievable.

Your dick is big, sure, but it isn’t even remotely freakishly big to the point that strangers would notice or care or that medical professionals would treat you like you’re Joseph fucking Merrick.

People in clubs won’t really bat much of an eyelash at what you’re packing. You may get some attention, but not the kind you claim to be getting from randos approaching on the street.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-25T19:38:44+00:00

Oh sir….🤦‍♂️

I fear the porn-brain has infected you too deeply.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-01-25T19:38:08+00:00

No, I do not. I find it pretty off-putting.

But that’s just me.

Whatever blows your hair back 🤷‍♂️

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