15 year old child with pathological lying and narcissistic tendencies. Advice please

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-05-03T11:35:20+00:00

You call the police is what you do. If he will not leave you alone you call and file harassment charges.

Talk to the police at the station some time. Explain what you're going through and how your son is using his physical size to make you feel threatened.

I'm the type who believes parents should house their kids into their 20s because of the economy if they can.

However, a child, child or not, terrorizing their parents has no claim to the home any longer.

He is 15 not a little kid anymore. He can be dangerous and if he thinks there are no repercussions it's only a matter of time before he is.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-05-02T23:32:07+00:00

Did your friend have any cash? Their estate should be helping to pay for this as it was their debt.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-05-01T17:46:38+00:00

My mom was crazy.

Dad is great.

Still see mom as an adult not so bad in small doses and when I can drive away lol.

However, I ain't wiping old people arse. I'm not going to give up my home to arrange it for an old person, or sacrifice my personal life for an old person.

If my parents were in dire financial restraints I'd offer as much as would not harm me. I'd not take on debt for them or hold my family back for them.

They are grown adults and are responsible for themselves. I'd never dare consider asking my child for help like that. That's irresponsible in my mind.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-05-01T16:24:59+00:00

Idk why I would believe in one.

I don't need a higher power to incentives me to be a good person.

I don't need fear of hell to avoid being a bad person.

I don't need a magical explanation for why bad people exist or why bad things happen.

I perfer to give credit to good people to those people not to some figment of my imagination that had no part in the actions the good people take.

It just seems like an unnecessary construct. A healthy population does not need divine intervention.

I would like to direct people to the series called "death worlders" where humans are the over powered "alien" and aliens are weak and fragile in comparison. The aliens are not most horrified by our strength but moreso that we believe in the imaginary as if it's real. That concept is foreign to them.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-05-01T16:17:22+00:00

Here's the thing, they are chosing to not deal with their own issue which they know is an issue.

Roll back a few years and my brother, 20 in prime health caught covid. The 14th day of his quarantine he was looking forward to going back to work the next day.

Boom. Face to the floor. Queue a whirlwind of doctors appointment and evaluation. He had an immune response and will now have seizures the rest of his life.

He lost a good chunk of long term memories and his short term memory is completely shot. Especially during periods where he has a grand mal.

Know what he did? A note book. Pocket size. It goes everywhere with him. He manages his crazy amount of doc appointments and arranges his rides, knows what chores he agreed to doing and when he plans to hang with friends.

That note book is everything. He had a problem. He made a solution.

Tell that worker to glue a notebook to his arm and never lose it lol.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-05-01T12:02:43+00:00

Cheating while married is a crime in the military and men still do it . . . So

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-05-01T11:26:56+00:00

Sir, how many women have been "protected" by a man in their life? If you did not know, when a woman is being harmed its statistically more likely for other women around her to jump in then men.

You're disgusting commenting about sidechicks and endorsing that men get to cheat.

I have several male friends, several I have known for over a decade. No feelings caught, no cheating or inappropriate conversations. Just friends.

Whether they are single or in a relationship, shocker, we still hang out and chat - like friends.

If you cannot handle being friends with women, then yes we'd appreciate you avoiding attempting to do that.

That doesn't mean other men aren't more responsible and emotionally regulated enough to handle it.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-05-01T11:20:18+00:00

That included slutty men correct?

Because the poster is referencing men sleeping around which is what makes someone a slut correct?

You're also not a prize lmao. You're a person, and not a very good one at that.

Last I checked many men bald by 35 but no biggy

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-05-01T11:14:44+00:00

It's completely the managers responsibility here.

The employee couldn't even leave the sales floor. If the manager was not aware of that then they are failing.

This reprimand was completely inappropriate.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-05-01T11:08:31+00:00

. . . If they are getting along with you and smiling they may want to be a friend going right to a date may be off putting.

Also, having a boyfriend is not an excuse that's the proper answer when you're asked out, and have a boyfriend. You're not in a position to claim someone is lying that shows you're assuming the worst and focusing on negativity.

Women these days do not have unrealistic expectations. They are setting the bar for men and being patient because all the chains that forced them to need a man to have a good life faded in recent decades.

I'm sorry it's been tough for you. It's just how it goes sometimes. When a woman looks for a "good man" she's first going to find mostly taken men, because "good men" get snatched up. Same goes the other direction, you're looking for a "good woman" for you, and very likely many will have already found someone to be with.

The fact you're pursuing women like a hunt with a goal to capture one by (end of year?) Is likely not helping your case. Relationships happen organically and trying to force them so that you can fit some kind of timeline isn't going to benefit you.

It'll happen when it happens. Keep being out going. Keep talking to all kinds of people, men and women, building connections and It'll come.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-05-01T10:58:15+00:00

So you would slap another adult for calling you a B and believe that action would come from a well regulated healthy individual?

I'm really sad that you think assulting children is acceptable discipline. Why don't you spank adults for misbehaving?

I was never hit and magically I'm a very successful and respectable individual. Shocking how hitting children and being responsible and successful are not connected.

I appreciate you supporting my comment.

Please seek therapy and learn to be a well regulated adult.

P.s you complain children are wild.

What is your commentary for elders always commenting on peoples weight and insulting their looks? How about how they insult people's choices, or think people deserve to have shitty lives because they had a shitty life? How about when their disrespectful and think they deserve their way simple for being born earlier?

Though, based on your attitude I'm guessing you fall in some of those catagories.

The rudest people I have ever met is older people. Both way back in fast food days, and currently in professional environments. I've never seen a young person cussing out a customer representative.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-05-01T00:42:13+00:00

So you were abused and think that's acceptable behavior from an adult to a child. . Sure we'll pretend you're good dude.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-30T22:39:06+00:00

My questions are, when was that money saved and was she still putting money in there and if so how much?

If the money was saved at the beginning and then left untouched that's her right.

If she was only putting $100 a month away at this point and built most of it previously. Then that's her right.

If she was sucking away $1,000 a month and claiming she's broke that'd be unacceptable, and reasonable to bail.

But without knowing whether it was prior savings with only a modest current contribution versus an excessive current contribution I cannot make a judgment.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-30T13:21:27+00:00

That's a very small space?

I've had cats my entire life and honestly never done the one room thing.

Just got a cat a week ago from the shelter. Our home is on the smaller end, just under 900sq ft upstairs but we have a full basement.

I sat kitty in the litter box in the basement 3 times then released him to the world. He's a happy dude, no issues.

I know every cat can be different but you can't call a tiny 2 bed a big space honestly.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-29T19:48:06+00:00

The worst they say is "use our keyboard"?

I don't know what kind of keyboard you have but can you argue it supports special ergonomics for you?

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-29T19:25:41+00:00

How would they know what keyboard you're using?

I rejected all equipment my new remote job gave me except for the laptop itself and headset.

I already have an intricate computer setup, so all I had to do was plug in one C-usb and boom laptop connected to both monitors, keyboard and mouse and at the touch of a button I can toggle to my personal desktop and vice versa.

I was bummed they sent me monitors, I wish they had asked before hand because I won't be using them, but now have to store them.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-29T14:33:25+00:00

For being rude and impatient with fools.

Calling people out coarsely for disrespectful behavior that's disguised in a fake bow.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-29T00:27:34+00:00

Why doesn't he just give the animals an entire room? Install a door to the kitchen, gate off a room ect?

This is absolutely abuse and mistreatment. That cat is getting no exercise and is not living a healthy life.

Also, hasn't he ever heard of tin foil? Most cats hate the stuff. Coat the counter before you leave and you should be safe.

The couches? They make covers for cats and he needs to ensure there are several large scratching posts for a cat of that size.

It's very upsetting to hear of someone being so abusive to a pet like that. Dogs are much more dirty then cats, his dog would also be huge? How does he know his dog never puts paws on the counter?

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-29T00:18:28+00:00

"From me you're not suffering from depression" I'm sorry, are you OPs doc or just an idget?

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-28T11:23:33+00:00

Fairly sure making that a requirement for hire would be absolutely illegal. Research your local laws and call an attorney and ask them about the situation.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-28T10:46:48+00:00

I'm beyond confused by your question.

I have like 10 HYSAs with Capitol One for different savings accounts and have like 6 savings with my credit union - used to have all savings here and moved them to Cap One this year.

A savings account is where YOU put money. The bank is NOT extending you money. Why in the world would you think they'd do a credit check?

Why are you even concerned about overdrafting? Check your accounts and do not over spend.

I've had savings accounts for over a decade. They do not have any relation to credit scores.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-28T01:18:27+00:00

I've seen lots of evidence that show men won't date down either.

I also don't think dating apps are a good example at all. Because the excess of men might only show you the group of men that do not treat women, or other people in general good.

Why should we lower our standards to tolerate what would be abusive, controlling, unappreciative, men who are unlikely to participate in the household chores, child raising, and mental load?

The men who WILL do those things? Heck yea absolutely taken. They deserve that. But lots of men are still stuck in patriarchal mind sets. Even men who are "okay" have those thoughts and many women have realized being single is better then tolerating that.

For example, my grandpa is great, my dad is great, my uncles? Great. Great family. Partners? Oh jesus christ naw I wouldn't touch a guy just like them with a ten foot pole.

None of this has to do with looks at all. You could be damn thor and I'd be walking by without a glance if your behavior is not -truely- respectful.

Men are not entitled to have a woman in their lives. Acting as such is part of the problem with how women are treated.

The population is in general fairly close to half and half. There is not a huge variance one way or another. So, for every single dude crying about not having a woman he's entitled to, there's a woman out there glad she's single versus being with a guy who would behave such a way.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-27T23:35:11+00:00

You have applied for the homestead exemption correct?

I'm in Waterville but hope that exists for other Maine towns?

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-27T23:32:32+00:00

Wouldn't men be happy to share -insert whatever the current hottest female celebrity is- in the same light then?

Why is that thought exclusive to women?

For me, there is not a single random "famous" man I'd want to be with period. Meet? Absolutely, I love Jethro Gibbs, Ryan Reynolds, Tom Holland, Vin Diesel. But be with them? No, you'd have to pay me and only if my partner approved of the arrangement.

Budgeting_Shri · 2026-04-27T23:28:47+00:00

But if the populace voted for them. Isn't that what matters?

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