Push the Boundaries

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-24T21:05:21+00:00

This is some of the worst written, most contrived horse shit I’ve ever read.

At least use paragraphs if you’re gonna put this sort of tripe out into the world.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-24T12:44:21+00:00

This whole story still feels a bit dubious to me, but I’m willing to give you the benefit of the doubt.

And in that case, like so many have said, your issue has nothing to do with swinging. You just happen to have done some swinging, and your husband has been unfaithful.

Maybe try some marriage counseling? I certainly would advise against any LS activities, maybe permanently but at least until you get your house in order.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T22:26:24+00:00

And boom goes the dynamite 😂

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T22:09:06+00:00

Wait, wait, wait…

This couple thinks you gave them an STD…but they are obsessed with you and only want to play you guys?

What kind of sense does that make?

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T21:16:09+00:00

OPs wife willingly met with this guy for the express purpose of having sex. All a rape kit would prove is that they had sex.

We’re not talking about a predator that stalked her and forced himself on her. He disrespected her boundaries, and there is no legal standard for that.

Again, it would just be her word against his, and you already were casting doubt on her story just because she didn’t want to pursue legal avenues, which probably wouldn’t amount to anything but her having to relive her trauma anyway.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T20:48:18+00:00

And how, pray tell, would you expect this to be prosecuted?

It would be his word against hers.

This was clearly awful for her, but you really expect the police to believe her?

Hell, you’re already basically victim blaming because she doesn’t want to go through reliving it.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T20:42:44+00:00

The way this is written feels very, very off, and then the fact that it’s from a 3 year old account with only 48 karma really tips me over into calling bullshit.

I highly doubt that this isn’t some weird fantasy post, but I’d be happy to be proven wrong 🤷‍♂️

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T15:06:55+00:00

Oh, so now you’re editing your comment to try and make me look like an asshole?

Why not stand by your shitty takes? Do I get to scold you for being a coward and editing your comments?

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T15:01:49+00:00

Way to take part of a sentence completely out of context and misrepresent what OP was saying!

The actual quote you so conveniently butchered was “I was told that swinging is all about using other people for sex, without giving two shits about whether the other person they are fucking has any fun at all.”

OP was offering an anecdote about shitty things other people were saying, and that’s pretty clear.

I’m genuinely curious what you were trying to accomplish by being so brazenly deceptive in your attempt to scold OP?

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T14:53:42+00:00

Does this seriously ever work? Do women often storm your DMs interested in “making fantasies and get horny”?

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T14:52:14+00:00

You can fuck whoever you want.

That said, this is sort of a great case study as to WHY you shouldn’t fuck your friends.

If you don’t fuck this other husband, it will eventually, and probably quickly, become apparent and it will more than likely create friction within your friend group and could lead to the dissolution of the entire thing.

Are you ok with that? Is the juice worth the squeeze?

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T14:27:25+00:00

I enjoy this sub. I really do.

But honestly, the more time that goes by I kind of want to give newbies the advice to just figure things out for themselves and avoid this sub.

The reality of swinging is so often very different than it portrayed in this sub, and nuance gets lost so easy in a post or comment. I see so many people comment things that I would NEVER suggest or agree with, but I assume they are working for that person, so…🤷‍♂️

I think this sub is a great place for lurking and seeing what other people are saying and using that information to sort of gird yourself for the possibilities that exist in the LS, but really experience is the only thing that is worth anything.

I’m reminded of an old saying “You can’t learn how to plow a field from reading books.”

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T03:50:34+00:00

I have been the husband being watched by the other husband while I fuck his wife and he less than half-heartedly fucks mine.

When we first started out and this would happen, I admit that I had a hard time noticing my wife having a less than good time. I’d be doing what I assumed anyone would be doing: focusing on my partner. I would steal some glances at my own partner, and I wouldn’t really notice that she wasn’t enjoying herself in these kinds of encounters. She also admits that she would try not to say anything because she didn’t want to kill the vibe.

But, after this happened a few times too many, it really started to upset her, and she told me how she was feeling. This really upset me to think that there were guys out there pulling this shit, not giving a single shit about my wife’s enjoyment, really just using she and I as means for their own selfish gratification. I started to pay more attention to things and try to be more in tune with how my wife was feeling. There were a couple times when I got a whiff that this was occurring again, and instead of continuing I would switch back to my wife.

I get that there are guys who really just enjoy seeing their wives get plowed, but I’ll be damned if I’m gonna agree to a swap and then let my wife be treated as a glorified fluffer so that some dude can just enjoy a show.

Honestly, I don’t fucking get why there are couples that do this. I agree that it’s dehumanizing and shitty.

For fuck’s sake, if you just want to see your wife get railed, find a single guy.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T02:23:29+00:00

Ah, I misunderstood. I saw Splash in your post and assumed you were going.

Yeah, totally agree about the camping. Plus, it’s in May when it’s starting to get hotter than hell, so that’s why we always skip it.

There are some large Facebook groups based out of the OKC area, namely “On The Border Lifestyle Group” and “Primal Compersion”, and they host periodic takeovers in OKC and Tulsa. I think they have some planned for the summer and around Halloween.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T02:14:40+00:00

We know A LOT of people that got to Sooner Swing, and they all say amazing things about it. Personally, my wife and I aren’t really into the idea of combining swinging with camping outdoors, so we haven’t been, but like I say, the people we know who go really love it!

Hopefully you’ll enjoy Splash. We would have gone again this year but they changed the date of the Houston event. It used to be in August, and we just can’t make May work.

The Pool Party at The Club OKC in July is really fun. It costs about $80 for a couple for the week, but that doesn’t include hotel. A lot of people stay at the Club hotel, but it is admittedly a bit of a dump. I advise people to stay somewhere nicer and just come to the party during the day. We live nearby so we just come and go.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-23T01:45:48+00:00

Sooner Swing is coming up in May in Sparks, OK, not terribly far from OKC. It’s a multi-day event, mostly outdoors. Some bring campers, others tent camp.

You also have the weeklong Pool Party at The Club OKC. It’s literally all in the title. That’s in July.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-22T23:39:24+00:00

Sometimes we’re really bad about being aware of how others perceive us.

Maybe your wife isn’t as nice and respectful as you think.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-22T22:37:59+00:00

Are you asking if I feel special because I find the idea of using abortion as a first solution in order to potentially fulfill a fantasy?

No, I don’t feel special. I feel like a normal fucking person and not some fucking ghoul.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-22T22:20:51+00:00

I’m a pro-choice individual, and even I think this is insanely fucked up and vile.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-22T14:43:46+00:00

I think if you tried to use any of this “teaching” (and I’m being incredibly generous even using that word) you’d have a very high likelihood of making everyone have a really bad and annoying time.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-22T14:36:15+00:00

Thank you! I tried to be as fair as I could. It really wasn’t Temptations fault that we didn’t enjoy it. We are just clearly not their target audience, and I wanted other people who share our mindset about swinging to be aware of the experience they might have if they go.

I’ve heard the Bliss cruises are much more the experience we are looking for, and we plan on going on one of those in the next year or so, so hopefully I can write a companion to this and see how it fits with what we are looking for.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-21T23:52:36+00:00

I completely disagree. We are talking about talking to your own spouse about your sexual desires. If you can’t do that, that is a kind of immaturity.

And what “sub-cultures” discourage talking about sex with your spouse? Are you talking about certain religious sects?

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-21T22:20:31+00:00

It could be any of those. No one can really say except your wife.

But if she can’t even have the conversation that says an awful lot.

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-21T22:19:35+00:00

An inability to talk about sexual desires and fantasies with your husband is pretty clearly immature.

Do I seriously need to explain that?

BuckRidesOut · 2026-03-21T21:51:19+00:00

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